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I was amazed when I watched her video uploaded today and I was so proud of her. She made a lining for the dress. She stitched alongside the bodice seams so they would lay flat. She even got the serger out and serged the fuckin lace edges so they wouldn't fray!!

I genuinely enjoy so many things about her content, but as so many people have expressed, watching her videos also stresses me the fuck out. It stresses me out to see someone so stressed out and not doing things that would ease that stress. It stresses me out to see someone work so hard on a garment that ends up looking like shit and being basically unwearable because she didn't take the extra time to go slowly, wash and press the fabric, to make sure the garment is fitting properly, and to just generally do the finishing work that would make it a much more quality garment.

Honestly, it's her channel, it's her life, she can do what she wants. Like I said, I genuinely enjoy so many things about her channel so I keep watching. I have other criticisms too, but I don't feel the need to get super involved with nitpicking her. I'm the one who chooses to watch her channel even when it stresses me out lol. And I choose to do so because there's something so specific to her channel that I love. I'm just really happy that she's taking this turn because I've just been begging her in my brain jelly to just please please please make things easier on herself.

She's been talking more and more lately about slowing down, about doing things that she loves, about being more conscious of waste, so it's nice to see that maybe she's going to start putting her money where her mouth is (so to speak). She also mentions in this video that it's a huge relief to be making only one garment for a video and just taking the time to make it more quality instead of trying to crash through multiple things that end up being garbage that she doesn't wear. Yes, girl, yes.

I hope things keep trending in this direction.

I've read here and there about the behind-the-scenes workings of 19th century theaters, and of course Phantom of the Opera gives an interesting (and presumably somewhat accurate?) glimpse at the inner workings, but I'm looking for more in-depth resources about how things might have been run backstage and the dynamics between the performers and the different departments. What was a day in the life of a ballet dancer or a scene shifter or a singer or a calcant? What were the sexual politics of the opera between the performers and their patrons? How did the machine run? I'm open to any information and I definitely welcome book titles or research papers to read.

Does anyone know if there's a visual resource for understanding the underground system that Erik travels through and lives in? I having the hardest time visualizing the locations that Laroux describes in the book and I'd love to have a map or a diagram or an illustration of the routes he takes.

I have looked and looked and the only places I've been able to find carta lana are in Europe. So far the best price I've been able to find is close to $50 for 15 sheets with shipping costs. Eeeeek! Does anyone know of any place in the US that carries carta lana?

I (35F) am having a hell of a time finding anyone in this city who is into sewing and costume construction! I want to make some female/NB/queer friends with similar interests so we can hang out and sew/make stuff.

I'm trying to find the peeps who wait all year for the Ren Faire, who start planning their Halloween costume months in advance, who make cool shit just for the hell of it! The theatre dorks at heart, the giant nerds who meticulously recreate cosplay outfits with their own hands, the people who watch The Great British Sewing Bee, the ones who went into Victorian levels of mourning when Joann's closed, the homies who dream of having dress up tea parties with handmade costumes!

Extra points if you practice other art mediums as well. Quadruple extra points if you love Shakespeare, 70s/80s fantasy films, costume history, or Celtic harp music and heavy metal.

They both died peacefully at home, one through euthanasia and one went on her own time. I've always wanted them their bones cleaned and put on display versus cremation but things kind of hit the fan when my first baby died on December 21st. We found out she was slowly starving to death because of an intestinal tumor and I felt absolute anguish at not giving her peace. If we didn't do it on the 21st, we would have to wait until after the holidays to have her euthanized at home and I couldn't tolerate that. I couldn't find anyone in my area to clean the bones. The closest person was in Missouri and I would have had to ship them. Shipping during the holiday season is insane and animal remains are not something you want to get held up in the shipping facility. I didn't have room in the freezer to keep her. I had horrible visions of her remains being thrown in the trash at some shipping facility, lost forever. I decided to bury her with the notion I would dig her back up eventually.

