Have an Abscess and Major Medical Trauma, What do?
So I have a big boil/abscess in my groin/buttocks area, and it ruptured and drained some goo a few days ago, it drained for about 2 days and then just stopped.
The problem here is two-fold: first off, the abscess isn't any smaller, and is still painful. It's in an extremely awkward location to keep a bandaid on, and I have to change it every time I pee because of the location.
The other issue is I already had medical anxiety before I had another abscess, in my armpit, that my mom took me to the ER for because I was apparently developing cellulitis. I was there for HOURS. 8 of them. I'm autistic and woth my medical anxiety, being there so long was actual torture. On top of that, they basically ignored my actual complaint for most of that time, fussing about my "high heart rate" (while being repeated told by me AND my mom that I have anxiety, and was overstimulated and very scared) and my "fever" (the triage nurse took my temperature and it was normal.)
They also threatened to admit me. This may not sound like a threat to most people, but to me, it absolutely is one. Hospitals make me highly anxious just to be present in, between anxiety, sensory issues, and food issues, I'd be having a panic attack while being simultaneously starved and tortured for as long as they kept me. They basically insisted on giving me a round of IV antibiotics (my mom also pressured me to accept this) which is also horrible because 1. they make me nauseous and dizzy and 2. I can FEEL the antibiotic solution in my veins and it HURTS. I was writhing on thr bed and sobbing for them to "take it out" and "make it stop," which they did not, and the nurse acted like I was being super dramatic. Then I was sent home with oral antibiotics, which always make me violently ill.
My question is, what can I do to get this abscess to clear up, preferably quickly? It's painful and it's freaking me out. I had an abcess in the same spot a few years ago that I had drained at Urgent Care, but there was always a hard spot left there, and getting lidocaine injections an inch or so from your hoo-hah is... an experience. One I'd rather not repeat.