u/Smoka_Lexxie

Started dating this guy a month ago, I clean his house ( he insists on paying me even though I told him I don’t feel right with that since he is my bf. )

Today, when I pulled his box drawer out to dust under neath and behind it and I saw ladies lingerie where he keeps his condoms and lube…he also puts his boxers in that drawer, and was in the middle of laundry day so it had one pair of boxers in there, which is why I’ve never seen the lingerie before.

A few minutes after I found it he came upstairs asking if he could shower, and I went into the other bathroom to start cleaning it, and he put his hand on the door as I was closing it to open it and asked if he could have a kiss. I was honestly shaking from what I had just seen and told him that I saw something I didn’t like seeing in his room and that I needed a moment.

When he got out of the shower, I told him that I wasn’t going to dust the way I normally do ( ie. remove things from shelves to dust ) anymore because I don’t wanna find anything else that I might not like. He told me that he already told me that his ex had clothes there, to which I responded he made it seem like it was in the other room and didn’t mention lingerie, nor does it explain why it’s where he keeps his lube and condoms and not with her other clothes.

I could tell that he was getting pissed off so I asked if he wanted me to leave and he said that he would prefer I did. As I was leaving, I asked does this mean that we’re breaking up and he said I don’t know I need to think about it.I know that I wasn’t coming off very nicely, but I wasn’t cussing or saying any low blow comments to him.… I can get why he wants space…

I already plan on not reaching out to him until he reaches out to me. Because honestly, I don’t feel like me sitting there trying to explain to him that a similar instance happened before with an ex and I was cheated on multiple times would benefit anything. It was definitely a huge trigger for me, which is why I said that I needed a moment.

I guess I’m just asking how would you go about this moving forward? That is if he chooses to continue trying to build something with me.