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ONLY MARKED FOR SPOILER BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW WHAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TO COMMENT ABOUT!

So, I am curious as to what people's hot takes are for The Walking Dead.

I don't care if you only list one. I don't care if you make a list of ten options. I don't care if it's a lightly hot take (ex; "I don't like Shane") or if it's something boiling hot (ex; "I would've liked [insert saga] better if they did [insert thing] instead of [insert event]"). I don't care if it's about the comics. I don't care if it's the main show. I don't care if it's the game. I don't care if it's a spinoff. I just want to hear some hot takes.

I'll go first; Dale was my favorite character for seasons 1 & 2. Even after the show ended, he's still a top 5 character for me.

So, I (20F) had been friends with "Bianca" (19F) since we were in second grade. We're both sophomores in college, for context.

For the longest time, we had told each other everything. Not a single detail would get left out between us. But a little over a year ago, she was suddenly getting dodgy with me. Whenever I would ask about how she had been doing, she would be very vague and give very little details. When this first started happening, I didn't think much into it because around this time would be when we were getting ready for our freshman year of college.

But once we got more settled into college and as time passed, I would ask Bianca about her life, and she would get even more dodgy. So, I tried to chalk it up to her not having a lot going on or there was a lot going on and she just didn't want to talk about it.

However, something made me suspicious when I asked her a few months ago if she was seeing anybody (because I genuinely wanted to know, especially because we had just finished talking about the person I was dating at the time). She told me about the people she had been visiting that we went to high school with. While I listened and didn't stop her until she was done (and asked follow-ups because that was nice to hear about, too), I finally asked her "I meant, have you been going out with anyone? Any cute guys at college?"

If we're being honest, I just thought that she misunderstood what I was asking or interpreted the phrase differently. But when I asked that, she completely ignored that I asked and changed the topic.

Well, I got suggested a profile on Instagram. I don't know what prompted me to look, especially since I hadn't spoken to the guy in like three years. But I did.

Bianca was dating "Leo" (19M). My ex. Had been dating him for 14 and a half months. And I had no idea.

What was worse was that Leo posted Bianca everywhere, which was something he had never done with anyone he had dated until this point. Not me, not the woman he was with for over a year in the past, and not the woman he dated after both of us (small town, word spread fast).

On top of this, the rare things that she would tell me about, she would be lying to my face about certain aspects. For example, she told me about this really popular place nearby that she was going to over the summer. While I later found out that it was her one-year anniversary trip with Leo, Bianca told me that she was going with a mutual friend, hadn't mentioned Leo once. And this happened a lot from what I saw on Leo's profile.

Now, before anyone asks, I've realized that I'm a lesbian at this point. So, I don't fully understand why I'm feeling the way I do.

I think what bothers me is that Bianca hid this from me for so long and lied to my face multiple times. I don't know if I should be more bothered by the fact that Bianca is dating Leo, I'm not as bothered as one would expect? Like, I don't understand why she wouldn't tell me this. Part of me understands, but another part of me doesn't since I hadn't dated Leo since high school.

I still don't know what to feel. All I know is that I'm rethinking all of our conversations from the past year, especially since apparently, I was the only one who didn't know about the two of them dating. Part of me wants to just chalk it up to the fact that I live much further away now that I go to school, but I know that's not it. I don't know.

What would you do in my shoes?

So, I (20GNC-F) have been experimenting with the name "Samuel" (fake name) since like... June?

I asked my group of friends if it was a fitting name for me (with a fake scenario to explain the context since I was scared about it) and they all collectively agreed that it wasn't fitting. I decided then that they could go screw themselves and I'd experiment with it anyway.

I decided to use this name in situations where I knew someone I knew personally wouldn't be there (coffee shops, club meetings in town, etc.) and I had gotten really good at hiding it for a while. It got to a point where I thought that Samuel might be my name. That I was starting to become really confident in it.

While I wasn't 100% sure since there were a couple of options I was leaning on, Samuel really seemed to be it for me.

Then, I got a text from "Ryan" (20M), my closest college friend. For some extra context... we both use Hinge. I'm sure you can guess where this is going.

He texts in the friend group's group chat and is absolutely panicking. Explains that there's a bot that came up on his feed with my pictures but with a different name and that he didn't know what to do. Everyone saw the message at that point, and I knew I couldn't brush this off without explaining myself, so I finally confess to everyone what had been going on.

