u/SerendipitousCrow

It's my birthday on Saturday and I have no idea what to do

I normally spend my birthday on a solo trip abroad but this year I'm on a course for work and can't miss the final day of it on Friday.

I've left it a bit late to book leave next week.

I've got a few friends but none I'm super close to and all are busy with their families etc on the weekend while I'm single

I'm quite happy doing things alone anyway and have always been this way

I'm thinking maybe cafe breakfast out, then doing a day trip to a city I don't know or some nice woodland, look around book shops, maybe a museum etc. Then home with a beer or two and read or play ps5

I'm based in Milton Keynes if anyone has place suggestions. Happy to drive an hour and a half maybe?

I went to Cambridge a few months ago and know Oxford well. Maybe up the M1 to somewhere in the midlands? I could take a train into London fairly easily but don't know what to do when I'm there

So I function pretty well. I live alone, drive a car, and hold down a job etc. But one thing I cannot do is haircuts. I just always put them off and my hair annoys me when it gets too long, especially as it's very thick. I can't bear hair touching my face so it's always in a bun which takes a lot of hair bands. It's been at least 18 months since the last cut.

So I moved house about a year ago and was researching where to go. And I found a salon that advertised themselves as a "haven of neurodiversity". It was off to a good start because I was able to book online and knew the price and who would be cutting my hair at the time of booking.

And I'm so disappointed.

I asked for my hair to be just long enough to put in a ponytail. This has previously been around collarbone length. And the woman didn't appear to understand this until a woman who appeared to be the owner intervened and told her to cut it to the shoulder

I'm not sure what I expected but it wasn't a neurodiverse haven. I understand they have to pin hair up out of the way during the cut but I spent most of the time with my hair pinned directly on/in my face which was awful and I was trying not to scream

Then she finally finished and went "okay?" And took the apron off fairly quickly. I said it was hard to tell until I tried to put it in a ponytail. It was still fairly mid length but she said I couldn't go any shorter. And I should have been more assertive because it's a good length pony tail. I can still form a bun FFS.

I didn't feel listened to at all and I'm angry at myself for not being more assertive. Previous places have let me pull it into a pony then gone a bit shorter and repeated until it was the length I wanted. It's not even sitting at the shoulder, it's longer than the shoulder

I guess they really meant they specialise in little boys that can't sit still

At least it wasn't that expensive. Sigh. I guess I'm going to drive 40 minutes to where I used to go next time

Edit and the website goes on about how they do extended slots so they have time to do things at a relaxed pace and listen to what you want.

I work in a hospital and had a kindly older gentleman do voluntary work for me

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He kept insisting that I must have dinner with him and his wife and I accepted

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This then turned into it being every couple of weeks and I found it overwhelming

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I didn't dislike their company but was uncomfortable with the expectation and frequency

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I managed to lie and put a stop to it by saying my manager had said it wasn't appropriate for me to hang out socially with a volunteer

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Unfortunately now for reasons he's had to stop volunteering for me and now he's invited me out again

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I really don't want to get back in the pattern of these dinners but don't want to hurt his feelings because I was very grateful for his kindness when he was volunteering for me.

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Genuinely feel stuck and don't know what to say. If I say I'm busy it'll only delay it

Hi

Currently driving a fiat 500 and want something that's not as underpowered as I commute on dual carriageways and do a fair few motorway miles

I'm looking at the swift sports, something with at least 100bhp

I've got an awkward parking situation at home. I live in terraced streets with back alleys. Some houses like mine have created parking spots 90⁰ to the alley by shortening their gardens. The problem is the alley isn't wide. So I've got to reverse 90⁰ from an alley barely a car and a half wide

My fiat can do this and my neighbour's polo can do it but I'm worried about buying a car I can't manage to reverse tightly in

When googling the swift is actually meant to have a smaller turning circle than my fiat 500. Can anyone speak to this?

And does anyone know is there much difference between the 1.0 boosterjet and the 1.4? There seems to be a lot more 1.0s available

Is it better to go for the hybrid or the ICE? How does the fuel economy compare?

Thanks

Managing well somehow without binging and after a few weeks down started counting calories to try a small deficit

It's been a long week. I want to treat myself. Normally that would be junk food. Instead I've had a nice dinner and put clean PJ's on and watched telly and I'm not feral but feel like I haven't had a treat and want a treat. But I have no idea how?

I know people talk about treating themselves to self care. Do a face mask, paint their nails etc. But I'm not girly at all.