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I (18F) have a close friend (17F) who recently told her parents she’s pregnant and it did not go well at all. They ended up kicking her out the same night after a huge argument.

She called me crying, saying she had nowhere to go and asked if she could stay at my house for a while.

At first I felt really bad and said yes, because I didn’t want her to be on her own in that situation.

But when I asked for details so I could explain it to my parents, she got really defensive and said she didn’t want me telling them she was pregnant. She wanted me to just say she was “staying over because of family issues.”

That’s when I started feeling uncomfortable.

My parents are strict about who stays over, especially without context, and I knew if I hid something that big and they found out later, I’d be in serious trouble. Also, I felt like I was being put in the middle of something I wasn’t supposed to lie about.

So I told her I couldn’t let her stay unless my parents knew the truth.

She got upset and said I was abandoning her when she had nowhere else to go, and that I was making it worse for her by not helping. She ended up leaving and going to another friend’s house instead.

Now she’s not talking to me, and some people are saying I should’ve just “covered for her this one time” because of what she’s going through.

I feel bad because she clearly is going through a lot, but I also didn’t feel right lying to my parents or hiding something that serious.

AITA for refusing unless I could be honest?

I (18F) have a close friend (17F) who recently told me she thinks she might be pregnant. She was freaking out, crying, the whole thing, and made me promise not to tell anyone—especially her boyfriend (18M).

At first I agreed because I felt bad for her. But days went by and she still hadn’t told him. Meanwhile, she kept talking about how scared she was and what could happen, but also said she “wasn’t ready to deal with it yet.”

The thing is, he had no idea. He was still acting completely normal, joking around, making plans, everything.

I started feeling really uncomfortable because if she is pregnant, it affects him too. And I kept thinking about how I’d feel if I were in his position and everyone knew except me.

I tried to convince her multiple times to tell him, but she refused and got mad at me for even bringing it up.

So I ended up telling him myself.

I didn’t make it dramatic—I just said she thought she might be pregnant and that he should talk to her. He was shocked, obviously, and confronted her about it.

Now everything has blown up. She’s furious at me for breaking her trust and says I completely betrayed her. Some of our friends agree and are saying it wasn’t my place no matter what.

I get that it was her situation, but I also feel like he had a right to know if it could affect him too.

Now I might’ve lost one of my closest friends over this.

AITA for telling him when she wouldn’t?

I (18F) recently moved into a new house with my family. When we first moved in, my parents told me I could have the bigger bedroom since I’m the oldest living at home and have the most stuff. I was really excited and spent time setting everything up exactly how I wanted.

About a month later, my sister (20F) came back from college for the summer. Out of nowhere, my parents told me they want me to switch rooms with her because “she deserves more space” while she’s home.

I said no.

I already unpacked everything, decorated, and got comfortable. Plus, they literally told me the room was mine. It’s not like she lives here full-time anymore either.

Now my parents are saying I’m being selfish and that it’s “just a room,” but to me it’s the principle of it. They made a promise and are now going back on it.

My sister is also annoyed at me and keeps making comments about how I’m being immature and difficult.

I get that she’s older, but I don’t think it’s fair to take something away from me after I was already told it was mine.

So now everyone’s upset with me because I won’t switch.

AITA for refusing to give up my room?

I (18F) live at home, and about 5 months ago my cousin (16F) moved in with us because of issues with her family. At first I was actually excited—I thought it would be fun having someone close to my age around.

But over time, things started to feel really off.

My parents treat her better than me. They let her get away with stuff I would 100% get in trouble for, and anytime we disagree, they take her side without even asking me what happened. Even small things somehow end up being blamed on me.

On top of that, she’s told them things about me that aren’t true—like that I’m being rude or ignoring her—and they just believe her. No questions asked.

A couple weeks ago, my mom sat me down and said I needed to “be more welcoming” and “stop making things difficult” for my cousin… in my own house. I tried to explain my side, but they said I was being dramatic.

Since then, I’ve started keeping to myself more because I honestly don’t feel comfortable anymore. But now they’re using that against me too, saying I’m “isolating myself” and acting cold.

I haven’t yelled or caused a huge fight—I’ve just kind of pulled back and stopped trying as hard. But now my parents are acting like I’m the problem.

AITA for distancing myself instead of continuing to try when it feels like they’ve already chosen her over me?

AITA for feeling like my new friend is turning my entire friend group against me, even though I’ve known most of them for years?

So I (16F) have a friend group I’ve been really close with for 8+ years. About 4 months ago, a girl (16F), let’s call her “Belly,” moved here and started hanging out with us. We all tried to include her so she wouldn’t feel left out, and at first everything seemed fine.

Recently, though, things have completely fallen apart.

At my birthday party, she started telling people in my friend group that I’m a “horrible person” and claiming I’ve done a bunch of messed up things. One of the biggest things she said was that I called DHR on her abusive mom just to “start drama,” which is not true at all—she actually asked me multiple times to make that report, and there were other people present when she said it.

She also told people I talk badly about her behind her back, which I haven’t done. I’ve genuinely tried to be welcoming since she joined our group and never had an issue with her before this.