All I got back was an "Oh" from Ryan and nothing else, just him brushing it off. So, the next group dinner is going to be fun. I may just never go again, who knows.

So, I (20F) should start this off by painting a picture for you.

I had to go to the ER one day back in April. There was a chance I would have to get emergency surgery because of what my symptoms were and what they all were signs of. I was there for eight hours. I'm thankfully completely fine at this point.

My "friend", "Tatum" (19F) had to go to the hospital today. She was there for maybe two hours, at best? Nothing too serious. She is also completely fine.

Now, I'm very relieved she's fine, don't get me wrong. It was how people reacted when she said she had to be admitted versus when I was.

When she told the group she got admitted, everyone was working around their schedules to come and see her. One of them was even offering to drive her. All were sympathizing and reassuring her and all that. She even posted about it online as it was happening and got so many likes from it.

But when I got admitted? All I heard back was a frowny face, a heart emoji, a "I hope you feel better", and Tatum even telling me that I had to be lying and attention seeking.

Not one person visited me. Not one person reassured me. Not one person defended me. And not one person checked in on me afterwards.

It feels very unfair. Am I looking too deep into it? Possibly. But I'm still very angry and reevaluating everything now.

So, I (20M) have never been the type of person to open up easily. It can take me months to consider myself friends with someone and it takes a long time after that to be able to start truly opening up to someone. Even then, there are people who I've been close with for years that there were things I haven't opened up to all that much.

Even then, I don't really tell people I consider myself close with things that are going on in my life, I handle them silently, I cope, and I work through it until I no longer consider it a problem.

So, that's why "Sara" (19F) felt like such a change. I wasn't looking for a relationship when I met her, I want to make that clear. We met at college and we were clicking really fast. Much faster than I had with anyone and it was so scary, but I was going to try to get over that fear and be more trusting of others in a way that I never really had been before.

Once we had our first kiss, things happened so much faster than I could usually handle, so fast that I couldn't start to scare myself with the "what if"s, the caution I usually give people, the resistance. We kissed, then kissing turned into sleeping together, sleeping together turned into cuddling, cuddling turned into us opening up about things that neither of us really talked about much. It felt so scary, but it felt like things were playing out the way that they should have been.

Well, every time we would see each other, either that exact cycle or most of that sort of cycle would play out. And every time we did, it felt more romantic, more intimate, more loving, even. In more recent times we had seen each other, even, Sara would talk about wanting to make things official soon, beginning to talk about boundaries in a relationship and what it would look like for us. It really felt like it was the right decision was being made.

Sara ended things between us almost three hours ago.

I understand her reasoning for it, I won't go into it as that's her business, but I completely understood why she did what she did. I just also feel so angry at the same time. She said that what happened between us shouldn't have happened and shouldn't happen again. She said she wants to go no contact for the time being and wants to reach out again once she's ready to, wants to start things over and keep it purely platonic, because she still really cares about me.

But... I won't be able to see us as anything like that. We had such an intimate bond and now I can't see us as anything other than previously having that intimate bond and having lost that as a thing that "shouldn't have ever happened".

I know I won't ever be able to see her again. I know that I won't be able to be in contact with her in any sort of way now knowing what I do. It feels like everything we went through was a lie and I can't bring myself to ever see her again after this. I just did not expect this to hurt so much, and I don't know how to go about it.

So, I (20F) have always been a heavier person. This is not in a demeaning way, just honest.

I began losing weight when I started college and am now down 75lbs and am only 100lbs away from my goal. Despite this, many haven't noticed or just don't care about what I've done.

One of these people in question is "Guy" (19M). Guy was one of my friends, but he started making many comments about my weight back in April. At first, it could be taken as harmless, but it slowly got more malicious and mean. He would even find ways to bring it up without me even having to mention my weight directly.

It got to a point that it started causing a negative image of myself to resurface and having to put serious distance between us. Despite this, my closest college friend "Ryan" (20M) has tried to get me to give Guy another chance. I refused for the longest time but opted to try when this school year started.

One of the things to keep in mind is that our entire friend group generally tries to eat meals together. There is six of us in the group, but Guy usually gets there first, so he gets to call where we sit, and he always picks spots that are way too small to fit six. Because of how tight the squeeze is, I have asked multiple times if we can move to a different spot. Guy always tells me that it shouldn't be an issue to begin with and heavily implies that it's only a tight squeeze because of my weight. Other times, I just get ignored.

