u/Shaiziin

Like wth does that even mean? Get your life together.
.....then yesterday i went fireworks shopping with my nieces...and legit blacked out. We three frolicked through the store having a good ol' time. I sent them in two directions, both on a separate mission. Doesn't matter, throw it all in the cart. It's like a temporary insanity overtook me. By the time we got to the register, i was shaking. Totaled $963. Wow. Just wow.
At least me and all my nieces, nephew, and baby cousins enjoyed lighting them and running away.

Looks like this cc is getting paid off maybe Labor Day 😅

I'm selfish and spoiled. So what? I've seriously avoided like 90% of life's problems by choosing not to have children.

I listened to another John Deloney episode today. A wife of four kids was in denial of her husband's cheating (questioning if his sexting nine other women even counted as cheating). You know why the denial? Why not face the reality? Because she did not want to divorce him to become a single mother of FOUR kids under 10yo.

She blamed herself because her "body wasn't the same anymore". My heart seriously broke for her. She was yet another woman trapped. Another woman sold the lie that motherhood was her greatest calling.... and now she's stuck in a waking nightmare with a horrible wh***monger of a husband.

Many tradwives in 2026 are coming out and speaking up. They are getting divorced, working for the first time in 10+ years, and are ending up with low paying jobs struggling to support multiple children on their own.

.....and yet my brother complains to me that he's still not an uncle yet. * hint * hint *
---my same brother who abandoned his own wife and three children to move to a totally different state!

I rewatched Gothika, and really felt the uncomfortable sexual tension between Halle Berry and Robert Downey Jr.. Nothing actually happened, they are colleagues afterall, and honestly this feels reminiscent of real life (or at least my life). I think i enjoy the tease of the fantasy more than when it actually plays out! What are some other movies where you feel that weird sexual tension, but the characters never act on it and they don't end up together?

I'm thinking:
•Interview with the Vampire
•Send Help

I can't be the only one who wants someone who's at least matches their level? Job, car, lives alone, no kids. Not in debt (or fighting tooth and nail to get out of debt like myself). Good credit (or working hard to improve credit score like myself). Values healthy habits like eating well and regular exercising (and if you're actively working towards weightloss, I'm your biggest cheerleader). Enjoys spending time outside: beach, park, hiking, etc. And just staying home for movie nights.

Everything else is trivial. I don't care about how you dress, what car you drive, your music taste, who you voted for, whether you are bald or not. I am looking for someone who fits basic compatibility with me. Are my standards really that crazy? Please help me see if I'm being delusional because I'm getting tired.

My card was already maxed out to almost $3k (the limit). And a month later, my limit was auto-increased to $6k. I am shooketh. Stop doing this to me 😭

https://www.reddit.com/r/debtfree/s/J7k7VPXv6c
https://www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance/s/6DKHct01Gr
These prior posts, i was so full of shii. I finally combed through my past statements and it's much worse than i let on. Total debt I've racked up over the course of three years? $35,715. Started effing up again just three years after bankruptcy (originally wiped $21,531). Currently down to just under $4k, which would've been paid off if i stopped spending on my card/Klarna 😓. Planning to be officially debt-free by Fourth of July. Giving myself a new reason to call it "Independence day".
It feels good to finally admit the truth:

• Capital One Platinum - $2,615 (settled amount sent to collections).
• Capital One Savior - $4,961.
• Dept of Treasury VA debt - $7,473.
• Auto Loan - $5,485.
• Klarna - $12,760.
• Afterpay - $2,420.

I still am in shock by this number. Over the past three years, i kept lying to myself that I racked up only $18k in cc debt/car loan/student debt, and I'm actively paying it off. No. I pay off...spend some more...then pay off again. I have $3,553 left to go, but i could've been debt-free so much sooner if i just got my shii together 😓. Technically speaking, i have racked up $35,715 in three years, i just keep paying the balance down after spiking it up again.

I must be crazy spending Klarna $12,760, and Afterpay $2,420. Newest credit card spent $4,961 since January! I think I'm going to be sick.

Let's have some fun and laugh at ourselves a bit. I'll start: i bought some "pheromones" (recommended by a hypergamy influencer) hoping I'd attract a rich man....yea i was scammed out of $137.65. Someone toss me the dunce hat 😆