After the party, things got worse. Two of my friends stopped talking to me and basically dropped me. I’ve tried multiple times to explain my side and show that I’m not fake or the person she’s describing, but they still believe her over me—even though I’ve been friends with them for over 8 years.

Now a lot of my friend group is split, and it feels like everything is falling apart over things I didn’t do. Even some of our parents have noticed there was never this kind of drama before she joined our group, and some don’t even know who she is.

I feel like I’m losing my whole friend group over false accusations, but I also don’t want to keep chasing people who don’t believe me anymore.

AITA for wanting to distance myself from her and the situation instead of trying to keep fixing it?

I (16F) feel like I’m losing my mind over this situation and I need outside opinions.

So I have a friend (also 16F) who I’ve been close with for about a year. We hang out all the time, I’ve been there for her through a lot, and I genuinely thought we were good. Recently though, things have been getting weird.

A couple weeks ago, we were at a small get-together with a few friends. Nothing crazy, just music, snacks, and talking. At one point we were all joking around and taking pictures. I took a few on my phone too, but nothing embarrassing or anything I would ever post without asking.

The next day, I woke up to multiple messages from people asking me why I was “being fake” and “talking behind people’s backs.” I was completely confused. Turns out, my friend had told people that I was making fun of them at the hangout and taking pictures to “make fun of them later,” which is literally not true.

I confronted her privately and asked why she would say that. She brushed it off and said I was “taking it too seriously” and that she was “just telling people how it came across.” But it didn’t “come across” that way—I wasn’t doing that at all.

Since then, a few people in our group have been distant with me, and I feel like my reputation got messed up over something I didn’t even do. What makes it worse is that she acts completely normal to my face, like nothing happened, but I know she was the one who started all of it.

I didn’t go off on her or anything—I just distanced myself because I don’t want more drama. But now she’s telling people I’m “ignoring her for no reason” and making me look like the bad guy again.

I feel hurt because I would never do that to her, and I don’t understand why she’s twisting things like this. At the same time, part of me wonders if I should have handled it differently or said more instead of just backing away.

AITA for distancing myself instead of trying to fix things with her?

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I (16F) am in high school, and my principal, counselor, and SRO have had issues with me since last year when I was caught with a vape.

A few months ago, the same thing happened, and I got OSS again. But about a month ago, my friends and I were doing pre-shower makeup—just colorful eyeshadow.

I used a dark purple shade. One friend used pink, another used blue. I asked them not to post the photo because I felt awkward, but one friend posted it anyway. A week later, people accused me of blackface.

At my birthday party, we did a TikTok dance, and Haiden Powell a girl from school made a video calling it a blackface party, even though five Black girls were in the video. I am not racist at all. My mom called a deputy, and he told us to talk to the SRO

. When I went to the counselor to discuss it privately, she said she’d see me in 10 minutes, but after an hour, she called me down—and I was ambushed by the counselor, principal, assistant principal, and sheriff. They demanded I explain what blackface was, and I told them about the makeup. They said, “You know d*** well it’s blackface,” (yes they said d*** well) but I had no idea how they got that photo.

I told them it was on Snapchat, but they wouldn’t explain how they had it. Then the principal asked me why all my friends are Black, and I was so confused.

I said, “I get along better with colored people,” not realizing how wrong that was. They lost it and called it racist. I kept telling them I wasn’t supposed to talk without my parents, but they got mad, and I got sent out. They said I was getting OSS again.

I tried to take my meds on time, but the counselor said, “I have a PhD; you can wait.” I was crying after, took my meds, and went back, but they said, “We have the video,” and wouldn’t say how. After that, I emailed them for more info, but they didn’t respond. Now, I’m going virtual, and I’m trying to get the deputy, the counselor, and maybe the principal fired.

AITA for being upset when I didn’t mean to hurt anyone, but I feel like they’re treating me unfairly?

This weekend was supposed to be my girlfriend’s birthday party. At first, it was just supposed to be me, her, and Layla—we were super excited because we were going to a water park, just the three of us.

But then, out of nowhere, she invited three older teens—like 18 and 19 years old. And from that moment on, everything changed. She only asked them what they wanted to do and ignored me and Layla.

For example, Layla and I asked if she wanted to go down the big slide with us. She said, “Yeah,” but then asked one of the older girls if they wanted to go. That girl said no, so we asked again, and my girlfriend said, “Yeah, I’ll be there in a second.” So, we climbed up the stairs with our floaties, and she never came. Later, she said, “Sorry, the older girls wanted to do the lazy river,” even though we’d already been there for an hour.

After that, Layla and I told her mom—not to be petty, but because we felt left out. Her mom didn’t say anything to us directly, but later we saw her pull my girlfriend aside and tell her, “This little group thing needs to stop. You all need to include everybody.”

After that, my girlfriend got mad at me and flipped me off in the car when her mom wasn’t looking.

Then, when we were leaving, Layla and I asked if she wanted to have a sleepover at my house. She said she couldn’t—she had plans. But then Layla saw that my girlfriend was texting one of the older girls—who was about to turn 20—saying she wanted to have a sleepover after all, and to hang out the next day. Originally, me and my girlfriend had plans the next day, but she canceled for some random excuse. After all of this, we stayed dating, but I’m really questioning it now.

Should I break up with her? And AITAH for being so upset about all of this?