u/Silver_Educator7400

I'm back on AIP after several years. I believe it fully healed a bad, scary flare I had at one point. I am having trouble remembering what I ate at the time! Breakfast, especially.

I'm pretty lost. I have zero gardening experience. My daughter wants "to garden." I have a whole backyard with nothing in it.

Every resource I've seen is addressed to somewhat experienced gardeners with kids, not two amateurs :) Where should I start? I won't be building anything. I am starting from absolute scratch in every sense. I wouldn't even know where to start with a styrofoam cup of dirt (where do you get dirt?). Any ideas would be so appreciated!

For those in Canada, I'm curious about experiences with MAID and dementia. While my LO was well, he often talked about how "losing my marbles" was his nightmare, and how he wanted to die if that happened. He was a big fan of MAID during his previous, cognitively normal life. We have no doubt that he would not want to go on living like this.

Due to the slow and then sudden progression of his dementia, this has become urgent. However, he has no awareness that he has dementia, he is just focused on "going home" to his hometown; his current confused state is always blamed on being in jail, we are keeping him locked up, etc. He knows us still, but does not understand where he is, or why. (Memory care.) He has psychosis and anger about half the time, and is clearly terrified and angry, so I am worried about more decline in his quality of life.

He does not have the self-awareness most days to know what he has, and that it is progressive and what it means for the rest of his life. His doctor has explained the medical aspects and how it is set up and all of that with Alz/dementia, but I am curious about real-life examples of how this has gone.

My dad, who raised me and is an incredible person, has dementia. Right now he is "himself" enough to know who he is, and most of his life story, and he knows all his children and grandchildren and keeps up with the events of our lives, but he has no idea where he is.

Every day he says he is waiting to be picked up to go home. He packs a bag sometimes. Stares out the window waiting for us. He is in his own home still, with a nurse, he just doesn't know where he is. Has anyone dealt with this? Is there anything we can do to help? He is literally in this house all day with this things, his photos, in his own bed. Every day lately we talk about all his old houses, and I'll say, you've lived here for 20 years, Mom died five years ago, you're safe, all of that.

He is VERY scared and for better and worse is self-aware and "here" enough to know that he has dementia and it is getting worse.

I need an easy-to-use home security system that has an app, that doesn't require me to set anything up personally. I can't use Telus for this because I have Telus and the app can't be logged into two accounts simultaneously. (For a second home.) Rogers Smart Home Monitoring no longer exists. What would be best?

Love music but am drawing a blank when it comes to finding the right playlist for a situation I'm in.

I'm looking for sweeping, emotional songs about a person who has been struggling or kept down for a long time who is about to be released and set free. Can be happy and celebratory or melancholy, any genre but probably pop/rock. (This is for someone specific and they're being set free from a difficult medical situation, it is not a relationship context, if that helps.) Thank you.

EDIT: Wow... Thank you all so much. Even seeing some of these titles made me cry. I appreciate you.

What would you do? One aging parent with dementia who lives alone with some help in the daytime, in a one-story house. Not a fancy house/not a target but you never know.

We have considered a hardwired security system but they would *never* remember to turn it on or off and would really be upset by false alarms. We could use a timer on the system, if that exists, but knowing them they would randomly open the door at 2am to look at the stars and set it off.

We are also considering installing cameras and motion sensors at the entry points instead.

We need a system that multiple individuals can have access to via an app with shared log-in/password.

Any thoughts would be very appreciated.

A family member has never told her adult children about our Q. It is now at a point that seems ridiculous to me. Other adult children in the extended family do know, and the alcoholism is not well-hidden but the Q lives in another country so they don't see them day-to-day. I feel I can't support this ongoing lie. Our family has enough secrets that hurt me as a child and young adult. This family member will not listen to reason. I'm not about to tell the kids myself. What would you do?