r/TransAdvice

Its about me \[21F\] and my boyfriend \[21M\]
.. He wants to transition and I am so lost atm….

I'm a 14 year old member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and I have a lot of gender dysphoria. I was born male, but over the last year or so I've been feeling as though my gender at birth does not align with who I am or want to be.

The church has rules that state that, in short, I shouldn't go transgender. I have tried accepting that fact and praying about it but it has never helped me. I still feel deeply that my biological gender does not align with who I am.

I am not willing to leave my church over this. No matter what I choose, I know that I believe in Jesus Christ, but other than that, I'm not sure.

I have not brought this up to my parents, and I'm struggling feeling comfortable to do so. I know that my parents would be supportive of me, but I'm really shy and I can't bring myself to tell them.

I'm looking for help/advice from anyone who would like to give me some.

Hi im Marceline and I'm wondering how to start transitioning in college i don't know where to begin and I plan on getting a on campus job soon. Im not really out to my parents or family but plenty of my friend's know. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

hey all!! i’m a 20 year old trans man. for context, i do still live with my dad, my dad isn’t transphobic but is really awkward about the topic, and he is also extremely hardheaded about things he believes in. he’s known i was trans for 2 years since my college enrollment email outed my name to him.

my dad is very sure that letting me go on hrt would pose a risk to my health because of past experiences that lead to my mom’s death. long story short, she had arthritis and took medication to suppress the pain, but said medication left her more prone to developing cancer and of course the ~1% chance happened to her and they caught it too late. he’s just scared for me and doesn’t want to lose me from a medical risk that happened before, which i totally understand, but me and my gender therapist have both told him that going on hormones is a completely different idea. he refuses to believe it despite research and doesn’t want me on hormones, end of story. (i do look almost identical to my mom, which i think plays a part in his feelings as well as much as he wouldn’t want to admit it.)

now, all of that discussion happened back when i was 18 and i’ve just played nice and done it his way. but i’m so sick of living like this. going to a woke college and wanting to present as my real authentic self sounded like a perfect future, but looking like this makes me feel like a mess and it’s stunting me emotionally to unbelievable levels. i just feel like stuck and i can’t do anything about it. i know i don’t need to physically transition to be myself, but i just want to be who i envision. i’m sick of living in limbo for someone else

but here comes the other issue: my dad and i are finally on good terms after a lot of battles in my teenage years mostly over his evil ex. i finally feel like we’re in a good spot and i don’t want to break the peace by going behind his back. but he’s made it abundantly clear i cannot start hrt if he has anything to do with it. i don’t know what to do

any advice is appreciated. thank you for your time and i love you all 🫶

So I got a binder for my chest recently but I literally can't find anything on for to put it on properly, and I don't know what I am doing, any and all advise is needed 😅

Also, I am closeted, and will literally, not even joking be k!lled or diswoned if I came out. Also, at first I thought will get a job but wasn't able in tech. I am still looking for jobs, even if remote to get out of this hell.

I plan to myself disown my family once I become independent and leave this country. For the first time I dont even know how long, cos since a child I wanted to be a girl, I made the courage to buy the pills.

My family is so strict that I get taunted even if I go to a gym or ask them to buy bicycle.

My protein intake is literally negligible to none, cos my family prefers homemade vegetarian food instead of meat. Even try to get to a doctor for consultation but they told me to look for doctors in city.

Any help is much appreciated. Please help me get out of this hell.

Hi, I don’t think my age matters, but I’m having quite a lot of dysphoria. I considered transgender, but then realised I sometimes like being a girl (afab). But then sometimes I want top surgery and bottom surgery too. And the sometimes i don’t. I think I’d only get bottom surgery, but even then I’m not sure.

I think genderfluid fits me best, but I really need some help. I’m quite new to this, having only recently figured out I’m also a lesbian. I really need some help, every time I think about talking to my family I feel like crying (they’re very accepting, they know I’m a lesbian, and I love that they accept me, but I’m nervous). I really need help, not just reassurance that I’m valid. I need like, solutions, or something. Sometimes I want to take T, and sometimes I don’t, and it’s so, so confusing. Please help me.

Hi I am a bisexual trans man 20 years old I’ve been on testosterone for almost 2 years now, I am married and she been helping me a lot with the transition, but this part is something new she can’t exactly help with, and she has pushed me to seek advice in others that would be able to help me more. but before I transitioned I dated men and women and I still find both attractive but after transitioning my sexual preference have changed a bit but I don’t know how to navigate that because as a newly trans man and being married to a woman I was wondering if someone had been through a similar experience with this and how was it, I was just looking for some advice, I don’t have anyone in my personal life to help navigate this new part of my transition, so any advice is greatly appreciated.

