u/SplitSun3

I find it Frustrating when I see people giving unsolicited opinions and advice to brides who are asking for specific feedback. Like how is it helpful to say that your dress isn't modest enough to a bride who simply asked if a style is flattering? Or how is it helpful to say something like "that will look dated in 10 years" if that's not the kind of feedback that someone is looking for? Maybe a bride is ok with not being modest or likes a trendy look and doesn't care that in 10 years her photos look like she was married 10 years ago?

Edited to add: for context, I actually prefer a level of modesty for myself and would prefer a timeless look. But I just feel the judgement of the people who chime in on these things where their opinions aren't relevant to the feedback requested.

Ok, so I have just begun the search for the perfect dress. I'm a large busted girly, and the rest of my body isn't proportionate to my bust size. Like multiple dress sizes different.

The more I look at these designers for inspiration I am realizing that the full look of some of these dresses consist of multiple pieces that you have to purchase separately (corset, sleeves, add modesty panels, etc). And then it dawned on me. Maybe I need to purchase separates? That might reduce the amount of alterations I need and open more style options.

Those of you in my same boat/similar body style. What did you do? If you chose separates do you think it reduced the amount of alterations? If you didn't do separates were your options limited based on the alterations needed? What style did you find that supported the large ta-tas, maintained some modesty, and made you feel like the beautiful bride you are?!

I'd love to see your wedding dress pics for inspiration, and to keep me from spinning ❤️ (Photo for my own inspo, but I'd love to see other ideas)

No judgement if you didn't go modest, that's just my personal preference.

I plan to invite my MOH and Bridesmaids to brunch to officially ask them to be part of our wedding. I think most of them invited assume they will be asked. There is only one who I am unsure if she will say yes, for multiple reasons, none of which are personal. Finances would be probably her biggest reason, but among others. I don't feel like I could offer to pay her expenses and not offer it to everyone (which I cannot afford). I already plan to choose a dress color, fabric, and length and let everyone choose their own dresses from there. I won't have a requirement for professional hair and makeup. So I'm trying to minimize the cost for my girls.

I don't want her to feel put on the spot in front of the others, but also don't want to exclude her from the occasion. What would you do? Have a private conversation first? Scrap the idea of a group and ask everyone individually? Stick with the group plan? Other suggestions?

Ultimately I know, only I know my friend. But I'm just looking for advice on what other people have done or might do in this situation.