u/Some-Tomatillo-1731

tw: SA, transphobia, aphobia

Sorry for the rant but this has been building up for awhile. Has anyone else sort of just been trying to avoid the LGBTQ+ community? i am fully sex-repulsed, always have been, and it’s just like… I get asked the same questions Or told the same statements.

”have you had your hormones checked?”

Yes.

“You’re an egg! Hatch and you might love sex!”

I am nonbinary. I am me.

”HRT might make you sex-favorable! all the asexuals I’ve known have changed when they get dysphoria treated!”

HRT makes me more dysphoric. And the amount of transgender people who have told me to just try HRT, while not huge, is more than just a handful. (Online and not)

I suppose I am just still hurt that a good friend kept telling me to go on HRT and bragging about how *big* she is… with the sole aim of sleeping with me. Saying that you’re too big and might hurt me isn’t a turn on.

Another friend asked about a healthy sexual compromise which would be one hour everyday. I don’t think that’s a compromise, but then I have to hear about how asexuals do this to please friends or partners. Or how I am transphobic for not trying.

Tl;dr: Dunno. I am just done with it. From being told I am an egg afraid of sex to how other asexuals can and want sex… I am tired of the in person and online LGBTQ+ community. When I joined a pride club, the first question I was asked when I said I’m asexual, was “What kind of asexual?” And then the food analogies.

Garlic bread is not the same as laying back and thinking of England. Sorry.

We are all humans on our own journeys. I will respect yours. Why can’t people respect mine?