AIO My boyfriend gave me access to his Instagram, but now I'm wondering if I should log out.
I met a guy at my workplace on August, and we started talking. Over time, we became really close, and eventually, he proposed to me. I also developed feelings for him and agreed to be in a relationship with him.
He has told me that he is serious about me and has long-term plans for our relationship. He isn't looking for something casual or a time-pass relationship, which is something I really appreciate.
One day, he told me that if I ever had doubts about him, I could log into his Instagram account and check it whenever I wanted. He even registered my fingerprint on his phone so I could unlock it whenever I needed to. Initially, I wasn't sure about it, but eventually, I agreed. I've been logged into his Instagram for the past 2–3 days.
The reason I wanted access was that I have a lot of insecurities. I worry about whether he talks to other girls, what kind of relationships he has with them and whether he might develop feelings for someone else in the future. I know these thoughts might be coming from my own overthinking, but I can't seem to help it.
I even offered to give him access to my Instagram account, but he refused. He said that he trusts me and doesn't feel the need to check my account. He also seems to have very few expectations of me, whereas I have so many expectations of him. Sometimes, I feel like I expect him not to talk to other girls or even smile at them, and I know that might be unreasonable.
The thing is, he treats me really well, and sometimes it honestly feels too good to be true. A part of me keeps wondering whether he's genuinely serious about me or whether he might be playing with my feelings. I know it's still a relatively new relationship, and maybe I'm getting too emotionally attached too quickly.
Now I'm confused about whether I should stay logged into his Instagram or just log out. I don't want to invade his privacy or become someone who constantly checks her partner's messages. At the same time, I feel insecure and scared of getting hurt.
So, what would you do in my situation? Would you stay logged into his account since he willingly offered access, or would you log out and focus on building trust naturally? Am I overthinking this, or is it normal to feel this way in a new relationship?
I'd genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have been in similar situations.