I now try not to eat with the group anymore. Or if I do, it has to be meals where I know Guy won't be there.

Well, one day Ryan texted the group chat and asked if anyone was joining him for lunch. I didn't get a good idea of who all would be there, so I said yes. However, once I got to the dining hall, I saw a message from Guy saying he found a seat for all of us. I tried to not get too nervous, but when I got there, the table was tiny. Like, it could barely fit Guy and Ryan, and they were both really skinny guys!

I just contemplated for a moment, turned, walked to a different section of the dining hall, ran into two of my friends, and ate with them instead.

I started getting texted by Ryan, Guy, and one other person asking where I was. I almost ignored it but ended up just texting back that I decided to have lunch with someone else instead.

The three of them saw me and were glaring at me or just looked really disappointed the rest of the time they were there. I almost went to sit with them or go over to apologize, but then I saw their table and they invited a fourth person... and everyone was squeezing close together to the point that two of them were halfway off their seats. So, I decided against it.

Ryan has since forgiven me (he was never mad in the first place) but Guy is still really angry with me and won't speak to me. This whole incident happened a few days ago and I'm wondering. AITA?

EDIT: Thanks to everyone who gave awards, advice, and kind words! You're all so sweet and I realized that I'm definitely NTA on this one. I'll keep everyone's words in mind going forward, thanks again!

So, I (20NB) have been casually seeing "Sara" (19F) and when our whole thing started, I identified as a trans man. She did not care as she is a bisexual trans woman.

Well, I realized that I am not a man, I just don't know how to tell her. I think I just want to start with the fact that I changed my pronouns and go from there? Would that be a bad idea?

So, I (20M) always figured I was T4T. But, due to the lack of trans people where I grew up, I never got to figure that out.

Well, I met "Seraphina" (19F) at my college, and we are at two completely different stages of our transitions. She's been on E for a long time, has her name changed everywhere, and is in the process of working towards consultations for gender reassignment surgery. I, however, am nowhere close to even starting on T, my name is purely social, and the furthest I've gotten so far is simply presenting masculine and binding. Despite this, I've started to pass better and better as time goes on and even get gendered correctly by strangers, even when I rarely bind and still have a higher voice.

I didn't care, and I didn't think she did either, but with how things went down a few days ago, I'm wondering what the case really is now.

So, we had a first date on Sunday, and it ended up going so well that we ended up going back to her place and hooking up. It was an intimate experience during, and it was really intimate after, and it honestly gave me a lot of hope for what the future might bring.

Well, after we were done and cuddling, we started opening up to each other about a lot of things. During this process, Seraphina admitted that she wished that she'd get approached by more cis men. Specifically cis men. I know she's not straight as she has a girlfriend (open relationship) and a friend with benefits, both of which are trans women. So, the fact that she talked about wanting cis men specifically is what bothers me.

I tried to not let it get to me, I mean, we already did what some people do, we already went on a date, and we have another date for today... so she is interested in me at least a little, I would think. But the problem is that I constantly had this worry that people wouldn't love me or be interested in me the same because I'm a pre-op, pre-T trans guy. It also felt worse because she mentioned this during a really intimate experience, something I never really gave to anyone, not even my previous partners who I was already in established relationships with. She had made me feel more cared for and even loved than any other partner ever had and then she adds that to it.

I don't want to hold this against her, I doubt she meant it like that. We all have our things that keep us up and bother us... I just don't know how to feel after that. I'm not mad at Seraphina, I want to continue seeing her, just knowing that particular wish of hers left this weird feeling in my chest, like something heavy. I don't know.

Any advice or reassurance would be great, especially for someone who's never had an experience like this before.

So, before anyone says it, I'm (20) not listing the actual names since I want to remain anonymous in some way. But I will list fake names but list the real reasonings that make me want to go with the name but things that also make me hesitant of the name in question. I'm also transmasc and consider myself many identities under the nonbinary umbrella, so I'm open to masculine and/or androgynous names along with masculine/androgynous names that can have feminine nicknames (ex; Samuel to Sammy).

