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Dear, Mystic, cat daddy

Look, I’ve told you that I have deleted your number. I don’t know what else to tell you I’m not going to contact you first this time. If you wanna talk to me, you know where I am. My number is not changed. I have not moved. I’m tired of reaching out to nothing. I reach out for you to “ leave me on read” “ ghost me” . And yet you’re still always asking me to contact you first so that when I do, you can say well you contacted me first you started this. I don’t wanna start it again.
I’m tired of being the mouse to your cat. I chose. I chose a peaceful life so you can keep your apologies cause they mean nothing. I’m not gonna call you. I’m not gonna come to your house. Not that I’d even know where that is. I left because I couldn’t handle who you had become. And I don’t wanna give you a chance to show me you’re somebody different just so you can change back into the devil that I know. Yeah we were friends for 30 years, but we were never really friends. You were just waiting to add me as a notch to your belt. And I fell for your charms. For much longer than I’d like to admit. But now I see through them. And I’m done with the games and the power the plays

Best wishes
The librarian

So I was married to a man for seven years with him together a total of eight years. Now the first two years he took baths regularly. Yes, he did have some strange eating habits, such as eating an entire extra large pizza by himself and I do mean meat lovers with everything. But I just figured that was one of the quirks of his personality. I also noticed that occasionally he went without brushing his teeth, but I thought OK. He’s just working a lot and I would just remind him to brush his teeth in the morning.

Then we got married!!! then all hygiene stopped. He stopped brushing his teeth. He stopped bathing I mean; unless I would bathe him because he said it aligned his chakras. (I didn’t know anything chakra at this point )And it’s true that men do get a gross thing around their Schmechel if they are not circumcised and he was not. I would constantly worry about him getting an infection. His teeth would be orange from the hot sauce because he would eat hot sauce on everything. Again, which wasn’t a problem when we were dating because he was still brushing his teeth, but once we got married, he stopped. Also, he wouldn’t wear real pants even to work. He got in trouble for it multiple times because he insisted on wearing shorts and they were always cargo shorts and they would be covered in holes and no matter how many times I bought new pairs he would ruin them in days the shirts I would buy he would grow out of within weeks and you can only go up to a size 4X at Walmart. Eventually….

I came to the realization that my mental health problems and my physical health problems were maybe not all my fault. Physically, I could no longer keep up with the amount of chores because at that time we didn’t know yet that I had chronic fatigue disorder, but I didn’t know that I had heart condition and it was starting to weaken me so keeping the house clean had now, become an even bigger chore, keeping him clean, had even become an even more chore and I started to realize I was just raising him.

Thankfully, I had a case manager, as I was kind of a shut-in at a time at the time and I didn’t really know that all this was kind of not normal because he would lock me in the house for months. We had a door that had a double lock and he would just take both keys with him. So the case manager realizes there’s a problem and starts helping me find a way out.

So after eight years of cleaning up after him, taking care of him, cleaning him and trying to heal myself, I left. I left everything but honestly living in that basement for a year was much better than living with him.

I hope that whoever is saying that these people may be suffering with depression that you never have to meet one of these people who just simply does not care about themselves and would rather have you care about them because it’s validating for them. Yes, depression does cause you to forget your hygiene and to maybe not brush your teeth for a while and not eat good and sleep a lot but most people get help because it’s traumatizing for us and the first thing we do is take a bath because it’s helpful and it feels good.

Anyway, stop counting your bad hygiene just depression. Sometimes you just have bad hygiene.

Dear young one,

It doesn’t matter if you’re my son or my daughter or neither. I just want to hear from you. I wanna know about you. I know I have no right to ask, but I would accept you no matter what. But I can’t get to know you if you don’t give me a chance.

Love

Mom

So I found a post on the unsent project that was under my name starting with a K so I’m gonna say, and it said “ I wish you could accept me as your son. But you’ll only ever see me as your daughter.”