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Just started watching the Welcome To Derry series for the first time and I’m honestly a little disappointed. I wouldn’t say it was horrible overall it definitely had some interesting aspects but what really disappointed me was the adult storyline. Maybe it’s just because I’m a teenager, therefore the teenage plot only interests me because I can at least relate to it a little, but the adult storyline and characters felt so underwhelming and confusing to me. And not to mention, a lot of the scenes even seemed… irrelevant overall? I haven’t finished the entire series yet but I tried to give the adult storyline a chance, forcing myself to get through the scenes but I eventually just accepted that it was too boring and I started to just skip them. As a person of color I do appreciate the representation of racism and systematic oppression in the adult storyline but even then I don’t think that was entirely accurate anyways, I think the way they showed people of color were treated back then was very sugar coated, as in real life it would’ve been a LOT worse, but I‘m still grateful they showed they were discriminated against even if the severity wasn’t accurate. Anyways what do you think? Did you enjoy the adult plot?

Just started watching the Welcome To Derry series for the first time and I’m honestly a little disappointed. I wouldn’t say it was horrible overall it definitely had some interesting aspects but what really disappointed me was the adult storyline. Maybe it’s just because I’m a teenager, therefore the teenage plot only interests me because I can at least relate to it a little, but the adult storyline and characters felt so underwhelming and confusing to me. And not to mention, a lot of the scenes even seemed… irrelevant overall? I haven’t finished the entire series yet but I tried to give the adult storyline a chance, forcing myself to get through the scenes but I eventually just accepted that it was too boring and I started to just skip them. As a person of color I do appreciate the representation of racism and systematic oppression in the adult storyline but even then I don’t think that was entirely accurate anyways, I think the way they showed people of color were treated back then was very sugar coated, as in real life it would’ve been a LOT worse, but I‘m still grateful they showed they were discriminated against even if the severity wasn’t accurate. Anyways what do you think? Did you enjoy the adult plot?

when are some parents going to realize that if they obsess over their child eating healthy and they install a fear or a shame of getting fat in their child from a very young age, that child is inevitably going to develop some sort of eating problem as a teenager and unfortunately even into adulthood? maybe even for the rest of their life?

all it does is backfire. for me, my emotionally abusive dad would never let me eat any sort of junk food from a young age, he specifically called it “fattening food”. and if he ever caught my mom letting me have “fattening food’s” like giving me a few oreos or something, he would get very angry and snatch it up and be like “what are you giving her those for?! It’s poison! You’re giving your daughter poison!” and he would yell and aggressively take them away to “save” me, right in front of me. like im actually about to cry writing this because how could you ever use such disgusting words when describing food like that in front of a child not thinking it would effect them? or maybe that’s exactly what he wanted, he wanted me to fear those foods, he wanted to give me an ed.

I have a severely autistic non verbal twin brother and he’s very overweight and my dad would point to him and angrily say “do you wanna end up fat like Larry? Look at him, he has a big belly. Do you wanna end up like that? Hm?” Technically my brother didn’t understand what he was saying as he doesn’t really have a concept of beauty standards or insults (I’m serious. other than “bad boy” “I’m mad at you” “no desert” (“desert” being plain cereal or smth), he doesn’t understand someone’s saying something negative towards him, so my dad took advantage of that, not that it’s relevant)

the gag is that my dad’s very overweight himself and whenever he’d take away any “poison” he caught me eating, I’m >!99%!< sure he’d just eat it himself, I never once saw him throwing it out nor did I ever see him putting it in the trash.

And guess what? It did backfire. The moment I gained an ounce of independence, where I could just go out by myself and go to the store, I did. And I went crazy. There was a point in my life where I was very overweight at age >!13!< and secretly eating 3 full meals a day along with >!6 donuts!<, like >!15 Oreos!<, an entire bag of chips, an entire bag of candy, a Twix bar, etc. Even when my stomach was beyond full and I was about to vomit and I was crying and writhing because of the pain I genuinely couldn’t stop and I didn’t know what was wrong with me, why I was doing this.

And then I found a way to lose weight quickly, and you can imagine what I did, starve myself. At age >!14!< I was obsessed with starving myself and losing weight quickly, I became underweight and feared sugary foods like crazy. But I didn’t even get to enjoy being skinny. At that point I had severe body dysmorphia and thought I looked very overweight when my stomach was literally flat and my ribs were showing and my collarbone’s were sharp and my arms were thin.

Now, I have this terrible cycle where I lose the weight and then gain it back. I starve and then I binge and it’s ruining my life. Right now I’m back to being overweight and it’s extremely hard to lose the weight, I can’t even maintain a regular weight, food is my only coping mechanism, it’s the only thing that makes me feel better. Only a few months ago I was >!30 pounds!< later. And it’s all his fault. If he had just taught me to have a balanced diet and never obsessed over my weight or my body or my diet I would’ve just turned out normal. Why the fuck would you do that to me? Why would you take your insecurities and let them out on me and use me as your puppet to get, what, the body you never got to have?? And he refuses to take accountability for the trauma he gave me. Fuck you.

