u/Skiesofamethyst

Prior to surgery I was quite femme. I went on T for a very short time and I’m only ever gendered publicly as female. I wear more button ups these days but that’s it.

Ever since top surgery, dating has been impossible. It’s really starting to get me down. I’m starting to feel like I need to make myself hyper femme in order to attract women again, but that makes me uncomfortable these days. I hate that I feel like my social worth was dependent on me having sacks of fat on my chest that I didn’t even like.

I’m nowhere near masc enough to date straight women. Bi/pan women I’ve encountered seem to prefer their “girls to look like girls and boys to look like boys”. Sapphic women don’t seem to like me without tits. I’m always hearing about masc shortage but in practice it seems everyone wants to date a femme.

I know there’s a broad lesbian history here with butches and top surgery, but this sucks. I hate feeling like I have to mask who I am in order to find a partner.

Hi, so in my case I’m fairly certain I injured my femoral nerve doing a deep couch stretch too suddenly and forcing it. During this stretch my legs tingled and went numb, but I only held it for like 10-20 seconds so I didn’t think much of it—- my legs fall asleep all the time if I sit on them wrong and I’ve never had any issues, so I genuinely didn’t know it could cause damage. Stupid, I know. I did this stretch after doing some leg PT exercises, beginning with a single leg squat, which I hadn’t done in awhile, so that might be contributing to the stiffness I now feel. But my muscles definitely weren’t “cold” when I did this stretch. I did not stretch before the exercises, either. (Atp idk if I should or not??? Since you can also just get hurt stretching??? How tf do you do this )

Anyways, I didn’t notice until later that I had numbness and swelling above my knee and now my whole leg is stiff. Trying not to panic and hoping it’s not permanently damaged from 15 seconds of a nice stretch.

Seeing a PT/orthopedic urgent care after work today, but is really love some basic basic beginners workout tips to avoid injury, because at this point I consider myself as having started easy with my PT exercises — I don’t even reach the max amount my pt recommended me. Despite this, despite trying to get into shape and take better care of my body, I have had three muscle, tendon, and now nerve injuries in the last twelve months, and around five or six in the last two years. Which, as you can imagine, significantly sets back my progress on getting my body in shape.

I do not go to a gym. I’m literally barely doing body weight exercises, I’m not doing any heavy lifting, so I haven’t seen a purpose and I haven’t had money. I’m not obese and I don’t have any connective tissue disorders. But lately it seems like I was born with paper skin and glass bones, every morning I break my arms and every evening I break my legs. I love aging and falling apart and dying.

Anyways I’m 29 and real tired of getting injured. Any pro tips would help please. Thank you.

Hi guys, I’m not going crazy on the body building or anything just trying to keep up with my physical therapy and get into a bit better shape. Part of my physical therapy are exercises that strengthen supportive muscles around my knees, half of which I do supine and the other half I so standing.

Last time I did my exercises I had a HORRIBLE vasovagal reaction following my workout. This has never happened to me before ftr. I had started supine then did a couple of my standing exercises focused on my calves, basically. I’m almost certain I didn’t wait long enough between these exercises but yanno, you live and you learn. Anyways I got super nauseous, went to the bathroom and saw that my lips were blue so I went into recovery mode(I’m a phlebotomist so I know the drill) and got myself sat down with an ice pack on my neck. Almost passed out(was barely coherent to ask for a bucket/let my roomies know) and was dripping non-workout related sweat, 0/10 would not recommend.

Anyways I think it would be very chic to not experience that again! I am pretty sure my problem was in trying to do standing exercises too close to when I had done laying down exercises. With this in mind, does anyone know of any good cooldown exercises post supine exercise?

Thankfully I’m vaccinated so I’m hoping this won’t be as extreme as when I got covid the first time. I have a low grade fever and I’m staying hydrated. Can’t call my pulmonologist’s nurse triage line until tomorrow when they open. So far just body aches and congestion. Should I be prophylactically using my rescue x amount of times during this? Any tips?

Not a fan of 1st person pov!

But I’m hoping to find a book with this premise. Would prefer NOT to have physical abuse — I want to read a book that’s just pure raw MESSY humans who REALLY shouldn’t be together, but they can’t bring themselves to be apart. Ideally where they have tried leaving multiple times but emotional manipulation pulls them back into it. The true whirlwind of a toxic relationship. Miscommunication trope abound is fine ONLY if it’s due to them genuinely having a normal human inability to communicate properly, rather than just not talking to each other about something for no reason. Think the misunderstandings between an autistic person and an allistic person lol.

Ideally not a young adult novel — adult fiction of any genre is preferred.

ETA: ideally would prefer that the points of miscommunication be genuine human miscommunication and shouting/unhealthiness, rather than something like jealousy or cheating

I feel like I’m a minority in the lesbian community. All the jokes and relating stories are about uhauling. People I’ve tried dating are the same and want to commit after a few dates. I feel like I need to build a connection first??? Granted I’m maybe on the aro spectrum (Demi or greyro, in that I rarely find people I’m romantically attracted to or it takes time for me to be attracted to them) but even when I didn’t identify as that and was having more frequent romantic attraction, every time I did any uhaul situation it was a horribly codependent relationship which erased who I was as a person in favor of the other. Like neverrrr again!!! Why is this so normalized??? I’m happy for y’all but I really feel like it’s not a healthy practice to move in with someone after only a month or two of dating 😭😭😭 at least not for myself ig

It had photos and videos of my pets who have passed, friends I don’t talk to, family. Everything. It had documents of my old stories that I used to write. I had been using it and kept it in a certain pocket of my purse that I never open. My dumbass adhd. Remembered I’ve been using it lately for the last two weeks to put my keys in.

