u/SleepingontheWing205

I posted here a few weeks ago about how I really wanted to declutter because I felt overwhelmed with stuff, and am having major trouble keeping my house in order. I am also worried about decluttering leading to me buying more stuff in the future that I don’t need, leading to a big declutter and over consume cycle.

Anyway, you were all really great. And thanks to your advice and encouragement, I have gotten rid of over 100 items. And the best part is, nothing (well, other than expired food) was really thrown out. I spent a LOT of time listing everything on buy nothing and handing over literally hundreds of items to my neighbors. And although it was a pain, and it would have been easier to just dump it, or put it in a bin to “donate” (where they might dump it)- it felt really good to get stuff into the hands of people who wanted it!!

Now, I’m looking with a much sharper eye about what to bring into our home. And I will try to have my partner do the same. It’s hard because gifts are my love language - so I tend to treasure my gifts and also I’m a bit of a sentimental hoarder. But you guys suggested A Slob Comes Clean, and I’ve listened to a bunch of episodes and it really helped me - especially with the idea of containers (anything I want to keep has to fit into this container).

I also identified some problem areas in my home and purchased a few more trash cans, and so far it’s helping.

Anyway, thank you!!! It feels like a really good step to take.

I have a pretty good job making 165K in a HCOL area - corporate job and only a few days in office a week. I like what I’m doing and I’ve advanced my career here - I’ve been promoted and doing things that will help my future. That said - my bosses are …. Toxic.

I’ve been in my field for 11+ years and I’ve had bad bosses and frustrating jobs. My current bosses though, they are bad in a way that I’ve never encountered. They are incredibly smart and skilled, much better than me (although they are 20-30 years older than me) - but they truly make me feel like a child and an idiot.

I think I’m good at my job and have a lot of qualities that have generally made me pretty well liked in the workplace - but despite my best efforts, my bosses are just kind of nasty. Sometimes they are so sweet, so fun, all chatty and joking. The next - they are so rude - they’ll criticize in ways that make it a personal attack to me, not the work, saying things like “you either don’t understand, or you don’t care”, or getting super passive aggressive and scolding, or they’ll ignore us while we’re trying to meet and text each other. It’s truly mean girl behavior.

I’m burned out. We just finished up a project that went EXCELLENTLY - I thought that would buy me some good will. Nope! Today they were more nasty than ever. It feels like no matter how I succeed - it doesn’t matter. They’ll also just go out of their way to make passive aggressive comments to insult me. I want to quit. But I don’t have another job lined up.

How do I get through this???? I don’t know to handle their jabs and cattiness. I really should stay in order to be finically responsible - I have big life events coming up - but I can’t stop fantasizing about telling them I’m quitting. Help! Convince me that I have it good!!!

There really isn’t a perfect subreddit for this, so I’ll put it here. I’m struggling with finding a balance between having too much stuff AND the declutter/over-consume cycle - both from an anti consumption standpoint but also a financial standpoint.

On the one hand - I often keep things for years and then do end up using them! Things like crafts or hobbies I’m not currently into, clothing that I’m not loving but then fall back in love with years later, costumes that are perfect for certain events or themes that I may not have been to in years, etc. But on the other hand - I struggle to keep the apartment clean, I feel like we have the place packed to the max.

I live in a major city, so my apartment is small and I feel overwhelmed by how much stuff I have. I traveled for work recently and felt the relief of how much easier it was to keep things tidy when I had less. However - I’m scared that I’m telling myself I want to declutter but worried I’l rebuy later.

Does anyone have any advice??? As far as getting rid of the stuff goes, that’s pretty easy because we have a very active buy nothing community so it’s easy to get rid of stuff.

I’d love to just hear your rationale on how you choose what to get rid of and what you choose to keep.