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the last 3 days my mother has been verbally and emotionally abusing me. I was in the process of selling my car to my grandma (because my grandma said she’d buy the car off of me to keep for my mother instead of the bank repossessing the car). my grandma asked me what is the plan, I shared with her that we have till the 10th of the month to pay off the vehicle. as the last few payments I wasn’t able to make since I lost my job and have been fighting to manage my disabilities. I was denied insurance through the state so I haven’t been on my medications and I haven’t been able to see the doctor.

my mother came to my room and told me that I didn’t tell her the same information that I told my grandma. I stood firm and repeated that I did (but it honestly doesn’t concern her as there’s no payments coming from her to pay off the vehicle). I ask her why she has an attitude and is getting into my business with grandma and my mother then starts to tell me “i’ve been so successful in my life, I bought a house at 27, owned my own business, had my own car, had a relationship, and what do you have? a bedroom” this had me gagged for a moment and I said back, “you also lost your house, lost your business, lost your car, lost your relationships, and where are you at? living with your parents” she yelled back down the hall at me “you’re a horrible person, you’re a horrible son, you’re a horrible human” I shut and locked my door and was in my room the rest of the evening.

the next morning I left my room early and grabbed my car keys because in my mind, my mother was not going to drive my car anywhere without an apology. (mind you… I have never received an apology from her in my life). so I go to the bathroom and I couldn’t do anything unfortunately, IBSC/no meds/stress/not enough water whole combo. so I leave the bathroom and my mother is standing in my room and asked if I had taken the keys. I said that I did and about 50 times she yells at me “give them to me!” no, I am not giving you a reward for treating me poorly especially as my mother. she starts looking around and trying to find my keys and I shout at her to “get out of my room!” I physically push her out and shut and lock my door and she screams at me through the door “i’m taking your door off the hinges! fuck you POS! YOURE A HORRIBLE FING PERSON” I was shaking so bad on the verge of calling 911 saying that I was in a hostile situation if she took my door.

well… I didn’t end up leaving my room till 1130pm so over 12 hours later to go to the bathroom and I noticed that all of my rugs and shower curtains are taken… stuff that I paid for, is she really this petty? to take away something for me to bathe myself?

I go downstairs to get water in my water bottle so i have something in my system and I talk to my grandma who spends her time in the living room on her phone, she doesn’t respond so I walk up to her after my water bottle is full and say “hello??” she looks up from her phone and I ask her “so my mother just gets to take whatever she wants around here?” my grandma says “well she paid for them and you took the keys” I look at her in such disgust and say, “yes I took the keys because she disrespected me. she is a liar and now I guess also a thief. I paid for all my bathroom supplies” I pull up the receipt and show my grandma and she tells me “well then you need to take it up with her” I took a deep breath and said, “you know, where were you the last couple days while I was being terrorized? I know you aren’t deaf” “what am I supposed to do?” she asks me I roll my eyes because she always takes my mothers side on any occasion. I look at her one last time and tell her, “for that, not showing up for me, you’re a bitch. and fuck you our relationship is over from this point forward”

today, my mother has slammed doors and been all around my items that aren’t in my room so who knows what’s been touched.
I come here tonight because I haven’t left my room from last night and I haven’t ate in 4 days now and I know I need to go to the bathroom but I am so scared of leaving my room. I feel like a hostage in my own house

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I moved with my family (mother and grandparents) to another state 2 years ago. after spending 25 years in that small town it felt amazing to finally branch out and “start my life”. I originally was battling my own decision if I really wanted to move because I knew id be moving to a new state where I knew no one, could fall back on no one, could not leave the house unless I met someone to pick me up. I also don’t drive/only drive short distances (anxiety and seizures).
I have had a job since being here, but was let go last december because I missed too many hours due to chronic pain, nausea, and IBS-C. I was only allotted 5-7 min bathroom breaks which wasn’t enough time for me to go, so most (ended up being all towards the end) shifts I worked I wouldn’t go to the bathroom. anyways that was a whole ordeal so I lost my job and have been looking for another remote job since and nothing has been promising. nearing a thousand applications sent out and only 3 interviews and no offers. i’ve always worked a job since 2016 sometimes up to 3 jobs at a time.
i’m currently selling my car to my grandparents (since I don’t drive and my mum wants the car instead of it being repoed) and im emailing with the bank. my mother comes to my room and says that I told her that I need to tell my grandparents to make a payment today so the car isn’t repossessed. I tell her, “I never said that to you, where did you get that” and she starts to argue with me about how I “definitely said this to her” she starts raising her voice and then starts talking condescending so I ask, “what is up with all this attitude” she goes, “i’ve been so successful in my life, I bought a house at 27, owned my own business, had my own car, had a relationship, and what do you have? a bedroom” because she knows my situation I respond back, “oh fuck you” she then had me gagged for a moment… “you’re a horrible person, you’re a horrible son, you’re a horrible human”. I was literally shocked, even though I shouldn’t be, but I responded back, “you know, you, really are a horrible mother”. she tells me “do you know what I have sacrificed to have you, you don’t, all you care about is yourself”

