u/Specific_Mix_7177

Every single one of my friends in my friend group bought their homes before COVID. I unfortunately did not and have therefore been renting for 6+ years since my mid-20s whilst simultaneously feeling mine and my partners real income shrink because of inflation.

I now face this problem where EVERY single time I hang out with my friends they always ask the same questions,

"Whats happening with your housing situation?"

"Are you gonna buy? You should really buy. Its not going to get any easier."

"Youre spending too much on rent, y'know. How much are you paying now?"

I wish i could paint the deadpan look on their faces when I tell them renting is the better option for us atm.

They then change the topic to how they're all "millionaires" because they bought a house and how "having 100k is not really considered anything anymore."

Anyone else feel like your automatically seen as less than for being a long-term renter in Perth?

I have lived here all my life and I honestly feel like just moving abroad and starting my life in a city where renting is the norm lol, that's how bad the culture feels to me.

30yo female. Questioning if i am undiagnosed AuDHD. Growing up, my father went mute on us from the ages of 13-25 and my therapist definitely thinks there is a similar diagnosis there that i am now pondering if its been passed down to me lol.

Basically, this was the scenario:

*Husband of 7+ years comes home after a long stressful shift* *We hug and talk briefly.*

Me: "would you like your bedtime tea?"

Husband: *doesnt respond. Goes out to get stuff from his car then comes back in.*:

Me: "so did you want tea?"

Husband, in a stressed tone: "Geez, can I just have a moment to gather myself and de-clutter? You know ive been out ALL day."

Me: *goes non verbal and presses my face into the wall, pretending to dissapear from accidentally upsetting/overwhelming him*

Husband: *proceeds to start yelling at my for being childish, not understanding him, and for "trying to make him feel guilty".

/cut scene

Mind you, we have bedtime tea every night around 930pm, and he came home at 10pm so i was a little eager to get back into routine and its not a strange thing for me to ask. I do feel like i come across as childish, but t thats literally me when im at my most comfortabke with somebody and i wish i knew how to change it...

I did tell him i wasnt upset and me facing the wall wasnt me trying to sulk or make him feel bad. I was literally facing the wall, quietly smiling at myself for not noticing that i migjt have been overbearing. In my mind i thought it was jjst a playful thing i was doing, and at the same time i was physically giving him the space he needed from me. Our kitchen is small and he was blocking the only exit... so i literally had nowhere else to go lol.

We are now not talking for the remainder of the night.

The sucky thing is we had a fight similair to this only a couple of months ago and i thought we were in a better place.

Idk i just feel stupid but also unlovable. Any advice appreciated xx