u/Sleepy_SpiderZzz

Since the news about the Cornell frat I've heard a lot of American victims/survivors say that you should report assaults directly to a rape crisis hotline rather than going through the schools given how often they cover it up.

Has anyone here had to go through this process? I understand the official UQ advice but I'd rather hear what people who have actually lived through it would prefer.

edit: to be clear this isn't looking for personal or time sensitive advice. Just looking to start a discussion.

Before some butthurt professor starts with me, no I'm not talking about unreasonable accommodations and yes I understand that you need to vent. Nothing I'm going to write here will contradict that. I won't name the subreddit here to prevent brigading but I'm assuming many others here lurk in the same places and will know exactly what I'm referencing. When someone mentions a student asking for a common and straight forward accommodation (no cold calling) for social anxiety, the response should not be to start planning how exactly you can harass them. Exposure therapy is done in a controlled environment with consent, not by some dork with one-sided beef with a teenager going out of their way to aggravate their condition. It is so obvious that many of you (yes I know you also lurk here too) just honest to god hate the disabled. Even if it's just a revenge fantasy it is repulsive. Sort yourselves out.

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this was the upvoted plan for responding to a social anxiety accommodation

>You tell her you won’t cold call on her. Tell her now every single time there is a question she will be the first person you call on.

>It’s no longer cold, it’s scheduled. Every, single, question…… every, single, time…..

>Then. Don’t ever call on anyone through the whole semester as a personal challenge.

Hi, I just started Judo and I'm having a lot of trouble keeping my chin tucked into my body when I fall. Like everything will be in the right position but as soon as I make impact I don't have the neck strength to keep my head from whipping away. Are there any tricks or tips before I give myself whiplash? Or is this just a case of needing to continue practising?

I find the idea of semiotics very interesting but I'm not sure where to start. I have already checked the FAQ and didn't see anything obviously relevant. Anything from videos to books would be a big help, just need a jumping off point.

For context I'm a woman. First time riding since the laws came into effect. I'm riding according to the law when a group of guys stop me from moving forward and start yelling at me that I'm breaking the rules and filming me. Later a guy takes a sneaky pic of me on the cycleway even though, again, I wasn't doing anything illegal. A ford ranger also almost flattened me but that's probably unrelated, they're always doing that.

I'm so glad my government has given weird men a new excuse to antagonise me. I feel so safe.

I have room for one more elective and thought this would be fun. It's adjacent enough to my major but I'll just skip over if it's a pain in the ass.

I'm sure we're all used to coming up against reminders that we are not the intended participant in society but how alien would society look if you were considered the default human being?

I think in my world every public place would be near silent and full off little nooks and crannies to crawl into. There would always be some sort of wall to have my back up against. Like a cosy ant mound.

I had a really rough semester for non-uni related reasons that really cut into my study time. I had to prioritise my other subjects. As a result I'm pretty sure I'm going to bomb a specific exam and by extension the rest of the course and have to retake it over the summer.

Is it possible to make up for the lost GPA if I do well the second time? I think it should be but I'm having anxiety spirals and my brain keeps insisting I'm doomed forever and that everyone is going to boo me off campus so I need the perspective of the mentally normal.

I swear it has gotten SO bad recently. Yes I know why, yes I know this is an old topic but I need to rant.

I take the train often and every time I'm on it is markedly worse. I have come across a man blasting full volume ai generated erotica then staring daggers at me for daring to come into "his" carriage. I have seen people taking up four seats at once during peak hour multiple times. I've seen a guy riding a skateboard up and down the aisle while the train was moving, falling (almost onto another passenger), then proclaiming "what the fuck?" as though the train did something wrong. Someone at one point coated the train inside and out in silly string.

I'm not exaggerating when I say most days I see a new type of inconsiderate and frankly stupid behaviour. Also if you're planning on telling me to confront them or stop complaining shove it. I'm not getting into a fight with a fuckwit who might have a violent tantrum, I have places to be.

My state government has completely fucked the trains up and now every other time I take them in there's a massive delay. Last time what was meant to be cleared in 15 minutes ended up taking hours and they never even bothered to send buses to make up for it. My classes were over by the time they got the train moving.

Now I have to seriously consider moving closer but rent is also fucked (thanks largely to the same government) so it's going to suck ass either way.

I don't want to hear "just take an earlier train" I AM TAKING EARLIER TRAINS. I can go multiple hours early and still get fucked over.