I don't even want to attend my own wedding anymore.
So at first my Fiance and I were talking about it and it seemed we were on the same page; cute theme, small gathering and of course no kids.
Then his family didn't want to pay for a wedding planner, they were initially just like 'tell us a number' but they didn't want to pay for a wedding planner. It was already going to be a less expensive wedding because of the size and our personal tastes, I am making my own dress, I intend to do my own hair, nails and makeup. (I know no where I could afford that would do a good job on these things so I'll do them myself.) Well we couldn't get any of the venues we initially were interested in, no one was calling my fiance back and he's having to do all the planning because his job is more flexible during the day.
Well then his Aunt was like let me help you plan it and ofc we were like okay, because nothing seemed like it was working for just us. With her direction we thought we had a venue, food and guest list finalized. Well then his Step-mom heard we weren't inviting kids and she starts in on how that's inappropriate and wrong and that we basically have to invite them. She also took issue with the food we'd chosen and our gently suggested dress code on the invitation to help people avoid the same color as my untraditional wedding dress because I'd prefer if no one else matches my damn wedding dress. So now the guest list is exploding, including children we absolutely didn't want there in the first place, a bunch of his family who I honestly don't even know and he barely knows, our cute small venue won't fit all these people and we have to find somewhere else to host it, and different food and honestly at this point I don't even want to attend it!!!!
Figured I'd post this here because I knew people here would understand moreso the desire to not have kids at our wedding which truthfully kinda snowballed everything else being ruined.