u/Specialist_Studio410

Hi im 20F and my bf is 21M and we’ve been dating for 2.75 years. I’m in a LDR (medium distance, like a 3hr drive) don’t know if that’s relevant. My boyfriend and I have had problems in the past and we almost broke up sometime in February/April cause of his emotional regulation issues and also some other weird stuff I don’t rlly want to talk about cause it’s solved.

I’m at this strange place where I consider breaking up with him or at least think about it like every 2 days. When he visits I don’t think I find him hardly physically attractive at all and I just feel borderline irritated he’s in my space. I don’t want to be single but I don’t really think I want to be here either. I just don’t know if this is normal like it’s a phase or something or if it’s salvageable or not.

One thing that struck me as strange was that when he mentioned us having kids or something or getting married recently I was almost shocked or repulsed (can’t remember which but I know I just felt different than normal) and I have not ever reacted this way before. I like our friendship and I love the support he provides me emotionally but that’s about everything I feel like I’m getting out of this relationship at this point.

I don’t know what to do and I’m exhausted. Help is needed.

Hey there! I am aware no one here can provide me with ACTUAL professional advice, but I don’t have immediate access to a doctor so I thought I’d check here while I wait for these PT folks to get back to me.

On to my main point:

I’ve (20F) started going to the gym (leg press, calf extension, leg extension, calf raise, then abs (leg raises) dead bugs, etc) and been going consistently for about 2 weeks.

This was fine until all of the sudden my left knee started killing me. It feels super painful and sensitive when I do a squat motion or if I am kneeling, this has never happened to me before. Then I’ve had weird pains sort of showing up everywhere like pain in my right hip and pain in my left obliques and I don’t know why!!

For context I have lower lumbar scoliosis, and my hips are out of alignment in which my left hip is significantly higher than my right one, causing the left side of my waist to look “flat” and my right hip to look super curved.

Do you think this pain could be caused by improper form?

I suspect it could also be due to maybe how my joints are shifting depending on how my exercises align my back, I’m not sure! This is the first time I’ve ever really seriously gone to the gym and I don’t have a lot of experience with this.