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Day 30 today. Previous streak was 108 days. Going for 365 now.
Female magnetism is definitely one thing I’m noticing, but honestly that’s only a small part of it.
The biggest difference is how I feel in general.
I feel way more disciplined. I don’t really care about motivation anymore, I just do what I said I’m gonna do. Gym, food, work, SR, whatever. Less negotiating with myself.
My mind also feels less desperate for stimulation. I’m not constantly looking for porn, sexual content or some quick dopamine hit. Urges are still there obviously, sometimes strong, but I feel like I can actually sit with them instead of instantly reacting.
Socially I feel different too. More present, calmer, less in my head. I don’t feel like I have to impress people or force conversations.
That’s probably where the “magnetism” comes in too.

I am a taxi driver so I meet a lot of women. Lately more women seem to sit in the front instead of the back and most of the time we just talk the whole ride. It feels way more natural.

Few examples:

Two girls got in my taxi, it was a normal ride, they sat in the back just yapping. I was just focused on driving and barely interacted with them. After I dropped them off I said if she needs a taxi again I can give her my number. She gave me her phone and told me to put my number in.
When I gave it back I said “just call or text if you need a taxi.”
She looked me straight in the eyes, long sensual eye contact, and said:
“I’m not only going to call you for a taxi.”
That one was crazy lol.

Another girl, we talked basically the whole 7/8 minute ride. After dropping her off I asked if she wanted to stay in contact. She asked for my Instagram, I told her I barely use it and asked for her number instead. She gave it.

Then there’s this attractive girl at a gas station I go to. I’ve seen her there multiple times before and she never really said anything to me. This time she randomly goes “you’re Uber right?”
Turns out I drove her home months ago from her previous job and she still remembered me. We talked, laughed, I asked her name. Her eye contact and whole vibe felt completely different compared to the other times I saw her.

Had other smaller moments too at other places and more during rides where conversations would just flow and there would be long eye contact, things I never experienced when I was PMO’ing almost daily.

But women aren’t even the main point.
The main thing is I feel more in control of myself. I’m more consistent with the gym, more focused on eating properly, I work, I do what I need to do and I’m not constantly looking for some quick release or distraction.
I also feel less needy around women. I can find a woman insanely attractive without feeling like I need to get something from her. I can enjoy the interaction, feel the tension and just keep moving.
Maybe women pick up on that. Maybe that’s what people call aura or magnetism.
Could be confidence, body language, sexual energy, eye contact, whatever. I don’t know.
I just know my whole experience of life feels different when I retain compared to when I’m constantly releasing.

Day 30/365.
I’m gonna keep going and see what kind of man I am after a full year of this.

Day 30 today. Previous streak was 108 days. Going for 365 now.
Female magnetism is definitely one thing I’m noticing, but honestly that’s only a small part of it.
The biggest difference is how I feel in general.
I feel way more disciplined. I don’t really care about motivation anymore, I just do what I said I’m gonna do. Gym, food, work, SR, whatever. Less negotiating with myself.
My mind also feels less desperate for stimulation. I’m not constantly looking for porn, sexual content or some quick dopamine hit. Urges are still there obviously, sometimes strong, but I feel like I can actually sit with them instead of instantly reacting.
Socially I feel different too. More present, calmer, less in my head. I don’t feel like I have to impress people or force conversations.
That’s probably where the “magnetism” comes in too.

I am a taxi driver so I meet a lot of women. Lately more women seem to sit in the front instead of the back and most of the time we just talk the whole ride. It feels way more natural.

Few examples:

Two girls got in my taxi, it was a normal ride, they sat in the back just yapping. I was just focused on driving and barely interacted with them. After I dropped them off I said if she needs a taxi again I can give her my number. She gave me her phone and told me to put my number in.
When I gave it back I said “just call or text if you need a taxi.”
She looked me straight in the eyes, long sensual eye contact, and said:
“I’m not only going to call you for a taxi.”
That one was crazy lol.

Another girl, we talked basically the whole 7/8 minute ride. After dropping her off I asked if she wanted to stay in contact. She asked for my Instagram, I told her I barely use it and asked for her number instead. She gave it.

Then there’s this attractive girl at a gas station I go to. I’ve seen her there multiple times before and she never really said anything to me. This time she randomly goes “you’re Uber right?”
Turns out I drove her home months ago from her previous job and she still remembered me. We talked, laughed, I asked her name. Her eye contact and whole vibe felt completely different compared to the other times I saw her.

Had other smaller moments too at other places and more during rides where conversations would just flow and there would be long eye contact, things I never experienced when I was PMO’ing almost daily.

But women aren’t even the main point.
The main thing is I feel more in control of myself. I’m more consistent with the gym, more focused on eating properly, I work, I do what I need to do and I’m not constantly looking for some quick release or distraction.
I also feel less needy around women. I can find a woman insanely attractive without feeling like I need to get something from her. I can enjoy the interaction, feel the tension and just keep moving.
Maybe women pick up on that. Maybe that’s what people call aura or magnetism.
Could be confidence, body language, sexual energy, eye contact, whatever. I don’t know.
I just know my whole experience of life feels different when I retain compared to when I’m constantly releasing.

Day 30/365.
I’m gonna keep going and see what kind of man I am after a full year of this.

I’m on day 14 after struggling with porn, masturbation and later escorts for around 16 years, I'm 28 now. My previous longest streak was 108 days, but after releasing I slowly fell back into old habits.

This streak has already tested me. I accidentally came across NSFW content and closed it, and during a taxi shift I ended up near a red-light district with plenty of cash on me. I seriously considered going in, but drove straight home instead.

I’ve also noticed more eye contact and attention from women. Whether that’s retention, more confidence or simply me being more aware, I don’t know. The bigger lesson is that I’ve caught myself scanning women and looking for validation more often. I’m realizing that quitting porn means very little if I just replace it with staring at women in real life.

I’ve been putting the energy into the gym, cardio, eating properly and work. I even negotiated a 5% raise recently. So far, the most real benefit hasn’t been “magnetism.” It has been having more control over what I do when an urge appears.
My goal now is to keep retaining without becoming obsessed with women, attention or the number of days.

I’m on day 14 with no porn, masturbation, edging, orgasm or escorts. I’ve struggled with PMO and later prostitutes for around 16 years, I'm 28 now. My previous best streak was 108 days, but after having sex with a taxi-passenger who seduced me, and orgasming I slowly went back to daily PMO a month or two later... Now a few months later I'm determined to have an even longer streak, to make SR my lifestyle.

This streak already had some real tests. I accidentally saw NSFW content on Instagram but closed it. During a taxi ride I ended up near the red-light district in Duisburg with plenty of cash and seriously considered going in, but I got straight on the highway and drove home. I also refused weed when a friend offered it.

At the same time, I’ve noticed more eye contact and attention from women, especially at the pool. A young female passenger was very talkative, hugged me twice after I returned her forgotten phone and wanted my number for future taxi rides. I’ve also caught myself staring too much at attractive women in the gym, so I realize I could easily replace porn with constantly scanning women and looking for validation.

I’m training, doing cardio, meal-prepping, eating well and recently negotiated a 5% raise at work. I feel like I’m moving forward, but I don’t want to become obsessed with “female attraction.”

For experienced retainers: did the attention genuinely increase for you, or did you simply become more confident and aware?

How did you channel the sexual energy without turning women into your new addiction?