Daryl - I've been going by this name for almost three and a half years. Has many nicknames that I use and sounds professional when I use the full name. I also named myself after someone with this name who deeply inspired me. The issue is that I don't know how fitting this name really is for me anymore and sometimes it almost feels out-of-place when I introduce myself as Daryl or hear others refer to me as Daryl.

Colson - Colson is a name that's been floating around my head for a year now. It has many fun and good nicknames that I love, along with also having a feminine nickname that is my favorite nickname I've ever been called. I love the name itself. However, many people agree that it isn't a fitting name and that I should just stick to Daryl or go by a different name with a similar idea that just isn't Colson.

James - A very simple masculine name that is timeless. It's the nickname of a much more unique name that I loved (coming from someone who would prefer to have a more common name). Very easy to spell, it just doesn't have any nicknames I like, and I used to know someone with this name and I couldn't stand him. But we haven't spoken in like three years, so it isn't a huge deal.

Peter - Very simple, a classic name that I love. The problem is that it doesn't have any nicknames that I'm huge on and it's the name of someone who used to be a really close family friend. But the name always comes to mind whenever I'm considering names.

River - It was the very first name that I ever thought of when trying to name myself for the first time (8 years ago now!). It's also an androgynous name that sometimes leans more towards masculinity. Almost everyone in my life says I'm the most "River-looking-person they ever met". But it has no nicknames that go with it and it doesn't sound the most professional? But the name itself can be taken straight from one of my favorite jokes in a show ever.

Edward - The name itself sounds very professional, but I'd only use it for a nickname that came with it, even friends of mine said the nickname sounded cute. I don't know where the inspiration for the name came from other than hearing the nickname once and thinking it sounded good but also needing a more professional sounding name to go with it.

I'm also open to using double barrel names of any of these if anyone can't stick to just one!

For some context, I (20) was in an unhealthy relationship with someone who essentially slowly pushed me towards detransitioning.

We've been broken up for about two and a half months now but after we broke up, I was almost afraid of going back to masculinity and considering myself transmasc. Like there was this nagging voice in my head that told me that I would regret it if I went back to being who I was.

But I didn't listen to that voice.

My birthday was very recent and so I was taken on a shopping spree, and I bought a whole new wardrobe consisting exclusively of masculine clothing. On top of this, I decided to keep growing my hair out but was doing it for myself now (because we love long haired men) and I ordered my first rolls of trans tape recently and they should be here in a couple of days.

Despite this, I still kept experiencing dysphoria. Not only for the physical aspects (of course) but also for my voice and appearance in pictures. I always felt too feminine, no matter how hard I tried.

Well, yesterday I was leaving class and decided to take a selfie. No reason for it other than I thought my hair looked good (which it did, thank you). Today, I was looking for a new picture to put on my profiles since my other one was a few months old. I was then looking at my new selfie, really looking for the first time, and I felt something I haven't felt in so long.

Gender euphoria.

I was absolutely elated. With the shirt I was wearing, you couldn't tell that I had curves or anything of that nature! On top of this, with how my hair is growing and how my face shape changed with weight loss, I felt like I just looked like a guy with long hair! It was the best I had felt in months, and it made me realize that I wasn't going to regret this whatsoever.

Hi! I just need some help here and felt this was the right place!

So, I (20) have been questioning my gender a lot lately. I mentioned somewhere else (in multiple places, actually) that I can see my gender through lenses of being masculine, feminine, androgynous, etc. but not as male, female, nonbinary, etc., on top of the fact that pronouns feel unnecessary to me.

So, a few people agreed that it sounded like I was a transmasculine agender person (the transmasc part is from something else that isn't necessary to this post). So, I've decided to come here to try to get some perspective from other agender folks on what their gender looks like to them!

So, I (20M) am at my wits end with this.

So, I have a new dorm roommate (19F) who has absolutely no situational awareness. She'll have her screens up to maximum brightness during the night which lights up the entire room, she'll send voice notes and get on calls during this time, too. She exclusively eats loud snacks and food in the room at night (ex; loudly slurps on ramen or chews chips with her mouth open), and she's even started to take calls after she finally turns off her other devices in bed and will be the type of roommate to hit snooze on her alarm multiple times to the point that she'll only get up to check her phone and then immediately go back to bed (which did wake me up this morning). On top of this, she makes random noises and does various stims (which, I stim as well, not judging) and they're always noisy (ex; she'll chew on plastic bottles).

