u/Some_Entertainment70

has anyone else never had one work? i’ve tried for years. i wasnt over doing it its been probably 5 years maybe 7 total spells casted and two different people. never worked.

has anyone else never had one work? i’ve tried for years. i wasnt over doing it its been probably 5 years maybe 7 total spells casted and two different people. never worked.

copying my first post to add pt 2

honestly i’m not sure why it’s never worked for me. i’ve tried it twice in my life. the first time i tried so hard following all the tips from here till eventually it got to the point i didn’t care anymore and got over that person. then i met someone new and it was so amazing then it went wrong and i spent time after trying to manifesting that back and keeping a pretty positive outlook on everything. especially knowing with that second relationship i gave it my all. i did everything i could’ve and more so it helped me be at peace with the decision and knowing that he would come back. and he didn’t. and then i thought about the first time i tried manifesting someone back and how hard i tried and it never worked and i wound up just forgetting about him anyways. but idk now it’s frustrating to think back on now bc it feels like manifesting was just a cope in some way and it’s used to hinder people’s healing in a way. idk how to explain it i guess. i guess im just looking for a discussion and if anyone has any input here. and i know im gonna get hit with the “well ur mindset affected it and stuff” which im not sure why. 1) it’s completely normal to be sad after breakups- telling people they aren’t manifesting right bc they are sad does seem unreasonable. 2) i kept a pretty positive mindset and worked on my self really hard in those times. so honestly what gives?

pt 2: reflecting it on it more it’s just never worked for me period with any person and it kinda just feels like it’s a cope? and sometimes it “works” for people bc that’s what the other person wanted to do and like 70% of the time it doesn’t bc that’s not what the other person wants to do. listen i wanted it to work and i tried so hard towards it till eventually i forgot about the people all together. i still get random emails about this thread and it just kinda brings those people to the front of my mind again and i think about all the conflicting info i was given. manifest constantly, detach, it’s okay to be upset but also it doesn’t work if ur upset but also it can and it’s so back and forth sometimes like ok cool i let the people go but why does it feel like a cope. im not trying to bash anything just genuinely get my feelings out bc when i think back to the person i was after these awful situations i feel hurt for her. she had hope and came here for support and in the end just felt stupid. and seeing notifs from this sub kinda just reminds me oh yea u wanted that and it didn’t work. multiple times for u. i will say i manifested specific person and another person i knew with that same name came into my life again to tell me he loves me and misses me (he didn’t he just wanted to play in my face), which i would’ve died to hear that from the original person, but i was like maybe i wasn’t so specific and that’s why the 2.0 version came back instead but yea that second person only literally came back into my life to make fun of me so that is also discouraging. like ok it didn’t work how it wanted it to but it worked enough in a way to hurt to me again for no reason? bc i didn’t even want that 2.0 man

i just feel so frustrated that 2 years later i’m still on here. it started with a breakup of 5 years i didn’t think id ever get over. so painful i didn’t know how i was actually going to survive but somehow i did and thought to myself id never let myself be in that situation again and around a year later i felt better. then the person i thought i always deserved came in to my life and we spent a few months together and it was amazing. it really felt like things worked out for me finally and that all the pain was worth it to get me where i was. then it fell apart two months ago and im here again in that same place. i know it wasn’t as bad as the first and ive gained so many knowledge from the first time around but it doesn’t change those awful feelings i have and that it’s just truly unfair. the first time wasn’t enough for me i had to meet someone even better i thought and have them do me the same way in the end. sad over two people now. confused bc why do i try when it comes back to bite only me in the end. meanwhile my ex of 5 years who had a girl a week after we broke up is still with her and not suffering like i have after the 5 year relationship ending abruptly. idk i try so hard to be postive and see the bright side but at the end of the day it hurts. and it takes a lot for me to like someone so the new relationship it felt like the moment i let my guard down he changed. idk i wish the last two years of my life never happened bc despite all the good things that have happened in my life those awful feelings of not feeling enough or feeling abandoned are just in the back of mind despite me trying my hardest. and im doing everything to get better and work on myself but the people who don’t try and do bad things it just works out so effortlessly for them. like how do they have such intimate moments with another person then in a moment switch up and feel completely fine never seeing them again.