u/SinArchbishop0fSloth

Hi, I used to be a big time gamer, now not so much due to academic pressure. My current gf, on the other hand, has very less experience, only as far as occassional candy crush or subway surfers. So computer games are out of question. It'd be nice to get some game recommendations on mobile we can co-op or pvp on (preferrably free) that has low skill floor and can be played while we are afar (ie- online).

Thank you in advance :)

My girlfriend (19F) recently told me that I (22M) give off “feminine energy,” and even said I might have more of it than she does. She clarified that she doesn’t see it as a bad thing, but it’s been stuck in my head ever since.

The thing is, I can kind of see where she’s coming from, but I don’t know what to do about it.

Around her, I tend to be very soft, gentle, and emotionally expressive. I can get a bit “baby-like” sometimes, and I’m more nurturing than dominant. Part of it might be because we've only been dating for around a month and I'm taking it slow because she said it's her first relationship and I don't want to hurt her anyhow.

What’s confusing is that in some ways, our roles feel reversed:

- She’s into sports, more stoic, doesn’t do much “nakhra/nyakami" (translation: cringe romantic shit) and is more politically right-leaning.

- I’m into films, music, manga, and literature, more expressive, like to cook and more left-leaning.

Because of this, I sometimes feel like she comes across as more “masculine” than me, which honestly messes with how I see myself in the relationship.

This also hits an old insecurity: when I was younger, I struggled with feeling like I came off as “too girly.” I thought I had moved past that, but now I’m second-guessing myself again. She also mentioned when we started dating that she thought I'm bisexual, which I'm not although I'm a pretty vocal ally. I didn't think much of it back then but this issue made me remember it lol.

I don’t want to fake a personality or give up the things I genuinely enjoy. But at the same time, I do want my partner to see me as masculine and be attracted to me that way.

So I guess what I’m trying to understand is:

What does “feminine energy” actually mean in a relationship context, and how can I come across as more masculine/grounded without losing my personality or becoming someone I’m not?

Edit: thanks for so many replies. Most of them were super helpful and encouraging, and even if they were not, I still appreciate the gesture that y'all cared. So thank you. I'd like to add some things:

1. Nyakami is a bengali word, it's my first language. The english term didn't come to mind at first so I added it later in edits. I outgrew the weeb phase at 15 lol so I get it.
2. I talked it out with my girl. I showed her this post too. She said she is really sorry I felt that way and she should've put it in better wording. She meant it as a compliment and didn't think it might come off as judgemental (she is very socially awkward). She did say sorry multiple times and also reassured me that she adores those qualities in me.
3. I think I like these traits. You guys are right, let's not put everything to traditional gender norms. Yes I love literature, I love to cook, I hate sports and I am sensitive. And that's me. And I don't entirely hate it :)

That's all guys. Really, thanks for taking the time to help me out. It will be remembered.