This has all been negatively affecting my sleep and I finally said something last night while she was on a call.

I told her calmly "Hey, can you please take your call outside? I need to get some sleep" (after I had been laid down for almost two hours and needed to get up early for morning classes). She proceeded to shut down and just started crying (I think, I could only hear sniffling and choked sounds but saw no tears) not long after I laid back down, started slamming her cup in response whenever she took a drink, and proceeded to do whisper really loudly/obnoxiously on the phone after she went to bed.

Needless to say, she still is doing a lot of stuff that is negatively impacting my sleep, and what's worse is that she's never outside of the room for longer than 30 minutes (outside of classes), so I can't even try to sleep when she isn't here (since she's always holed up in our dorm by 9:30pm and starts doing all these things) or even try to nap (and I don't like naps!). It finally reached a turning point today because of how things went out last night, I didn't get nearly enough sleep (not falling asleep until close to 1am) and ended up falling asleep during almost the entirety of one of my classes (the class in question being for my major, too).

Part of me wants to try to say something again, but I worry that it'll just warrant either the same or a similar reaction to last night. Another part of me wants to just pack up my shit and move to a new dorm (even if I risk losing AC and short walks to class, I could give less of a shit at this point). A third part of me wants to try to wait this out another week before revisiting this, because how do I even address some of these things, if at all (like, I can't tell her that she can't eat loud snacks at night anymore, what she eats isn't my business).

Any and all advice would be great. I'm also sorry if some of this is hard to understand, I'm getting more and more exhausted by the day and will clarify things as best I can if needed.

TLDR; My dorm roommate (19F) has been keeping me (20M) up at night with bright screens, loud snacks, late night voice notes and phone calls, and has even been repeatedly pressing snooze on alarms in the morning which has woken me up a few times. I tried setting boundaries with her, and it resulted in her crying so now I don't know how to go about any of this.

So, I (20M) go to college and something that I forgot was the fact that I get very easily irritated in the heat.

While we had very little AC at my job, I genuinely believed that the irritation came from the people I was surrounded by. But then I got to campus and realized from being in buildings with no AC all day that I just get genuinely irritated in the heat and it makes me not want to socialize with the people around me or do any of the things that I want/need to do.

In my dorm room, I have AC and a fan that I can sit in front of, but that's really it. I have a water bottle that I can use to hydrate, but it doesn't do a lot to cool me off. Any ideas on what I can do to help in situations where an AC isn't available and won't be too noisy?

I (20M) have to know because mine feels so weird!

Mine is Daryl Dixon from The Walking Dead, specifically from seasons 4-6. My hair is almost to his length in the later seasons, and my style is mostly flannels, plain shirts, and baggy pants now, along with big ol' shoes!

But it feels so right!

I'm curious to see who everyone's transition goal(s) is and am curious as to how much they're currently influencing your look.

So, the phrasing may sound weird, but I (19M) am curious since all of my friends in my life (none of which are trans) don't understand what I'm talking about when I bring this up.

To start, I only recently realized (and accepted) that I am transmasculine. This is something that has been very difficult for myself and so the fact that I'm finally accepting myself and making an effort to present as masculine is huge to me.

The thing is, is that I've been in the dating scene recently and have decided to take a break from it. I've wanted to wait until I can fully present as myself, figure out my name, and decide if I still want to keep my hair long (part of me really does since I get gender envy from Daryl Dixon from TWD). I want to truly be myself for the first time for when I'm back into dating and I didn't know if I could do that while still looking the way I do and not having myself figured out, if that makes sense.

Does anyone else understand this or have even done this themselves?

So, I (19M) am on both the asexual and aromantic spectrums. While I only use one label off the asexual spectrum, I use four off the aromantic spectrum, and so I had come to the realization that I primarily experience queerplatonic attraction when it comes to people. In my case, I can still technically experience romantic and sexual attraction, but it is very rare to the point of almost never happening.

Keep in mind that at this point, I had only been out as a biromantic asexual trans guy (as that's what I thought I was at the time of coming out as that, since this was before I realized I was simply on the asexual spectrum rather than just being completely asexual, this was before I realized I was on the aromantic spectrum at all, and this is before I was fully aware of what queerplatonic attraction was).

