u/SelectionSouthern725

Has anyone else followed her story? Read her book, I am so saddened to learn about her death and have to wonder if what she went through with her mother and family is what pushed her to the edge.
They say it was an overdose, and when I watched one of her interviews, she seemed very much still in it, like she hadn’t gotten through the healing stage yet. I know it, that moment where you feel you may never surmount what was harmed and taken from you.
Just wanted to discuss it and if anyone else had thoughts about this

In a very typical narc fashion, my mom called me in full panic today complaining about how the free 550$ air condition I gave her was missing the hose.
I sent her a link to go buy it at the store after I was attacked and blamed for giving her junk. I told her OK I can just sell it! She hung up.
I felt proud for standing up for myself.

So yes, we unexpectedly got hit with a wave of humidity today and my mom can’t handle it.
I immediately recognized that she was out to CUT someone for it, because anytime she is not okay everyone else suffers and is to blame.
She eventually called back few hours later to show how she successfully installed bc she doesn’t wait for anybody!!!! She made sure to throw at me the “well nobody else was going to do it!”
in this 2 min call she found a way to make herself the hero, going “I always think ahead” before hanging up again.

What a psycho!
Even though I was able to stand my ground and recognize the patterns, just hell dealing with a monster like this. I’m writing this post to remind myself I am not dealing with this alone.

Its summer! It’s not supposed to be a crisis but everything is with her.

Anyone else have typical narc situation they need to get off their chest?

I am just slowly recognizing that everyone around me only cares about themselves. Friends, bf, neighbours, strangers, everything works well if you are pleasing and kind. We all know how to "act", but it feels like no one actually cares about anyone else's existence.

I genuinely am curious about other people. I ask questions because I find meeting people and getting to know someone interesting, I love to learn.

But lately I feel like I am the only one, that everyone is actually just self obsessed and do not care about anyone but themselves, they just pretend to.

Why are people like this? Everyone prioritizes themselves first, yes, but I mean there is nothing beyond this "me me me, oh I should ask a question to fake interest, okay back to me".

I find that people genuinely dont care about other people because they see them as competition and then the other half need so much attention, that they don't even acknowledge other people at all.

Is anyone else caught between these two extremes?

Does anyone actually receive interest, support and/or genuinely feel loved by people around them?

If you do, do you think you are the one that takes and doesn't give back?

I feel like everyone wants to believe they are this selfless giver because it creates a nice image. Are there people who actually care for the sake of caring?

I am feeling overwhelmed by the horrible existence of people.