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I genuinely want to understand this because I’ve noticed it happening quite a few times.
I was walking with my 16-year-old cousin recently, and she’s very small and looks closer to 12. An older man who looked around 40 approached her and asked what school she went to. She told him she was 14, and he still continued being persistent.

This isn’t the first time I’ve seen older men approach girls who are clearly very young. I honestly don’t understand what the thought process is, especially when they find out the girl is underage and still continue pursuing her.

Idk, men, can you actually come forward and explain this? 😭 Is this something that’s culturally normalized in Zimbabwe, or is there another reason this seems to happen so often?

A while ago I made a post about the struggles of dating as an attractive person, basically saying I felt like people were interested in how I looked but didn’t actually want to know the real me.

Well, someone messaged me because of that post. We started talking, eventually met, and he actually had a really nice personality. He seemed genuinely interested in getting to know me.
The problem? I just didn’t feel that instant attraction when we met.

We also had a 7-year age gap, so I ended things and told him that was the reason. He didn’t respond, so I’m pretty sure he didn’t take it well 😭
The irony is that I literally complained about wanting someone to see the real me, and then when someone actually did… I rejected him. 💀

Am I the problem/shallow ? Or valid for ending things because I’m not attracted to the person

I’m applying for a Spanish student visa and I have a question about my sponsor’s financial documents.

My sponsor has a personal account, but the balance is slightly below the required proof of funds 8000 euros . They also have a joint account with their spouse which has way more than enough funds.

Would it be okay to submit statements from both accounts to meet the financial requirement, even though one of them is jointly held?

Has anyone been in a similar situation, and were the joint account statements accepted?

My sponsor has a personal account, but the balance is slightly below the required proof of funds of 8000 euros . They also have a joint account with their spouse which has more than enough funds.

Would it be okay to submit statements from both accounts to meet the financial requirement, even though one of them is jointly held?

Has anyone been in a similar situation, and were the joint account statements accepted?

Hi everyone,
I had my appointment for a Spanish student visa, but the embassy didn’t accept my application because one document was missing.

My application listed my mother and my aunt as co-sponsors, and they asked me to come back with my mother’s bank statement.

The problem is that my mother doesn’t have a bank account, so she can’t provide one.

My aunt has enough funds to sponsor me on her own, and she was actually supposed to be my sole sponsor from the beginning, but my agent added my mother as a co-sponsor.

My question is: When the embassy asks you to come back with missing documents, are you allowed to change something like your financial sponsor, or do you have to keep the application exactly as it was? If I want to make my aunt the sole sponsor, would I need to start a completely new application?
Has anyone had a similar experience

Hi everyone, I need some advice.

I recently attended my appointment for a Spanish student visa, but my application wasn’t processed because my mother’s bank statements were missing.

I’m considering submitting a completely new application because I’d like to change a few things, including possibly having my aunt as my sole financial sponsor since she has enough funds to cover all my tuition and living expenses.

Has anyone withdrawn or redone their application instead of submitting additional documents? Was it the better option?
I’d really appreciate any advice or similar experiences. Thank you!

Hi everyone, I need some advice.

I recently attended my appointment for a Spanish student visa, but my application wasn’t processed because my mother’s bank statements were missing.

I’m considering submitting a completely new application because I’d like to change a few things, including possibly having my aunt as my sole financial sponsor since she has enough funds to cover all my tuition and living expenses.

Has anyone withdrawn or redone their application instead of submitting additional documents? Was it the better option?
I’d really appreciate any advice or similar experiences. Thank you!

Hi everyone. I need some advice.

I’m applying for a Spanish study visa. Has anyone here had their aunt as their sole financial sponsor, even though both of their parents are still alive?

My aunt has enough funds to cover all my tuition and living expenses. My previous application wasn’t processed because my mother couldn’t provide the required bank statements.

Would it be better to reapply with my aunt as my sole sponsor? Has anyone been approved in a similar situation?
I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences. Thank you!

Hi everyone. I need some advice.
I’m applying for a Spanish study visa. Has anyone here had their aunt as their sole financial sponsor, even though both of their parents are still alive?
My aunt has enough funds to cover all my tuition and living expenses. My previous application wasn’t processed because my mother couldn’t provide the required bank statements.
Would it be better to reapply with my aunt as my sole sponsor? Has anyone been approved in a similar situation?
I’d really appreciate any advice or experiences. Thank you!

I know the title sounds a bit conceited, but hear me out before you cook me in the comments

Dating has genuinely made me question whether some people even want a relationship or if they just want a pretty girlfriend they can show off.

A lot of the time, it feels like men don’t actually want to be with me they just lust after me. They’re attracted to me physically, but when it comes to getting to know who I am, the interest seems to disappear. It’s like they’re in love with the idea of me rather than the person standing in front of them

I F20 once had a guy who was absolutely convinced flowers were the key to my heart. Every week it was, “I got you flowers.” It was sweet, don’t get me wrong, but at no point did he stop to ask what I actually liked. He just assumed flowers were every girl’s love language
Then there was the guy who asked me to be his girlfriend after only three days of talking. At first I thought, “Wow, he’s really sure about me.” Then I realised…he didn’t know my favourite colour. He didn’t know whether I had siblings. He barely knew anything about me.
The pattern kept repeating. They’d tell me I was beautiful every five minutes, but rarely ask me anything that actually mattered. What are my hobbies? What do I want out of life? What am I passionate about? What makes me laugh? It was like my appearance did all the talking, so they never felt the need to ask questions.
And honestly, the guys with money were sometimes the worst. They seemed convinced that buying gifts automatically created a connection. It didn’t. Spending money isn’t the same as making someone feel understood.
At this point, I’d be more impressed by someone remembering my favourite snack than buying me something expensive because they assumed that’s what girls want.
I don’t want to be admired. I want to be understood.
To be loved is to be seen. To be loved is to be known just a little venting

I (F20) had been talking to a guy (M26) for about two weeks. Things moved quickly and we agreed to be exclusive while getting to know each other, but we weren’t officially together.
He cancelled our first date because of work. We rescheduled, but the second time he cancelled about two hours before we were supposed to meet, again because of work. I was disappointed and became dry. I had also jokingly said earlier that I’d block him if he cancelled again.
He noticed I was upset and explained that work was out of his control. After I continued being dry, he said “aight bet,” I left him on read and later posted myself on Snapchat. He viewed it, then removed and unfollowed me everywhere.
He’d previously told me that if he feels someone is playing in his face, he cuts them off. It’s been four days with no contact. Did I overreact, did he overreact, or were we both just being immature? And would reaching out to clear the air make it seem like I want him back?