u/ShadowDanteFan

I was in a long distance relationship and my girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago and blocked me on all socials. These past few weeks have been torture and I keep thinking about her and missing her. I wanna move on but I just can’t, I loved her so much and I really thought I could have a future with her. Now it feels like I have nothing. I’m unemployed because I also lost my job recently. I’m just rotting at home.

I live in Melbourne Australia and she lives in U.S. Florida. I’ve been feeling bad because whenever I work, that is a lot of time we miss together. Sometimes she’s asleep by the time I get back or busy with something else. For context, we like playing DnD. She really loves it, we play it with our friend group and I quite enjoy it too. Our friends ship our characters, and sometimes she likes roleplaying individually with me with just our characters.

I work both weekends every week and I have an 8 hour shift of Sunday. I got off work at 5:00 pm my time, from about 5:30-11:00 pm we were basically roleplaying nonstop including while I was at the pub with my parents, going on my phone to text back and forth. I feel bad if I don’t respond to her immediately. I got home and we continued until she passed out.

I woke up the next day and it was Monday, I had a day off. The whole day from 8:00 am to almosr 1:00 am my time we roleplayed non stop. The longest gaps we had without texting was maybe 20 minutes and that’s cause I had to have breakfast/dinner with my family. While I was doing other stuff such as brushing my teeth, even in and out of the shower, getting dressed, doing my bed, even going to the mall, back at home etc. it was non stop texting about DnD. She didn’t fall asleep, she stayed up all night for this, and even when she had class at 11:00 pm my time that day, we still continued until eventually I had to tell her I needed to sleep.

It’s Tuesday, I have another 8 hour shift today, and we’ve still been going since at least 12:00 pm today.

I’m just really exhausted and fatigued. Not just that but I have to actually engage, keep up, think of creative stuff. I know this is my fault because I’m too soft and I don’t know how to say no, but I also know how much she loves DnD as a hobby and doing it with me. I’m just really shocked she’s wanted to keep it going for this long, I was waiting for her to either sleep or have class or studying. I don’t know how she just didn’t sleep and even continued to text while she was in class, all for this one hobby. I also know she gets upset whenever our group has to miss a session. After work today and I go to bed we’re already gonna have our session anyways tomorrow morning.

Long distance relationship, from (18M) Melbourne Victoria Australia to (21F) U.S. Florida. My girlfriend’s birthday is today and she turns 21 and I feel so awful because I have to work. I’ve literally been waiting for her birthday for months, I wanted to do something special for her, whatever she wanted. I promised her that I would. But I won’t get the chance because I have to work Sundays and a long day at that (9-5). It makes me feel like an awful, neglectful boyfriend, like I’m choosing my job over her. This is her special day and I can’t be there for her. She said to me it’s okay but it doesn’t feel okay because I don’t want to let her down or disappoint her, it’s not fair for her. I can’t sleep and I can’t stop crying over it. I won’t be able to stop thinking about it tomorrow when I’m in work, and by the time I get home, not only will it be the next day for her but she’ll probably be asleep. It’s not like she’ll get another 21st birthday. I’m panicking and I don’t know how to stop.

I live in Australia while my girlfriend lives in the USA. We met online, exchanged Discord, phone numbers, Snapchat, Instagram etc. and have been together for a few months, while knowing each other for almost a year. We’re really happy together, we text every day and call most days and spend a lot of time together, and she’s just really special to me.

When I told my family that I’m talking to her, they really didn’t like it because it’s a long distance relationship. My mom doesn’t know how to feel about it, and my dad especially thinks she’s dangerous, or that she’s using me or gonna hurt me, and they don’t believe anything I say about her. My sister also criticises me in a similar way to my dad. They tell me that if I really want to prove she’s a normal girl, she should come here. But she can’t come here right now because she’s busy with university, while I’m just working. I’m more flexible, and she’s never travelled internationally on her own.

I’ve been saving up my money to plan a trip to visit her, hopefully near the end of this year. My plan was to get accomodation in her area and meet in a public place, but my family doesn’t even want me to do that. I understand they’re concerned about my safety, but it feels like they don’t want me to be happy.

Now I feel trapped and I don’t know what to do, and it’s making me miserable that they don’t want me to go visit my girlfriend. I have no idea how to get around this. I wish I could have someone who’d go with me, like a friend. But no one wants to come with me. I’m fine with going on my own but my family won’t allow it.