I [28M] love that my girlfriend [32F] has gained some weight. Should I tell her?
My girlfriend [32F] and I [28M] have been together for about five years, and we have a very close, loving relationship.
She got a new job recently that requires less movement. Over the past little while, she has put on around 5–10 kg (about 10–20 lb). She's acknowledged it herself and has suggested she might exercise more. Whenever the topic comes up, I just tell her she's beautiful (which is completely true).
The thing is, I genuinely find the extra weight incredibly attractive. I love that her curves are a little fuller and she's softer to cuddle. There are even things about her that she's probably self-conscious about that I find really beautiful, like a slight muffin top and a little belly pouch. I have also noticed how much "grabbier" I am during intimate moments so she may have already picked up a little on how I feel.
I really want to tell her how much I love her body now. On one hand, I know she's been feeling a bit self-conscious, and I wonder if hearing how attractive I find her would make her feel better. At the same time, I'm worried that bringing it up might reinforce the fact she has gained weight, or make her feel like I'm focusing on her weight more than on her. Plus, on the other hand, I don't want her to feel like I'm discouraging her from losing weight if that's what she wants.
At the end of the day, her happiness and comfort matters more to me than my personal preference. If she loses the weight, I'll support her completely. I just don't know whether telling her right now how attractive I find her would be reassuring to hear?
TLDR: I love the additional weight my girlfriend has put on. Should I tell her how I feel or no?