u/Six_Foot_Se7en

I (50M) work retail as a second job, and had been in no contact for the past 3 weeks with my ex (45F) after a very intense but short term relationship. She wanted to take a step back because “things were moving too quickly” even though she was the one that took things to that level quickly and I was just following her energy.

Yesterday, she walked into my workplace (where she approached me and introduced herself, which resulted in us dating) and walked up to me and said hi. We talked a little about our kids, and when I asked how she was doing, I just got a “ok” with a half hearted smile. She commented how she was in the store with her kids 3 days ago, and her son said how he hoped I was there because he liked me and I was nice.

She then said that her kids didn’t know we haven’t been hanging out (they were on vacation with their dad for 2 weeks) and I was “mad at her”. I corrected her and told her that I wasn’t mad at her, just hurt and confused. I told her that all of this was a misunderstanding that could have been solved with communication. She smiled and said “do you think so?’ I got the vibe from her that she missed me and regretted the breakup.

I told her that we were building something special and I didn’t want to throw it away. We talked a little more and she went to buy a few things.

When she left, we hugged and I told her “when you’re comfortable and ready, I want to see you again”. She smiled and said “ok” and walked away. I haven’t heard from her since I saw her about 15 hours ago.

So now she knows I’m not angry, and open to reconciliation, and I’m honoring her need for space. The ball is in her court now….

I (50M) work retail as a second job, and had been in no contact for the past 3 weeks with my ex (45F) after a very intense but short term relationship. She wanted to take a step back because “things were moving too quickly” even though she was the one that took things to that level quickly and I was just following her energy.

Yesterday, she walked into my workplace (where she approached me and introduced herself, which resulted in us dating) and walked up to me and said hi. We talked a little about our kids, and when I asked how she was doing, I just got a “ok” with a half hearted smile. She commented how she was in the store with her kids 3 days ago, and her son said how he hoped I was there because he liked me and I was nice.

She then said that her kids didn’t know we haven’t been hanging out (they were on vacation with their dad for 2 weeks) and I was “mad at her”. I corrected her and told her that I wasn’t mad at her, just hurt and confused. I told her that all of this was a misunderstanding that could have been solved with communication. She smiled and said “do you think so?’ I got the vibe from her that she missed me and regretted the breakup.

I told her that we were building something special and I didn’t want to throw it away. We talked a little more and she went to buy a few things.

When she left, we hugged and I told her “when you’re comfortable and ready, I want to see you again”. She smiled and said “ok” and walked away. I haven’t heard from her since I saw her about 15 hours ago.

So now she knows I’m not angry, and open to reconciliation, and I’m honoring her need for space. The ball is in her court now….