Is it common to not ask your partner that many questions?
My partner is autistic and I’m neurotypical. I’m doing my best to be a supportive partner. We’ve been together three years and I’m grateful for him.
He almost never asks me questions about my day and life, and basically waits until I volunteer information first. He’ll always listen when I talk, but often when I share key details that I feel would warrant a response or follow up questions, I get nothing. Sometimes, the conversation immediately changes with almost no acknowledgement of what I said.
Earlier today, I was selected as a juror for a court case. On my way back home, my best friend called me to advise he needs open heart surgery due to recent test results.
When I saw my partner after work, he didn’t ask a single question about the jury duty. He heard me on the phone to my friend and I gave him a very short summary and he just said “oh” and then didn’t ask any follow up, share a message of support, etc.
Is this common? Is not asking questions or always expecting me to volunteer info first related to autism? It’s tearing me up a bit.