u/SpareRegular2616

I am a closeted lesbian and I don't look stereotypical and I've never met a girl/woman who is also LGBT.

Is anyone in a similar situation?

This is a throwaway account because I would never want anyone in my life to find out about this.

I see that a lot of people don't agree with the idea of people who were put up for adoption looking, or just interacting with their bio parents so I wanted to get more opinions on this.

I want to start of by saying that I didn't stalk this woman and I honestly don’t have any expectations of how this would go.

So I was adopted when I was a baby. My parents are okay, I wouldn't say that they treated me like their own because there definitely were differences in the way they treated me and their biological kid but, despite that, I never really cared about finding my biological parents.

As much as I'd like to believe that they would accept me, I know that's not realistic.

However, I found my original birth certificate a couple years ago and it said the biological mother's name. I was in middle school and finding this made me really angry for some reason.

I never looked much into it, just searched it on the internet and didn't find anything. Now I'm in my 20s and I'm studying law.

One day I went to ask a professor for an opinion on an essay and the craziest thing happened. There was a line of students and when it was my turn the professor kinda looks at me weird and asks me am I related to "name surname"? IT'S THE NAME OF MY BIOLOGICAL MOTHER. I was so shocked and I felt the worst anxiety of my life. I said no and he continues on saying like, "oh sorry, I have a colleague who looks like you could be related".

That's all he said and I went on to search for her name on the internet and eventually found her. I applied to an internship at the place she works at and actually saw her for the first time. She didn't see me and probably doesn't care about my existence lol but yeah.

I never felt like this until now and I just kinda want to meet her and I don't know if she would absolutely hate that (probably would) but idk.

My logic is that if she left me, never tried to contact me and just went on with her life, she will absolutely hate this and probably cuss me out or something.

But I also kind of really want to see how she would react?? I don't know if that's selfish and I probably won't say anything but this thought has been keeping me up at night and I feel like I'd feel better if I said something, even if she told me to f off lol.

Would I be selfish for this?

This is a throwaway account because I would never want anyone in my life to find out about this.

I see that a lot of people don't agree with the idea of people who were put up for adoption looking, or just interacting with their bio parents so I wanted to get more opinions on this.

I want to start of by saying that I didn't stalk this woman and I honestly don’t have any expectations of how this would go.

So I was adopted when I was a baby. My parents are okay, I wouldn't say that they treated me like their own because there definitely were differences in the way they treated me and their biological kid but, despite that, I never really cared about finding my biological parents.

As much as I'd like to believe that they would accept me, I know that's not realistic.

However, I found my original birth certificate a couple years ago and it said the biological mother's name. I was in middle school and finding this made me really angry for some reason.

I never looked much into it, just searched it on the internet and didn't find anything. Now I'm in my 20s and I'm studying law.

One day I went to ask a professor for an opinion on an essay and the craziest thing happened. There was a line of students and when it was my turn the professor kinda looks at me weird and asks me am I related to "name surname"? IT'S THE NAME OF MY BIOLOGICAL MOTHER. I was so shocked and I felt the worst anxiety of my life. I said no and he continues on saying like, "oh sorry, I have a colleague who looks like you could be related".

That's all he said and I went on to search for her name on the internet and eventually found her. I applied to an internship at the place she works at and actually saw her for the first time. She didn't see me and probably doesn't care about my existence lol but yeah.

I never felt like this until now and I just kinda want to meet her and I don't know if she would absolutely hate that (probably would) but idk.

My logic is that if she left me, never tried to contact me and just went on with her life, she will absolutely hate this and probably cuss me out or something.

But I also kind of really want to see how she would react?? I don't know if that's selfish and I probably won't say anything but this thought has been keeping me up at night and I feel like I'd feel better if I said something, even if she told me to f off lol.

Would I be the AH if I did this?

Edit: I forgot to mention that I found a lot of questionable information about her and overall she doesn't seem to be a really decent person lol. That's part of the reason why I'm not sure if I want to contact her but, we will eventually work in the same field and since one person already saw a resemblance...I feel like I should do it and make it less awkward later? I don't know if that's logical and I really honestly don't care if she absolutely wants nothing to do with me, it's fine and predictable. Still I feel like I should just do it.