u/Specific-Eggplant436

“You’ve been extremely hot and cold with me, and it’s left me confused and exhausted. One day you tell me you love me, and the next you tell me you don’t want me or that you’d marry anybody but me. I genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to make of that.

What has also become difficult for me is feeling like everything happens on your terms—when we talk, when we don’t, when things are okay, and when they’re not. When hurtful things are said, I don’t just magically feel fine because you’ve moved on from it. It doesn’t work that way.

Being told I’m worthless, having my feelings dismissed, and then being expected to act normal afterwards has taken a toll on me. I don’t think that’s fair.

I also want to be clear about something: being with you is a choice, not a necessity. I care about you, but I do not need this relationship at the cost of my self-respect.

If you want love, respect, and understanding from me, those things need to go both ways. I cannot keep carrying the emotional consequences of things you say while being told my reactions are the problem.

If you want to leave, then leave. But I’m done accepting this version of the relationship. I’d rather be alone than stay in something that makes me feel confused, unwanted, and disrespected.

So get your shit and thoughts together.”

Hi, I (F28) has been dating this guy (M30) for 4 years now. We were friends before then started dating. Things were really good between us. Two years later we had to go into long distance and it all started going down hill. It was like “out of sight, out of mind” for him. He would forget to call me or text or and we were in two different countries. He would be with his friends most of the time. I felt like I was neglected and avoided. Everytime I brought it up, I was made to look like I was wrong and asking for too much. 4 years into the relationship, nothing has changed. He says he wants to make an effort but I don’t see it. I was supposed to marry this person but now I’m just disappointed and lost. He’s really mean to me sometimes but then invites me for his family events. Like what am I supposed to do?

Hi! Literally asking for a friend - my friend (F30) is looking for a match for arranged marriage or just marriage.

She’s super pretty, working at a great place. Her only issue is she’s seen enough guys and has been played enough. So now, she isn’t looking to just date, but eventually for it to turn into a marriage. She’s also a little socially awkward and shy. So it’s not easy for her to meet people on a regular basis. As per this thread - matrimonial websites aren’t doing a great job. Has anybody here tried “match my knot” for finding a match? I saw that it’s millennial catered.

Also how is hinge for looking for something serious? Especially in New Delhi.

Any advice on how to proceed in this arranged marriage climate is well appreciated.