u/Sorry_Profession_371

What happens in anxious attachment after breakup?

Im super f'n confused on this one - this describes my recent ex.

My girlfriend was absolutely obsessively in love with me. When away from one another, she would salivate, etc. And lose control.

When in my presence, she would have near panic attacks of attraction.

She had/has trauma, and so at times, if she didn't get what she wanted, she would sabatoge the relationship. We would break up, then 3 weeks later, she would see the right and come back with apologies

We went through this cycle like 5 times! And I got so sick of this abuse I decided to end it.

It has been 6 weeks, and I am in the valley of hell (pit of grief).

Can anyone identify with this very strange pattern of hers? Why at week 3 - 6 or whatever does she flip-flop and want me back immensely?

I'm not going back to her, but the curiosity is killing me because it is so f'n strange. I can't understand this strange flip flop behaviour

On her good days, amazing partner. Loved her so much. On her bad ones, absolute monster... wtf?

What happens in anxious attachment after breakup?

Im super f'n confused on this one.

My girlfriend was absolutely obsessively in love with me. When away from one another, she would salivate, etc. And lose control.

When in my presence, she would have near panic attacks of attraction.

She had/has trauma, and so at times, if she didn't get what she wanted, she would sabatoge the relationship. We would break up, then 3 weeks later she would see the right and come back with apologies

We went through this cycle like 5 times! And I got so sick of this abuse I decided to end it.

It has been 6 weeks and I am in the valley of hell (pit of grief).

Can anyone identify with this very strange pattern of hers? Why at week 3 - 6 or whatever does she flip-flop and want me back?

I'm not going back to her, but the curiosity is killing me because it is so f'n strange.

Hi all... I think I am experiencing anhedonia.

I got diagnosed with brain cancer, 2 surgeries, and brain infection. I was dating a nightmare of a woman who made my life difficult during this time.

Then, my mom gets diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and my building evicts me because they are demolishing my building.

I had to move all my shit while managing all this and when my girlfriend dumped me because she told me I was too stressed about cancer. LOL

Anyways. For the past 35 days, I have felt absolutely no joy.

Nothing brings me joy. I walk around like a fucking robot.

The way I deal is making f'n lists I have to do, and I just do it liie a robot.

I just pretend I am a being that simply does not feel emotion, and I get shit done on conscious will alone.

Time feels LONG. 4 days felt like 4 fucking years.

From the sounds of things, nothing else can be done.