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Hi there, mods please delete if not allowed.
So I’m an able bodied man who has recently started dating a man with arthrogryposis. We haven’t discussed it much but he is a double amputee with limited function in his hands, but says that his genitalia still works. We discussed sex and he wants me to take his virginity, but I have done research and can find nothing on best positions for his safety and comfort. I don’t want to bombard him with questions and overwhelm him about this, and while I know that each individual has a different experience, I was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to proceed with this?

So I was seeing a cis man for about two months and today things went horribly wrong. We weren’t exclusive and were both on Grindr, and with his permission I checked his Grindr DMs to see what kind of people were attracted to him. In one message I saw a photo of myself and when asked who it was he said “some woman I’ve been fucking while her husband is away”. So, he shared my nudes without consent, and then used my body as a stand in for an imaginary woman he was having an imaginary affair with. Obviously I cut things off with him and blocked him but Christ. Wtf is wrong with people, this is fucked up on so many levels.