i’m not surprised she yet again let me down as a parent, but saying to your son about how “horrible” he is?
literally, the only thing that’s kept me going over the years is hearing from my friends and extended family the complete opposite of what my mother has said to me. she may have only been physical with me once but the constant, emotional, mental, financial abuse i’ve experienced over the years is capped with her. I really don’t know what else to do, I haven’t been able to find a remote job to get an income to support getting an apartment or rooming with someone. I have thought about moving back to the state where I was before just to get an in person job because I know I could walk there or start driving again once I get a vehicle. I just feel so unbelievably overwhelmed.
my friends and extended family have seen how my mother and grandparents treat me and have voiced that they want me to get my own place for years now. I knew I should have never left my last state but that time has passed. i’m beyond stressed out and am still dealing with my medical issues not mentioning my unmedicated ADHD and anxiety since I don’t have insurance anymore and the state has yet to approve me for insurance. I really just don’t know, i’ve been taking it day by day just to see tomorrow but I have little hope as to how i’d get out of this situation. between the depression, IBS and toxic household I haven’t been eating much. I make sure to drink 100oz of water daily just to stay hydrated and try to shower if not every day every other day for some routine. I have opened an etsy shop to try and get income selling graphic designs I made put on clothing. I also wrote and published a book through barnes and noble. I got my associates degree last year. I have had things going for me but this household is literally killing me. I don’t want to live like this anymore and want to go back to working and making a life for myself but I feel my hands are tied in every direction.

I know this is a long post, but any advice, direction, support, encouragement is accepted. I don’t want to have to die but I don’t want to live like this anymore

I wasn’t too sure where to post this so I hope i’m in the right place…
throughout the years i’ve loved watching other streamers post videos to youtube/tiktok or live-streamed their favorite games. I have been really interested in becoming a streamer myself. one reason being i’ve had nothing, but time the last 6 months and have wanted to do something useful with my time. I unfortunately don’t know anyone personally to ask and watching videos about how to set it up just confuses me (i’m much more of a do something myself with another person guiding me kind of learner). so this brings me to where i’ve been stuck: i’m not too sure where I would begin and how to get myself streaming.
I have a macbook laptop, I have a playstation 5, I have my cellphone, I have headphones to my playstation and my airpods if needed to connect to my phone/laptop. I do not have a separate microphone that I tend to see people use in their videos. i do have youtube, discord, and twitch accounts, but I feel like I need some coaching on where to start.

(yes, I do indeed got the anxiety bug about my first few streams but I think once I get the hang of it I can carry myself with my jokes x) )
**if there’s some videos you recommend that you think would help too i’m very interested in seeing them**

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for advice, career recommendations, and remote job opportunities that may be a good fit for my background.

I have an Associate of Arts degree and over the past 9+ years I’ve worked in behavioral health, healthcare, education, crisis intervention, leadership, and customer service roles, including:

• 3 years with the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (including remote work)
• Lead Mental Health Technician, Mental Health Technician, and Receptionist in a hospital setting
• Interim Supervisor and Lead Mental Health Technician in a residential treatment facility
• 4 years with a school district as a Behavioral Health Technician and After-School Program Lead
• 4 years in a customer service and team leadership role at a small business

Some of my strongest skills include:

• Crisis intervention and de-escalation
• Team leadership and supervision
• Customer support and client relations
• Documentation and case notes
• Training and mentoring staff
• Conflict resolution
• Problem-solving
• Remote communication and support

At this point, I’m specifically looking for fully remote work due to transportation limitations. I’m open to fields beyond behavioral health if my experience transfers well.

Some areas I’ve considered include:

• Remote customer support
• Community management
• Trust & Safety
• Gaming industry support roles
• Healthcare administration
• Behavioral health services
• Operations and coordination roles

I’ve submitted hundreds of applications over the past year without much success, so I’m wondering if there are job titles, industries, or companies I may be overlooking that would value my experience and skill set.

Any advice, recommendations, or leads would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

I have seen a few posts on here about firebending and the colors that we’ve been shown: orange, blue, dragon fire, and white/yellow.

I think it would be neat for when the fire avatar is introduced if we are able to meet another blue fire bender. (maybe it’s just because I miss azula 😅) or better yet, since it looks like technology is advancing in the avatar universe what if there was a fire bender that got involved with chemicals and created a tool or wearable contraption to bend green fire… 👀

Also the Avatar being able to bend different colored fire at different points in the story? i’ve seen some people mention ideas of the avatar being in touch with their spiritual side/state and potentially have different colored firebending that way? just trying to think of some neat ideas that the writers could do for the series I certainly would love to see.

(yes I know we haven’t even seen the earth series yet but I know good writers are always thinking ahead)

these are my late night thoughts as I don’t think I love an idea more in any show or movie i’ve watched than the concept of bending elements :p