u/Sleester

Generally I consider myself open minded. I like pinups and nudes, naughty jokes, and on my profile I mention my sexual orientation and that I'm polyamorous. I'm not usually easily offended. However, today I got a message on a card that truly offended me.

The content of the message was that he's married but has cheated on his wife with 3 different women that he's met through postcrossing, and then he says "so that makes me a little polyamorous too, huh? 😉" That really shocked me. Like no, no it doesn't. Polyamory involves open and honest communicating. Cheating is lying and hiding things from someone, it's without their consent, and potentially putting them at physical risk. I've never had a postcrosser confess something like this before, and honestly it makes me feel quite sick to my stomach.

I'm on the fence still about whether to report him, as me mentioning details about myself in my profile obviously promted him to tell me what he did. Ugh, this just made me feel so awful to read.

Native Dutch speakers:

My dad says growing up he only every heard "censored cusses" from his parents and their friends. Was this pretty common back in the day, and do people still do this? Or is it only people's really elderly, conservative Omas and Opas that do this?

The main one i remember was "pot verdoorie" or something along those lines. Is "sjee minee" a censored cuss as well? Apologies, i have no idea how these would actually be spelled. Are there any others?

EDITED TO ADD: Bedankt allemaal! Thank you for your responses! Reading all the variations has really amused me!