It’s gone. Ten years of memories gone.

I know I only have myself to blame . I should have had multiple backups. But I couldn’t afford a terabyte and additional flash drives.

I’m in shock right now.

Hi guys, I am switching to symbicort as my maintenance med because it has felt more helpful for me than the powder inhaler, which seems to irritate my VCD. My doctor to me to go ahead and switch, however he gave me no guidance on whether I can just… switch directly or if I need to taper or what. I don’t meet with him until Monday. I’m debating if I should wait until then, but my lungs have been hurtin’ lately, so I’d like to get a handle on it sooner if possible. Does anyone have any experience on this?

For reference, I had been on 250/50 wixela (advair) for about six months, switched over to 500/50 a couple weeks ago. I’ve been using symbicort as a sort of rescue inhaler for more minor attacks for about a month (still using albuterol when needed ofc) and found it to be more helpful than the six months on wixela… generally I’ll have a VCD attack shortly after taking the wixela.

Hi friends, as always ymmv. I have both asthma and VCD, they tend to be connected for me so my breathing issues will generally respond to bronchodilator inhalers. I haven’t seen a speech therapist yet but I’m scheduled to next month. I’ve tried tracheal massage from videos on YouTube, pursed lip breathing, two short breaths then a ssss sound, and of those the massage helps the best but isn’t perfect. Usually I’m just stuck doing the rescue breathing techniques for an hour straight before I give up and turn to my inhaler.

After a round of prednisone and still having some shortness of breath pretty consistently throughout the day, on a whim I decided to try yawning a bunch of times in a row. And like… the difference is so noticeable!!! I have yawned about a million times today because of how often I feel it start to come on but I feel like I can breathe properly for the first time in idk how long?? I mean the prednisone helped a lot by the last day or so that I was on it, but I was still having a couple VCD attacks during the day. Generally tracheal massages would help but not as effectively as this seems to.

I find during an attack, it is harder to yawn at first! Just keep trying your best and by the end of it you should be able to get a full yawn. Maybe something to do with the tightness of the muscles??

This time I’ve barely had to rely on medicine for my shortness of breath… I’m hoping this continues to help me because I’m tired of this grandpa. And I hope this can help someone else who is suffering!!

Hi guys, I’m on my second round of prednisone ever (only recently got the asthma diagnosis about half a year ago give or take) and the first round did… not go well. I had severe chest pain and tightness and shortness of breath, heart palpitations, vision problems, the works at 40mg. It also gave me severe acid reflux which I’m sure exacerbated the problem, and I hadn’t known I was supposed to be taking albuterol while on it that time. I ended up stopping after 3 days because it was deeply uncomfortable. Immediately after I stopped, I experienced extreme lung itchiness and had the worst asthma attack yet. This was back in December I think, before I was on a maintenance inhaler(wixela) and montelukast. Montelukast and allergy meds helped the most, wixela helped a little at the 250 dosage

We just moved out of our previous apartment which has mold in the walls, into a new build, and pollen season has started, so my asthma has actually been worse than before we moved. My doc changed my protocol to include symbicort as a rescue inhaler, which helped a lot with reducing my attacks, but I was still having to use it pretty consistently for a week or so, so my doctor had me start a much lower dose of prednisone at 20mg for 5 days because of my poor reaction last time. This time I started taking antacids preemptively and it helped, but my asthma has gradually been worsening the longer I’m on prednisone. (I discontinued the symbicort and am just using Albuterol as rescue so that I’m not tripling up on corticosteroids). I’ve been experiencing tbe itchy lungs thing since I’ve been on it and I’m having to use my albuterol 4-6 times a day. They’re not severe attacks but uncomfortable and I’d like to be able to breathe.

Everyone I’ve seen talk about prednisone describes it as a miracle drug, but I have had the opposite experience... I know it’s definitely asthma because it was confirmed with pft, I also have vcd with my asthma but these attacks have been responding well to my inhaler.

Is there any reason prednisone WOULDNT work and would make me worse like this…? Maybe an intolerance to the medication? At this point I’m on day 3 and apprehensive whether stopping will help or make it worse. I’m at my wits end.

I was trying to research this and couldn’t find much conclusive information for what I was looking for. Did men ever wear bracelets in Ancient Rome/Greece 1st century b.c.? I know that soldiers were awarded bracelets similar to the Celtic torqs and wealthy women wore bracelets, but did freedmen ever wear them to cover up slavery scars from shackles due to the stigma of slavery/risk of being perceived as a runaway? Did any of these jewelry gender behaviors differ in Roman controlled states like Ancient Greece around this time? What other types of jewelry would men wear in this time period?

I imagine the risk of being perceived as effeminate would discourage or prevent men from wearing much jewelry — however, in considering freedman, would it have been better to be perceived as a potential runaway or as effeminate? Was this (covering with jewelry) even something that freedman would have considered as an option? Or did they just wear their scars proudly despite widespread cultural discrimination?

Hello, my doctor just prescribed me symbicort as a rescue inhaler to better control my asthma. Honestly the first time I used it worked great and my asthma remained calmed down for the rest of the day. The downside is that I often tend to need my inhaler when I’m on public transit, where I’m sometimes sitting for an hour or longer, where rinsing my mouth after using the inhaler isn’t possible. What should I do in these cases?