u/Separate_Magician741

This was my first ever casual situation after getting out of a long-term relationship, so maybe I’m just inexperienced.
We slept together once and agreed we’d keep it casual. Afterwards I told him I wanted consistency (not a relationship, just if we’re doing this then let’s actually do it regularly).
A few days later **he** messaged **me** saying he wanted to see me that night. I said I’m going out with friends but I’ll let you know later if I’m free.. HE SAID HE WANTED TO SEE ME THAT NIGHT THATS WHAT MAKES IT WORSE.. HE SUGGESTED IT FIRST
I’m not even going to lie… I was drunk and down bad. Earlier that night I’d even sent him a thirsty text saying I wanted to “*slap the tip on my tongue*” 🤦🏾‍♀️ (yes, I know… spare me 😂).
Later I asked if he was actually trying to see me, shared my location and called him three times because I thought we were linking.
Instead he replied saying he was out, sent a bunch of flag emojis of his country because they won a World Cup game
I got annoyed and removed him from Snapchat.
The next day he texted my number asking why I’d removed him. I told him because he’d pissed me off.
His replies were basically:
“Cos I wasn’t free lmao.”
“Oh well. Tough.”
“Why are you having a sulk?”
Then after I admitted I was drunk and wanted to see him he said, “Minor. I guess the D was good lol. Next time we’ll arrange something.”
The thing is… I don’t even feel angry anymore.
I just feel like I’ve inflated this man’s ego for absolutely no reason. His responses have given me the biggest ick.
I called him three times, shared my location, admitted I wanted to see him, sent a horny text earlier in the night… all for someone who couldn’t even say, “Sorry, I was busy.”
The attraction has genuinely disappeared. I don’t even want to sleep with him anymore.
Has anyone else ever completely gone off someone after realising they were doing way more than the other person? Or am I just cringing because I’ve embarrassed myself? 😭

This is my first ever sneaky link, so I genuinely don’t know what’s considered normal.
Before this, I was in a long-term relationship where I lost my virginity, so I’ve never done anything casual before.
I met this guy last week and we slept together. We both established beforehand that it was just going to be casual and nothing more. We’re seeing each other again this Saturday because he told me he’s off after Friday, so we made plans.
We did text after we slept together, but we haven’t spoken on the phone or anything like that. The texting kind of naturally fizzled out, and we haven’t spoken for the last two days. We’re basically just waiting until Saturday to see each other again.
I know it’s casual, so I’m not expecting relationship-level communication, but it still feels a bit strange because I’m not used to this.
What’s confusing me is that he’s also said things that don’t seem that casual. For example, he jokingly said, “Damn, so I’m just a dick appointment now?” He also knows I’m on Hinge and told me not to sleep with other men. When I told him I was going on dates, he said I should call him afterwards so he could pick me up.
So now I’m confused because on one hand we don’t really keep in touch much between seeing each other, but on the other hand he’ll make comments like that. Part of me is thinking… isn’t that a bit possessive? We’re not together, so I don’t really get it.
For people who’ve had casual situations or FWB arrangements, is this pretty normal? Do you usually just let the conversation die until you meet again? And are comments like his just flirty banter, or would you see them as a bit possessive too?
I’m probably overthinking it because this is my first casual situation after years in one relationship, so I’d appreciate some outside opinions.

So I met this guy online, we’re the same age and from the same city. We both made it clear from the start we’re not looking for anything serious, just casual sex, and we were on the same page.
We ended up meeting one night. We went to his place, drank, did balloons, etc. I told him I wanted something consistent (like consistent casual sex), and he agreed.
We had sex — it was good but only one round. During the night he kept saying he felt sick from the balloons even before we fucked. At around 4am he said he might need to go home because he felt ill, but he also works very early (like 4–5am starts), so I don’t think that part was a lie. He did also tell me beforehand not to come that late, but earlier in messages he’d said “maybe I can stay longer,” so it was a bit mixed.
After sex I told him I was a bit disappointed (because I wanted more rounds), and he apologised saying “sorry I disappointed you, what can I do?” and even said “plenty more where that came from.” Then he asked “did you get a teaser today?” so still very sexual/flirty energy.
He’s still messaging me after, like asking how things were the next day, but I feel like the energy has changed a bit. Before we met his replies were super fast, now they’re noticeably slower and more inconsistent.
There was also one moment I didn’t reply and he replied “ok” then later again, and I just said I was tired. So now I’m wondering if I messed up the vibe or if he’s just not that interested anymore.
Also after everything, he booked me a cab home, walked me to it, hugged me goodbye, all normal.
So I’m confused because:
he clearly enjoyed the sex (he was saying it felt good, complimenting me, etc.)
he still messages me and asks questions
but he’s slower and not really trying to set up another meet
So I don’t know if:
he still wants to hook up again but is just being chill
the novelty wore off after we met
he just wants to keep it texting/flirty but not actually meet again
Am I overthinking this or is the energy shift actually a sign?
**Also genuinely asking… is it too much to ask for consistent dick in this economy or what**