When my second cat died in February of last year, I could have gone ahead and sent her off to have her bones cleaned but I felt uneasy. What if I couldn't successfully dig her sister up? I didn't like to think of them being apart in death.

Now it's been long enough, I think, that I want to try.

My main question is: what kind of state of decomposition should I expect at this point? I'm comfortable with death and I'm glad that they've become part of the ecosystem but I'm not kidding myself that this is going to be a very emotional experience. We live in Oklahoma where the weather is hot and humid, there are plenty of insects, and the soil is nice and loamy.

Any other advice about what to do in this situation is very welcome. Thanks!

We have many lovely goblincore movie/TV series lists on this sub, but I want your recs for the nonfiction stuff--the documentaries! Especially series. We all know about Planet Earth, but what else?

I've tried triple cream (azelaic acid, metro, and ivermectin), I've tried sulfur, I've tried a variety of soaps, I've tried manuka honey, I've tried using sensitive moisturizers and not using moisturizer, I've tried eliminating things from my diet, I've tried a variety of different healthy diets and don't eat junk food (currently eating a plant based diet), I've tried washing my face with Selsun Blue, I've tried oatmeal and green tea face masks. Nothing. I do not wear makeup and haven't for years because it made my rosacea worse and covering it up doesn't make me feel better about it because you can still see the awful texture. It just looks like I'm ashamed of it and trying to hide it.

I have a horrible case of Type 2 on my cheeks. My left cheek isn't so bad. It's maybe a quarter sized patch of redness and pustules. My right cheek, though, is a huge patch of redness and pustules. It used to just be about half of my cheek but it spread aggressively into a new scaly patch on the lower part of my cheek after I started using sulfur because I'd read so many people going on about what a miracle it was for their skin (narrator: it was not, in fact, a miracle for this person's skin). That was months ago and it hasn't budged an inch. I have small pustules and the deep ones that surface with a head on them that overall contribute to giving my skin the texture of lizard skin. It's fucking HORRIBLE. I want to cry every single time I look in the mirror.

I'm currently using ZenMed facial cleansing gel because it's the only thing I've found that doesn't seem to make my rosacea actively worse. I'm also, at the behest of my derm, trying ivermectin 1% again and have been for two months, even though I used triple cream for several months and saw no benefits. She also wanted me to use doxy but I just cannot justify it. The majority of people who use it seem to need to use it indefinitely in order to maintain the remission of their rosacea. I've weighed the cost/benefit and lifelong antibiotic use even at a low dose is linked to serious problems like antibiotic resistance, negatively impact gut microbiome, etc. As upsetting as my face is, I am not willing to trade against my future health to get rid of my rosacea in that way. I already have a stack of debilitating chronic illnesses and I'm not willing to anything that might tip the scale further. So antibiotics are off the table. And maybe that means I'm stuck like this forever.

I'm just so frustrated. I saw on dermatologist in 2020 who insisted that tretinoin was the treatment for rosacea. I tried it, but I found the maintenance around staying out of the sun and using sunscreen to be too hard. The sunscreen and/or the medication upset my rosacea even more so I abandoned that. I've also since discovered that this solution was, in fact, whack as fuck. She never discussed with me that rosacea is pervasive and will only continue to get worse if left untreated and will not resolve on its own. I would have been way, way more aggressive with trying to treat it way back when I first got diagnosed if I've known that. It's just gotten worse and worse over time and now I just don't know what to do.

the only thing that's giving me hope is that I recently found a paper on 1% ivermectin (I should have downloaded it, I need to go back and find it) that showed that less than half of patients showed clearing in the first three months, but something like 75% of patients showed clearing if they continued using it for a year. Right now, it's all I've got, so I'm just going to keep using it long-term and hoping that if I stick with it maybe in another ten months I'll be rosacea free. I know it's stupid, but I was always a fairly attractive person and it's just devastating to be suffering this... affliction.