At this point, I consider myself transmasc (as I describe my gender as being male enough to be a significant part of my gender but not male enough to consider myself a binary man), while I use four pronoun sets, I like to use no pronouns the most... and, of course, what I already explained about my sexuality up top.

I finally decided to come out to a group of friends (ranging from 19 to 22) who were all queer in some way as well or claimed to be complete allies. Keep in mind, I didn't tell them I was transmasc (as I really didn't think it mattered that much to tell them that change in labels since it isn't a huge difference), but I told them I was on the aroace spectrums (didn't say specific labels as I didn't want to confuse anyone) and experienced queerplatonic attraction for both men and women.

The result? Not great.

There was a total of five people I came out to and only one of them had anything close to a positive reaction. The first person who responded was "Jordan" (20NB) and at first, it seemed like they were trying to ask questions and get an understanding of my sexuality, to which I answered the best I could. It took a long time for anyone else to respond after that, so I had fallen asleep before I could hear back from anyone else. And when I woke up? Catastrophic.

The second person who responded was "Stevie" (22F) and all she said was "Girl, what the f#ck?" and everyone was sending positive reactions to her message but didn't say anything. Then "Shauna" (22F) texted and just said "What on earth is queerplatonic?" And Jordan responded by saying "It's basically just having a close friend".

So, Shauna asked what the difference between just being close friends was and what queerplatonic attraction was and why I had to be so "extra". Jordan then responded by saying that it's apparently closer than traditional friendships (watering down what they said) and said that it was too complicated and just too much.

So, then Derek (21M) comes into the chat and tries to make a joke to lighten the mood and unintentionally (or intentionally, not sure) mocked me in the process. Everyone laughed at it and got them to calm down for a minute. But then the other asexual person in the group, "Josh" (19M) came in and explained what queerplatonic attraction was in a way that allowed everyone to understand what it was and they actually got it.

Bear in mind that I was asleep when this all went down, so I didn't see any of these messages from them until I woke up.

And what ended up being worse? Stevie suggested that I get kicked from the chat and the friend group for "mocking the LGBTQ+ community" and Jordan and Shauna agreed that they should, which ended up starting an argument between the three of them and Josh. At some point, they all just agreed to drop it and so I somehow haven't been kicked from the chat yet (or they just couldn't since it was just texts and not a social media platform, I don't know), but I'm still processing that they actually said this and that this all went down the way that it did.

I feel so lost.

Hey! So, I (19M) finally figured out the situation with my sexuality and why it felt so complicated, I just need help finding a word for it!

So, to start, I'm a transmasc guy. Plain and simple. I can experience romantic and intimate attraction exclusively to women. If that were all there was to it, I'd just call myself straight, but it's not.

The thing is, is that I recently discovered that I could experience queerplatonic attraction, too (as someone on the aroace spectrums), which is really cool and beautiful to me! But I experience it for both women and men! So, that's where a lot of the confusion is coming in.

Would I still be considered straight? Does this make me bi? Is there a different word for this? I just need a bit of help here.

So, I (19) know that I want to use she/they pronouns and would prefer a more feminine name.

But the thing is, is that I feel like 85% female, which is fine. But the other 15% is male. They don't feel like two separate things and coexist at once.

If there's a word for this, I'd love to hear it.

So, it's exactly what the title says, but let me add some more context.

So, I (19M) am asexual, arospec to the point where I'm just refusing to label who I am romantically attracted to since I almost never experience it anyway... and then there's queerplatonic attraction.

I've experienced queerplatonic attraction more than romantic attraction and I realized I've only experienced it with men/people who identified as men at the time of me feeling those things for them. So, I'm wondering if we label who we experience queerplatonic attraction for or if that's just something we leave alone.

So, I (19M) experience queerplatonic attraction as the main form of attraction (as someone who's both asexual and almost never experiences romantic attraction).

For the sake of this post, I'm only focusing on my queerplatonic attraction since I don't experience romantic attraction enough to care who I experience romantic attraction towards.

So, from what I know about myself, I've only ever experience queerplatonic attraction towards men. But one of the "men" I experienced this for was a transgender man at the time of us being together, but she recently came out and said she identified as a cisgender woman now.

I don't know if that changes things at all. I don't have this sort of attraction for her anymore, but I don't know if now that she's a woman that it may change the perspective of things.