[Low stakes issue] Should I tell Mom about Grandma's meltdown?

Situation: Grandma, being the drama queen she is, started berating me while parents were away. Should I tell my mother about it?

Background: about 2 months or so ago Grandma (green card holder) lost Medicaid (which she needs, because she has disability and meds). So, to buy insurance my Mom decided to find a job (this may also have been an excuse - my mom always complains about how her life was ruined after Grandma started to live with us and she was so much happier while around people/collective). Dad earns well, so he could have theoretically paid for insurance, but Grandma hates his guts so probably would rather eat glass than take his goodwill (and she shit on his kindness multiple times in the past anyway).

Today, Grandma decided to pick an argument with me while the parents were away. According to her I wouldn't give her money if she needed for insurance and don't want to work and don't pity my mother, who has aching feet and undiagnosed issue where her palms are easily bruised, bleeding and itchy.

I am currently a NEET after about 2 years of battling severe psychosis ( you know, casual stuff, just talking to paper cups cuz they were divination tool from God and seeing future visions type shit), lost my past job because of that. Psychosis disappeared though. Currently have unexplained cough and gagging problem (and my doc still won't officially diagnose the cough despite prescribing inhaler). Since I'm technically assuming role of caregiver while my mother is absent, I kinda been recording Grandma's meds and planning to take BLS/CPR/FirstAid course.

The kicker is that Grandma sees me as free money all the time, while Mom and Dad are a bit more discerning with the finances, and have "Oh no, you MF don't" attitude. They can and do argue back. When my Mom refused to give money for my Grandma's unnecessary balcony remodeling project (which she initially lied about anyway), she asked me for my last $200 I had as a broke college student.

Anyway, the post is already lengthy, but should I tell about my Grandma's meltdown today to my Mom? We usually bond over Grandma's unreasonable behavior discussions, but I kinda think Mom might partially side with Grandma. Plus she has enough fatigue from work, probably.

Oh, and the cherry on top is that Grandma, who likes ordering all kinds of shirts online like she's a fucking teenager, now wants to go buy a type of my Mom's scrubs that Mom uses at work to wear at home when she leaves the US for whatever reason to go back to warzone Ukraine because she lost insurance. No, she does not think rationally, ever, and often "threatens" she'll go back in any argument.

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 1 day ago
▲ 8 r/digitalforensics+1 crossposts

Hypothetical OSINT/infosec: getting fingerprints from a photo?

So a thought crossed my mind just now: how realistic is the possibility of say 3-letter agency getting a photo of a palm off r/PalmReading or similar online sources, and running physical fingerprints lookup?

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 6 days ago

My first mass-downvote ever

Pointed out with a bit of sarcasm the parent comment was unnecessary in r/PeterExplainsTheJoke , but looks like kids jumped on the bandwagon instead of acknowledging poor quality of that parent comment. Worth it though.

u/SilverSquirrel6 — 10 days ago
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Please.Stop.Telling.Me.To.Eat

My grandma has no concept of boundaries. She doesn't stop asking if I want a snack, fruit, full meal, whatever. She doesn't stop questioning what I am doing, where I am going, why I am doing.

Normal occasional questioning is fine. But in her case it is a sequence.

> G: Do you wanna peach? > Me:No, I'm good. > G: Maybe chocolate? > Me: No, thanks. > G: You're eating poorly. You didn't eat anything. > Me: I ate a burrito a couple hours ago. > G: That's not enough.

I am an adult, 34, I have no eating disorder, I can manage my hunger and food intake, I just want to exist in peace. I don't want to be asked where I'm going when I'm going to the bathroom. I don't want to be questioned what I am getting when getting a snack.

I am a patient person, I worked in tech support and dealt with all kinds of people. But this non-stop questioning just drives me up a tree and then some.

Please. Let. Me. Just. Be.

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 15 days ago

Am I legally liable if grandmother kicks the bucket?

M34 here, living in the U.S. Midwest (for doxxing reasons I won't reveal my exact state), ethnically Ukrainian but a US citizen. Here's my hypothetical scenario to entertain tonight:

  • parents, mom (55) being primary caretaker of grandmother (78, green card holder), are leaving for a two-day, out of state trip.
  • Grandma, who hasn't been ran over by a reindeer yet , has a history of cardiac and blood pressure issues (the Ukraine's doctors diagnose her despite the fact that the US doctors assert she's got a healthy heart)
  • I'm a night owl - I browse YouTube and Reddit by night, sleep by day (criminal, right?)

Questions:

  • if grandma kicks the bucket while I sleep, am I legally liable for her death?
  • if I try to administer first aid using Ukrainian meds and without calling 911, does that put any liability on me?