I just want to screeeeeeeammmmmmm

Holy shit, I just made this whole connection here. The first time I had p. rosea was during the onset of my symptoms back in 2024. Unsurprisingly, the doctor I was seeing at the time dismissed it as totally benign and unrelated to the profound fatigue I was feeling. I got p. rosea again maybe six months later when I went into my first big crash that left me bedbound for three months. I was seeing another doctor at the time and she was even less interested in a potential connection. I didn't know what the rash could have to do with what I was experiencing but it seemed to me like it could not be a coincidence, but I reluctantly took her word for it and subsequently totally forgot about both rashes and the timing of both.

Now I'm reading that this rash is commonly associated with the reactivation of HHV 6 and 7, which is disproportionately high in the ME/CFS population and suspected to be a potential viral trigger for the onset of ME/CFS, etc etc. I know a lot of you are probably well-informed about this connection but it's blowing my mind. And is, in a weird way, validating? Like, a clue was there on my body for all the world to see for months as to what was happening (obviously not that I think that this is required to have a valid CFS experience/diagnosis, etc), but neither of my care providers had the training to understand what they might be looking at and neither of them gave a fuck enough to figure it out.

I guess I'm just baffled at both of them. Maybe I'm thinking about this all wrong, but if I had a patient who came to my office and was suffering profound fatigue, headaches, body aches, malaise, joint pain, etc, with all other causes ruled out, and they also happened to have this rash, I would be curious about a possible connection. I know doctors are trained not to rush in and make assumptions about all present symptoms, because from what I gather a lot of people do get a totally benign bout of p. rosea. But I had the other symptoms. And it happened not once, but twice. Anyway, fuck doctors (except my current doctor, except she's leaving me to move to another state to run a mayo clinic which is killing me with sadness and anxiety because she is irreplaceable but I'm happy for her. I've never been treated with such dignity by a doctor and have never had a doctor who was so open to collaborating with their patient. She gave me my diagnosis without a single hesitation once we looked at the whole picture together).

I just had to rush here and breathlessly extrapolate on all of this. I got too excited about the connection. And now I don't have anything to do with it except add it to my research pile lol. I'd tell my doctor but she's leaving and I won't see her again ;___________; But hey! More information is good, I love information! And maybe this post will help someone else figure some stuff out.

I'm going to say something that might considered a little scandalous: I'm sick of turkey, alright? Sick of it. Not just turkey, all of the foods commonly associated with the American Thanksgiving (except pumpkin pie, who will forever be my one true love).

I don't even like celebrating the genocidal holiday, but I do like to get together with family when we have a few days off together and make a big meal. I like spending hours and hours making a meal that I wouldn't normally make. I love cooking. I feel like I'm pretty fucking good at it, too, so that isn't the issue. The issue is that I do NOT like spending hours and hours making a meal I wouldn't normally make that is comprised of foods that I feel perfectly "meh" about, that make me feel like absolutely fucking dog shit for days, that I don't want to keep eating but I DO keep eating because by God I spent the time and money to make them and I'm going to get my money's worth, and I ask myself why I keep doing this year after year, and so on.

So after the holiday last year, I turned to my husband and said, "Next year I am NOT eating goddamn turkey. Let's do something else instead."

So we've been wracking our brains to think of something else that we can take the opportunity to make. So far we've starting toying with the idea of making ramen or pho. He's dairy free and I'm gluten free, so we need something that can be reasonably made within those limitations. There are a million substitutes for everything now, of course. We are open to all suggestions.

**The main thing is, I want it to be something that takes quite some time to prepare. Again, something I wouldn't make outside of a holiday because it's so labor intensive.** I'm not trying to get out of cooking the meal. I just want it to be something I'm going to be really proud of and excited to eat if I'm going to go through all the trouble.

Help!

(I know we're a ways out but I plan things months in advance. With my particular brand of executive functioning, having a well-established plan with months to get everything in order makes it easier for me to pull things together as the time approaches.)