Hi, I’m having a couple doubts right now about if I should transition or not. I’m 20, and questioning if I’m actually a trans woman or just a guy with an identity crisis. I live pretty decently as a guy, in terms of socializing with friends and family and all that. I think I could live the rest of my life as a man, and do so decently happy (maybe).

The only things I can’t imagine myself tolerating at all, as a man, are the aging process as a man (balding, growing gut, my own body ruining the only things I like about it. Will comment on the body thing later*), and romantic relationships. I can’t imagine myself in a relationship as a guy, and every fiber of my being says only a lesbian relationship would make me actually happy. Being seen as a man and having to introduce myself as a man also bothers me, but I wouldn’t call it intolerable like the previous things.

I need advice on how I follow through with questioning this. I want to arrive to the conclusion on my own and believe it fully, so I can follow through without looking back. I plan on going to grad school (dental school) as well, and I don’t want my chances of getting in to be decreased if transition makes me less happy or just slightly happier.

*about the body thing: I have relatively feminine proportions and curves, except boobs of course. My body falls in line with typical ranges for cis women of my height. and sometimes i just stare at the mirror looking at my hips, shoulders and butt. My face also looks like it would pass after some time on HRT. I also love my long curly hair and how it frames my face. I hate my body hair and how much I have, including facial hair. I do get some genitalia dysphoria as well. I hate the idea of having a penis and hate even more the concept of using it for anything inherently sexual.

Thanks, and please ask any questions if you’d like!

so for context I'm 15 turning 16 next year. in Argentina, until a few weeks ago, there was a decree that prohibited hrt for minors. now that that decree is gone (thank God), i want to start hormone therapy.

i wanna talk about it with my mum and ik i just have to say "mum i wanna start hrt" but I'm terrible with talking and might as well combust and cry before i even say anything, so how can i calm down as the situation unfolds before, during and after telling her? I'm not even sure what to say besides i want hrt 🫩

lately my dysphoria has gotten really bad and i want to start hrt to hopefully alleviate that. the problem is i suck at talking to my parents about emotional stuff. when i came out to them i had to do it in a text message.

i dont want to be like “not being on hrt makes me want to die” but i really want to express how much this means to me

any idea on how to communicate this to them?

Every time I try girl clothes I grt a bit of euphoria then I realize how bad I look in them and the euphoria stops, which is bad, I likey euphoria.

Hi, this is my first post on Reddit and I need help finding out some things about myself. I am a (currently) male bisexual 15 year old who wants to transition into being a female but I’m not sure if I’m too young or if I should do it at all, I’ve already spoken to my mum about it and she had mixed opinions so I wasn’t really sure if I was ready yet, I’ve tried contacting hotlines and stuff but I was never able to reach anybody as they were usually always on call.

I’ve thought about buying lipstick or maybe even trying nail polish but i haven’t worked up the courage yet to buy any, even online feels too risky.

I’ve also asked my mum if I could try some of her nail polish while telling her about my situation and she deflected, saying that "I don’t need to be a girl to try nail polish."

The question I’m asking here is if I’m too young to transition, the desire to be a girl has been lingering in the back of my mind for around a year and a half now and if I’m honest has kept me awake most nights thinking about what it would be like to transition.

And as much as I’d like to transition, there are things that are stopping me.

The friends that I have made over the course of my life.

I’m not sure if they would accept me if I transitioned into a girl, not that they’re transphobic, (I hope not) but because it would just feel different. And the people in my school aren’t the best with LGBTQ+ people either, I’m sure like atleast half of my school is somewhat homophobic..

Basically, I’m confused on whether I should transition now or maybe later on in life, maybe when I go to uni or something.. and if anybody has any tips on maybe trying on lipstick or trying on dresses, that would be such a big help!!

Thank you.

Hello everyone 👋, I met my friend 5 months ago online but have been have been pretty close this past 3 months, and as time goes on we only become better friends. My question is is it okay for me to ask them about their gender dysphoria and how I can make our conversation more comfortable if they haven't brought it up to me one to one? For context we have each other on our private social media accounts and I noticed sometimes they would post about their gender dysphoria and how hard it has been on them. They currently are gender fluid but in private they have mentioned being closeted transgender and going by he/him on their private account posts. And I want to support them as much as possible such as using their preferred pronouns wen we talk with each other but I'm not sure if it's right for me to ask since they haven't mentioned it or if I'm overstepping since we haven't known each other that long. And I want to get to know this part of them as well but I'm scared to overstep. Is it okay to ask and if it is what's the best way to ask and start the conversation. Thank you!

okay so like my dysphoria has been getting super super bad lately and I dont really know what to do but i think a binder would help, the only issue is i live w my parents who im not out to so I cant get one offline, if anyone knows stores that sell them in ontario canada then it would be super helpful (also i cant diy one cuz i cant sew or measure fabric for shit lol)