u/Soft_Appointment_116

I am trying to file my wifes and my taxes for last year. We were married may 18 2024. She has 2 children from a previous relationship and her ex has married as well. This is my first time trying to file our taxes together by myself as last year we paid someone to do it because I wasn’t sure how dependents and what not worked.

So last year he claimed their son and we claimed the daughter and told them last year that we will claim the son and they can claim the daughter this year. Well when I messaged them this evening on the app we use for communication to make sure we know what child they claimed we received this response.

“You may wish to confirm whether you are eligible to claim a child as an eligible dependant, as generally a spouse is claimed once you have been married/common-law for the full tax year.”

Our reply was

“Well in this case we will rely on the tax professionals that we will be paying to file our taxes as to whether or not a dependent may be added rather than a third party interpretation regarding the status of our filing.”

The reason we gave this reply is it is the same thing they once said to us about something else but just changed it to reference taxes.

Can someone shed some light on if they are correct or should I abandon trying to do my taxes myself and just pay someone to do them. I honestly am tempted to file them myself anyways and don’t care if I get audited if I am incorrect in my filing as my part of the taxes are a simple t4 from work with no deductions and my wife probably made less than $10,000 from the dog walking/pet care that she does.

I appreciate any insight someone can shed upon this.

I’m a 47M who recently began taking ADHD meds to see if it helps with impulsive issues that I tend to have. I suspect I might have more going on other than just ADHD and will see what bears fruit as I travel down this new life.

I’ve always found it ridiculous when I hear people who claim ADHD and Autism were not a thing in the past. Acting like it’s all new and what not. But really all I can think about is how things were even just 100 years ago.

A coworker who also has ADHD and I were talking about it and I said to her “man I know I would have been shot and killed if I lived in the past with this.” mostly because I tend to instigate conflict with others. It was something my wife mentioned one day that got me thinking about it and going down this road. I also tend to be a bully the bully type person so I know I would piss off the wrong person.

My coworker said “oh I totally would have been burned at the stake for being a witch” if she had to live in the past.

So what do you think would have happened to you if you were born in a different time than now where society isn’t as harsh as it used to be. Do you think you would have survived? I would love to hear other peoples viewpoints and things that they have thought about.

For most of my life I have been single (M47) and filing my taxes was easy peasy. 2 years ago I got married and my now wife started a sole proprietor business for dog walking.

I need to file my taxes but can’t seem to be able to because of her and I don’t know where to start anymore. Is there a way I can just file my taxes?

I’m getting lucky and coming into a small bit of money ($20,000) that I will be able to pay off some debt I currently have. I’m hoping once I pay off my main loan and CC with a $5000 balance on it that I will be able to get a consolidation loan for the LOC and CC I have remaining with BMO.

I’m just wondering if anyone knows what the current interest rate from them would be or how I might be able to find out. I’ll wait to see how much bringing my credit utilization down helps increase my credit score first but i’m just trying to get an idea of what my payments might look like going forward.

I have always had a problem when it comes to giving/receiving gifts. Whenever i’m buying someone a gift I try and get them the perfect gift, an example is my wife likes rick and morty and lego, or if she comments she likes/interested in something I immediately obsess about it trying to get the perfect thing for her.

When people buy my a gift on the other hand I am continuously disappointed and I feel like i’m not hard to shop for. I feel like i’m being a prick because I can’t hide my disappointment whenever I get something I don’t like. Either it won’t be the right thing, or something that i’m like wtf did you get that for. But really all I want is someone to pay attention and see the $5 item i’ve looked at 100 times and can’t bring myself to buy but then i’ll turn around and drop $200 on someone else easily.

Tomorrow is my birthday and I got to open my present tonight and it was just some over priced 3d printed shelf in the shape of a cat, and some sort of crystal shaped like a dragon skull. I like crystals and I like actual skull shapes, but not dragon skulls at all. She would have been better off buying me some random tumbled bulk than that.

I’ve even sent her very specific “you can buy me this and I won’t be disappointed” things but nope. Here I am almost breaking down at work crying as a 47M because once again I got something I don’t want. In the past she bought me a custom made leather flask and that was kinda my fault I messaged her with it saying “christmas is coming” because the artist who makes them was having a contest if you shared something. But a lot of the items he made weren’t things i’d want to share and have my family see so I picked the least offensive item.

Like I said though I feel like an ass getting disappointed over presents but at the same time I feel like she just dosn’t care or pay attention or something. Idk what to do really.

So i’m a 47M who just went to the dr a month ago to seek help because of marital issues caused by suspected ADHD and I suspect i’m also on the autism spectrum as well. I like how much easier it is for me to sleep not that I am taking the medication and I find i’m not as anxious at work, or irritable at times.

I wanted to drink alcohol this set of days off however because in the past I have always used alcohol to manage my moods. If I was feeling to high as i’d call it I would drink to bring myself down, or if I was to low then I would drink to bring myself up. It was always risky because if I was drinking to come down I could do some real stupid shit when already feeling high and adding alcohol into it. Plus if I was already low and introduced alcohol to bring myself up if I did something embarrassing or stupid while drinking the next day I could be even worse off than before.

I tried 2 separate nights and I couldn’t drink more than 2 drinks and just fell asleep on the couch. I notice they don’t seem to taste the same anymore and I wasn’t getting my usual buzz after the first two drinks that would get me started so to speak. I usually only drink 3 or 4 times a year now when I start feeling a certain way, so I would like to be able to enjoy this once in awhile still.

When I was younger I most definitely had quite a drinking problem where at the height of it I was drinking over 40 ounces of rum everytime I’d drink. As I got older though I started drinking less and less but I do still enjoy it.