Comments and inb4s:

  • from my research online, generally public has no duty-to-act (except where special relationship, such as healthcare provider-client , relationship is established), and it looks like mere genetic relationship (except when it's parent-child or legal guardian) does not imply duty-to act. Officially, I am not established as a caretaker or healthcare provider (my mother used to be, but Medicaid denied family care, so she's not her healthcare provider, not anymore; arguably, I'm not performing caretaker duties on behalf of my mother, but we may have a verbal implied agreement).
  • Google states that using unapproved (by local jurisdiction) substances may invalidate Good Samaritan laws. It cites this article, but it reads as if applied to actual medical professionals, rather than layman's. FWIW, the meds are purchased in the US, i.e. our good ol' Easter European but imported, so it may be "reasonably permissible".
  • inb4 I don't have a motive to physically assassinate Grandma. Grandma has no official will in the US, and doesn't have a significant amount of money to her name. She's essentially a refugee sponsored by our family. She does have apartment in Ukraine, but the value of real estate property in a war-torn country, in a town close to front lines, is kinda low and unappealing. But I do like to assassinate her bigoted and egoistical arguments with facts and logic (Yes, my family loves conspiracy theories, how do you know? Grandma particularly trusts click bait titles on YouTube and in the news).
  • yes, Grandma is single, Grandpa is RIP (and I do miss the guy). Don't send husband applications into DMs, though, wwwww. She's got a nasty character, bunch of health problems, and no interest in financially unstable folks - but hey, I know there's probably out there someone into that shit.
  • Why are you living with your parents and grandma? That's not relevant to the question. Go take your Straw Man somewhere else.

Big ass disclaimer: This post is a work of fiction. Names, characters, businesses, places, and events are either the products of the author's imagination or used in a fictitious manner. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental.

u/SilverSquirrel6 — 17 days ago

Weird dream about my oshi

I rarely dream of anything Hololive, but this dream involved both Biboo and Raora. I'm curious what dreams you've had - feel free to share, every-pebble.

The dream starts out with me helping a girl through smart-phone solve an algebra equation, and she wins a large pink tarp with Raora design on it, and some text that I don't quite remember (something along the lines of "You've solved my equation, Rao"). It's some sort of student appreciation program.

The dream fast forwards to me being in literature class, when Biboo with a guide enter the class and sit at the table in the back. She's pretending to be a blind girl, in a purple sweater and jeans. They invite me to the table. "Me?", I confirm, they say yes. So I join. Biboo transforms into her default outfit, and starts performing some weird ASMR magic. NerissaHello.png Don't remember the details.

In the end, she sits to the side and starts scrolling the phone, all smug and satisfied like "yeah, I did good". My dream self, in its moment of wisdom, desires to ask about the tarp.

Me: "Um, may I have a question?" Biboo:"Yes" Me:"So I saw the Raora tarp, and was curious if Advent had anything like that because it would really fit you and literature students" (I was obviously flattering my oshi, even in my dream I realized she doesn't quite along with literature stuff).

Biboo's response is sort of mocking and laughter. In the end she stands in front of a curtain says:"If you really wanna know, move my a$$ and find out". With the moving rock sfx from YouTube, I oblige and move Biboo to the side. Behind the curtain there's a TV with lines on it, "There's no next airline. Fly whatever the BEEP is available." I guess there's no Advent prizes for students after all.

For some reason my dream self decides to go back up to my apartment and observe the classroom from above (because dream logic). I sort of regret not spending more time with my oshi. Some other things happen but they're fuzzy now, and pretty much the end.

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 25 days ago
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Good old days, but only because I said so

The situation:

  • me (35M), my mother, and grandmother are playing dominoes. In Russian, we have a special phrase for raw cow or goat milk - "парное молоко" (par-no-ye moloko), but it literally doesn't mean "raw" , rather literally it would translate to English as "steamy". Grandmother and mother disagree, grandmother thinks it's boiled milk (spoiler, we boil milk), while mother thinks it's raw.
  • So I Google it, and it is in fact raw milk that hasn't been thermally treated, and among other things can be dangerous because of bacteria and viruses.
  • Mom says:"Back when I was little we just drink it straight from the cow and didn't get sick ever." More "modern day bad, good old times good" stuff.
  • I point out Survivorship bias, as they only know of people who didn't get sick.
  • More spiel about how they used to eat with dirty hands and not get sick, and how there weren't any viruses or diseases like right now.
  • I'm already frustrated from earlier today, but I'm holding myself as to not press further because they'll get offended. Finally, I ask "So if there wasn't 'anything like that' in the past, why were you guys getting vaccinated in childhood?" Mom gets offended (insert Called it.png), questions why I am angry (I'm not angry, physically or verbally), tries to explain because there was tuberculosis, and she doesn't really know why, and mentions they didn't give me all vaccines, i.e. angry but incoherent argument.

Point being, I absolutely hate it how my parents have the exclusive right to be offended and act psycho, but my valid questioning gets framed as offensive and apparently I'm the asshole because I pointed out their rosy past isn't as rosy. My father, were he present at the moment, would likely jump in to defend my mom and ad hominem me in the process. He doesn't believe in COVID and vaccines, and subscribed to several conspiracy theories. Of course, holding irrational beliefs isn't criminal, but they do defend their beliefs in logical or polite way.

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 1 month ago

Where to publish a comment which was blocked by new user limits?

So there was a post on r/LinkedInLunatics discussing absurd AI prompt copyright. I wrote a comment backed up by couple cited and quoted sources, but the comment was blocked by automod due to new account limits. Where could I still post the comment (as a post in a different community) discussing OOP claims ?

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u/SilverSquirrel6 — 1 month ago