u/SkyGuy202303

For context, my 2 young daughters (eldest is 4 and the youngest is nearly 3) know who I am. They do call me dad. I live in a different state (next state over, and moved partly for work and also partly for my safety). I also speak to them via videocall 2x a week, and fly to visit them every other month. But, they call me Daddy (my name).

It’s been a while they called me just ‘dad’.

My ex wife moved on pretty quickly after the separation (start of 2024) with her now partner (on the scene after several months). Anyway, my daughters call him Daddy Carlin, and me as Daddy (my name).

I had a pretty strong bond with my daughters before the separation; multiple friends and colleagues saying it’s disrespectful to not be called dad. At least for now, and while my daughters are having this concept ingrained onto the minds. If that makes sense.

Just wanting thoughts on if kids would find this confusing as they get older, if other people would also find it disrespectful if they were in my position.

For further context, my ex was an abusive narcissist that still makes my life hell as often as possible. I’ve spent thousands on lawyers fees on trying to get fairness in terms of custody and justice.

For context, my 2 young daughters (eldest is 4 and the youngest is nearly 3) know who I am. They do call me dad. I live in a different state (next state over, and moved partly for work and also partly for my safety). I also speak to them via videocall 2x a week, and fly to visit them every other month. But, they call me Daddy (my name).

It’s been a while they called me just ‘dad’.

My ex wife moved on pretty quickly after the separation (start of 2024) with her now partner (on the scene after several months). Anyway, my daughters call him Daddy Carlin, and me as Daddy (my name).

I had a pretty strong bond with my daughters before the separation; multiple friends and colleagues saying it’s disrespectful to not be called dad. At least for now, and while my daughters are having this concept ingrained onto the minds. If that makes sense.

Just wanting thoughts on if kids would find this confusing as they get older, if other people would also find it disrespectful if they were in my position.

I (M34) have been thinking of proposing to my gf (F36).

Have been married once before which ended up with a separation 2 years ago, with the divorce being finalised last year. I was burned and completely lost myself. Also had to deal with a lot of abuse.

Last year, met my current partner. Funny, patient, supportive, open minded, happy to talk and spend quality time together. Anyway, my current partner and I recently celebrated our 12 month anniversary.. honestly, for the longest time, she makes me feel like I’m at home whenever I see her and spend time with her. We’re also living together.

But as for thinking of proposing, what’s an ‘ideal” time to do so? Some people propose sooner. Some later on. Just after some different thoughts/opinions.

Tl;dr wanting to propose to my current partner but not sure when the right time is as I’ve been caught off guard (in a good way) and have been burned from a previous marriage.