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Looking for outside perspective from people who know Reiki ethics better than I do.

Someone I know is a massage therapist who also practices Reiki (Level 1 and 2 training, started last year). He's incorporated Reiki into massage sessions with clients, and during sessions tells clients he can "channel" their deceased loved ones — energy work and a psychic reading layered on top of the bodywork.

What concerns me most isn't just that this is happening — it's the pattern of how. The Reiki and the "channeling" seem to function as the on-ramp: it creates an intense, fast emotional bond with clients — she feels deeply seen, connected to someone she's lost, energetically bonded to him — and that bond is what turns into a sexual relationship shortly after.

This isn't one instance; I have reason to believe it's a repeated pattern with clients, including some quite young clients who appear to be in vulnerable emotional states (grief, personal crises) at the exact moment the "channeling" starts.

Setting aside the personal/marital side (he is married, and some of these women are too) and the massage licensing side (separate process, aware of my options there) — my question here is specifically about the Reiki angle: Is using Reiki/energy work combined with claimed psychic channeling to build emotional intimacy with a client — as a pathway into a sexual relationship — a recognized ethical violation in Reiki practice? Or is the "energetic bond" language just normal Reiki culture that gets misread?

Does the Reiki community treat this differently than a garden-variety therapist/client boundary violation, given the "channeling the dead" element specifically?

Would a Reiki master or teacher have any real mechanism to act on this if reported, or is there essentially no accountability once someone's trained?

Trying to figure out if this rises to something the Reiki community would take seriously as an abuse of the practice, or if I'm off base.

Honest input welcome, including if you think this isn't as serious as I think it is.

I found out my husband has been in an inappropriate relationship with his therapist. She came to his place of work and received a 90-minute massage from him — it's in his massage booking system under her name. He lied to my face when I asked him directly if it had ever happened.

I found a journal where he wrote extensively about his romantic feelings toward her — physical responses, emotional intensity, describing her in ways that made clear this is not a normal therapeutic relationship.

They text constantly outside of sessions. She sends him memes at 6am, reacts to his intimate personal disclosures about nudity and shame with 'that gave me chills,"

We also attended a yoga and psychedelics class together and she was there. She hugged him warmly when we arrived and they participated in the psychedelics experience together — while I did not.

She also told him that spouses who question holistic beliefs are trying to belittle and control — essentially positioning me as the enemy while he's in a vulnerable mental state. She's supporting plant based medicine vs. Prescribed mood stabilizers for someone with adhd, ocd and depression.

She holds a professional therapy license in Arizona and has clear ethical obligations she is violating. I have documented evidence of all of it.

I'm trying to figure out the right timing to report her since he will know I filed and life at home might get miserable for me.

I found out my husband has been in an inappropriate relationship with his therapist. She came to his place of work and received a 90-minute massage from him — it's in his massage booking system under her name. He lied to my face when I asked him directly if it had ever happened.

I found a journal where he wrote extensively about his romantic feelings toward her — physical responses, emotional intensity, describing her in ways that made clear this is not a normal therapeutic relationship.

They text constantly outside of sessions. She sends him memes at 6am, reacts to his intimate personal disclosures about nudity and shame with 'that gave me chills,"

We also attended a yoga and psychedelics class together and she was there. She hugged him warmly when we arrived and they participated in the psychedelics experience together — while I did not.

She also told him that spouses who question holistic beliefs are trying to belittle and control — essentially positioning me as the enemy while he's in a vulnerable mental state. She's supporting plant based medicine vs. Prescribed mood stabilizers for someone with adhd, ocd and depression.

She holds a professional therapy license in Arizona and has clear ethical obligations she is violating. I have documented evidence of all of it.

I'm trying to figure out the right timing to report her since he will know I filed and life at home might get miserable for me.