(this is my first time posting on Reddit, I hope the story is nice and clear 😅)

Am I in the wrong for feeling offended that my friends mom refuses to pay for me?

I, F15 have a friend, also F15, whose mom forces me to pay her back whenever they get food.

For example, my friend invited me over to her house for a typical hangout; we usually go on a walk, make tiktoks, maybe go out and get some Starbucks together, I’ll possibly stay for dinner.

So I come over and we do all of those things and she tells me to stay over for dinner and her mom’s a good cook so I accept. But dinner comes around and she says they want to order food and I agree.

So the mom picks the restaurant and passes around her phone (using the app DoorDash) around to everyone in the family + me to choose what food we want.

The restaurant isn’t too cheap, most of the meals there were like $25+, BUT I’m a pretty picky eater and I just wanted the 14 dollar ham and cheese sandwich + fries meal, one of the cheapest items on the menu, but I was also purposely keeping it very cheap to be respectful.

I didn’t like the restaurant they chose as it was some sort of Latin restaurant, and cultural foods + being a picky eater don’t mesh well but it’s their house so I eagerly went along with whatever they wanted because I’m always respectful and kind.

Everyone else in the family chooses an actual $25 entree and even some sides (I know this because I got the phone last so I looked at all their choices out of curiosity and boredom).

Anyways the food eventually comes after like 2 hours (the restaurant was far, they ordered a lot, etc.), I’m starving, and me and the friend are home alone because the rest of her family went to go pick up their dad from wherever, so we get the food from the delivery guy and start eating our meals, while watching a show of her choice because she always refuses to watch what I want to watch so I just go along with what she wants.

After I’m about done with my meal, my mom pulls up to the house to pick me up since it was like 11:30 pm, so I pack up to leave but before I can get out of the house, my friend says, “oh you need to give the money my mom paid on DoorDash for your food,” and I’m kind of shocked and confused, her mom, a grown woman, wants her teenage daughters friend to give her a lousy 14 bucks for a sandwich?? But being the people pleaser I am, I smile and am like “oh okay!” and take out that amount from my wallet and give it to her (thankfully I had just enough) and leave.

But that right there made me feel extremely disrespected and offended for so many reasons.

First of all, you couldn’t have warned me beforehand you were going to make me pay and it wasn’t going to be your treat? Because 99% of the time when YOU invite someone over and YOU want to order food without warning, it means YOU’RE going to pay, it implies that (I’m talking specifically about the dynamic with a child/teenager and their friends family). A child’s family always pays for their child’s friends food, that is the universally expected and respectful thing to do.

Second of all, the dad has no idea that the mom does this. When I go out with my friend and her dad only and they want to go get something to eat, he always automatically pays for my food, as he should. It’s only the mom that makes me pay her back right after, the dad is never present when this happens, he’s always out and unaware.

Third of all, my parents always pay for my friend’s food whenever she comes over like they do with any of my other friends. And all my other friend’s parents always pay for my food, even friends families who lived in poverty always paid for my food when THEY had invited ME to eat, especially when it’s just a cheap meal that doesn’t effect them at all.

And no, they are not poor, her and I are both from regular middle-middle class families, in fact I’d argue that she has nicer clothes, electronics, etc. than I do so she might even be a bit wealthier.

It’s not the fact that I lost 14 dollars, it’s entirely the concept of the situation that’s hurting me; you refuse to be kind and respectful and pay a tiny amount for your daughters friend because you’re that cheap?? Maybe it’s just my anxiety but it made me feel very embarrassed and not at home at all.

extra: this isn’t too relevant but I mentioned subtly somewhere in the story, that my friend is a bit bossy (refuses to watch what I want it has to be what she wants) and I also mentioned that I was a picky eater. While I was picking what I wanted to eat on her moms phone, she got upset with me for wanting the ham and cheese sandwich with a side of fries instead of wanting something more cultural like her, thinking what I wanted to eat was childish and stupid and pressured me several times firmly to get this other meal (that was like $25) which looked very unappetizing to me but I kept on gently saying no in different ways and she gave up.

So upon finding out that they were going to make me pay for my meal, it angers me at the thought I could’ve gotten the meal she practically forced me to get, eat it but not enjoy it at all, just to have to pay an entire $25 for a meal that i absolutely hated and didn’t even want to get in the first place. If you knew I had to pay this entire time, why the hell would you force me to get a more expensive meal that I don’t even like?? That’s so disrespectful and weird.

Anyways what do you think? Am I overreacting?

(Edit: this is some account I made for some reason 3 years ago and then deleted the app and I guess Reddit randomized the username? It’s ugly so I made a new account u/prettyprincessnikita where im gonna post my stories about the bossy friend, I just posted another one 5 minutes ago check it out!!)

Edit: guy this story is the first time it ever happened and anytime after that would be an in-escapable scenario where we would be either driving to or driving home from somewhere and they just stopped at a fast food restaurant, that happened twice after the first time.