At what point do you tell a guy you’re only interested in something casual/sexual? And how do you say it without killing the vibe or sounding harsh? Or even sounding like I’m dying for it? What do I say? I just want constant sex from u omg why is it so hard to say? I don’t wanna talk to you for weeks, we’ve both established we’re not looking for anything serious… sorry guys I’ve got a very active sex drive, like… all the time. No man to show for it, but it’s like yeah I know I can do it with any guy but I just want ONE! Like I’ve only had 1 previous relationship and it didn’t last long, I don’t know why I feel embarassed to say this but I’d like a guy I can practice on?? I’m very sexually inexperienced everything was very vanilla between me and my ex. I have a lot of frustration built up.. okay I’m gonna shut up now.

I’ve been talking to a guy for a few days and we connected really well from the start. We spoke on the phone for hours at a time, had great chemistry, flirted a lot, and the conversations always flowed naturally.
He would ask me things like, “Do you talk to other guys like this?” and “Have you connected with someone this well before?” He also told me that he hadn’t really found this kind of connection with many women. We had conversations about where things could potentially go, and at one point he even said that he wasn’t friendzoning me at all, but if things didn’t work out romantically he’d still love to keep me in his life as a friend because he genuinely enjoyed talking to me.
Two days ago he called me while I was at work. I didn’t answer because I was busy, but later that evening I messaged him saying, “Hey, I’m too tired to talk tonight, I’ll call you tomorrow.” He replied saying “okay.”
The following day I called him twice. Once earlier in the day and then again later in the evening after the football. He didn’t answer either call.
Now it’s the next day, it’s already evening, and he still hasn’t called me back or sent me a message.
What’s confusing me is that before this he was very consistent. He’d call me on his breaks, we’d have long conversations, and he seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me.
Am I being ghosted, or is it too early to call it that?
For context, I’m not planning on calling or messaging again. I’ve already called twice and feel like the ball is in his court.
Like are we gonna act like we don’t have our phones glued onto our hands 24/7? You’re ignoring me it’s cool though.

I (25F) matched with a guy on a dating app about a year ago and we went on one date.

The date itself was a bit odd. He was running errands about an hour outside London (we’re both from London btw) and I basically tagged along. During the date I realised the errand involved him dropping off DRUGS, which in hindsight probably should have been a bigger concern than I made it at the time. The place we were meant to eat ended up being closed, so we got fast food and sat in the car. We did kiss at the end and there was definitely chemistry.

A week later I got back with my ex and stopped talking to him.

Fast forward a year and we’ve matched multiple times since then. Apparently he’s been matching with me for a while and I’ve ignored most of them. This time he messaged me saying something along the lines of, “You kissed me and disappeared.”

Since reconnecting he’s been very flirty. He remembers the kiss from a year ago, asked when he was seeing me again, joked about “kidnapping” me this weekend, and sent a voice note saying he definitely needs another kiss.

Here’s where I’m confused.

On our first date, he randomly asked me if I knew a girl from a certain part of London. He said she wasn’t his ex, but then told me he was talking to her while he was in jail and even had a picture of her on his wall. I found it strange because I hadn’t asked about her and he brought her up himself.

What made it even stranger is that one of the first things he said was that me and this girl looked alike and came from a similar background. At the time I brushed it off, but looking back I’m wondering if that’s weird. Is he interested in me because he likes me, or because I remind him of someone else who was important to him?

The other thing bothering me is communication. Last time we spoke, everything was through Snapchat. This time around, he kept asking for my Snapchat again. I eventually told him I don’t really use Snapchat and gave him my number instead. He said, “Of course I want it.”

So I gave him my number.

But he’s still messaging me on Snapchat.

I then jokingly said, “You do know you’ve got my number, right? I’m not really a Snap girl like that 😭” and he opened it and didn’t reply.

Maybe I’m overthinking, but I can’t shake the feeling that something is off. I understand people use Snapchat, but at 25 years old, if you’ve got someone’s number and you’re genuinely interested, why keep the conversation on an app where messages disappear?

Part of me is wondering if he has a girlfriend, is still involved with an ex, or is talking to multiple women and prefers Snapchat because it’s more convenient and leaves less of a trail.

The other thing I’m wondering is whether I’m reading too much into the similarities between me and the other girl. Is it normal to tell someone on a first date that they look like another woman you’ve been talking to? Am I overthinking the possibility that I’m a replacement for someone else?

Am I being unreasonable here? Does this sound suspicious to anyone else, or am I creating a story out of a few unrelated things?