u/SmoothNectarine2000

it finally happened, today he grabbed me and dragged me and shoved me to the floor. My 4 year old was screaming at the top of his lungs, saying stop, and crying. I was trying to grab my phone to call the police, but it all happened so fast I was in shock after and just scooped up my older child and made sure he was okay. My husband later justified his actions saying he thought I was “doing something to our son in the bathroom” which I very clearly wasn’t and would never do anything to harm him. He was crying because he didn’t want to have a bath.

Not sure where this leaves me, not sure where to look, realizing I should’ve left years ago, but I’m stuck now. Shelters are full, and none would take me and my kids and my dog. I’m at a loss.

Wondering if anyone here knows of housing that will rent based on child tax benefit and OW? I am trying to get on my feet on my own with my 2 kids and leave their dad, but finding a place is near impossible. I don’t have help from family and the shelters are all full. Even if there is another mom who would want to rent something together? Thank you in advance

We’ve been together for 6 years and have 2 kids under 5. (1.5 and 4) I don’t think there has been a day that’s gone by where I felt genuinely happy and enjoyed my life in a long time. I constantly feel stressed, at the end of my rope, and I’m finding myself slipping into a depression at this point. My husband is literally useless, I am a SAHM and he believes that working exempts him from every household chore and helping with anything like cooking dinner or the dishes etc. the way he speaks to me is appalling, and I’m embarrassed that this is my partner. My kids see how we treat each other, and while we don’t necessarily “fight” we barely talk, there is zero affection, and it’s just sad.
I more than anything would want to just move on and move out, unfortunately I have no means to do so financially and the assisted housing waitlist is years long. I don’t want to tear my family apart but I can’t help but feel a continuous rage and frustration towards him. I have tried to separate in the past and he begged me to come back with promises of change, nothing changed, and I am so regretful that I didn’t just leave permanently. He threatened me with custody court etc and taking our son away from me. He can be extremely manipulating and abusive (not physically). I’m just fucking exhausted. I really just want to run away at this point. I needed to vent, I know there’s not much that can be done at this point, and I’m already on a high dose of anxiety/depression meds and set up with a social worker to talk. Has anyone gone through this and come out on the other side? Does parenting and the relationship get easier as they get older?

Honestly just send help 😭

Me and my husband are looking into becoming adoptive parents / potentially fostering within the Ontario public system. I am just wondering if anyone has gone through this themselves and how long the whole process took, and difficulties you encountered etc/ advice 💗