u/Spoopyprincess97

This guy (28M) and I (29F) have been talking for about 4 months and we hang out pretty frequently. He’s not the best at expressing his emotions and says he has a hard time with attachments. One day we were hanging out and we were drinking, he ended up getting more drunk than me. While we were kissing, he stops, takes my face in his hands, looks me in the eyes and says “I love you.” This caught me off guard so I asked him to say it again, and he does but this time with my name. So for sure I know he’s talking to me, but since I know he is not the best at expressing his emotions, this is pretty big to me. I have heard the phrase, “A drunk man’s words are a man’s sober thoughts,”so I don’t know how to address the situation. When he sobered up, he says he doesn’t remember anything and he asked me to tell him what happened and I did, minus the whole “I love you” part. I also know that I probably messed up by not telling him initially, but this was a pretty surprising. I don’t know how he would react if I told him what he said. But also I don’t know if he actually means it, since you know being drunk and all.

Hi this is my first Reddit post ever and I have no idea what I am doing! Anyways I am a 29 year old female and the guy I’m talking to is 28 year old male. So a bit of a backstory, a few years ago my friend tried to match me up with one of her friends because she thought our personalities go well together, so I gave her permission to give him my number. We talked for a little bit to get to know each other but the conversation dried up (mostly both of us forgetting to respond to each other). Fast forward a few month ago on St. Patrick’s day, that same friend and I went out for drinks and she then got invited to go to a bar later that night and asked if I wanted to come. I said why not and went to the bar with her. Once I got there she found out that the guy she was setting me up with all those years ago was gonna be there too (keep in mind the guy and I have never met up until that night). I got nervous and tried to fix my appearance ( I had a graphic t-shirt of Gir as my green for the day). So he gets there and we formally introduced each other after all this time and just started talking to each other. Night went well, we bought each other drinks, bought drinks for my friends, all the alcohol. The night comes to an end and it was just me, my friend, and let’s call him Heath. The 3 of us walked around town roughly till 1 am, all of us still talking to each other. By 2:30am my friend leaves and it’s just me and Heath. We still continue to talk up until 4 am and even made out a little and it was just a good night. A few days go by and one of us reached out to the other to hang out and I guess have our first date. Since then we have been on a date every week since St. Patrick’s day, we went to watch movies, goes to Barnes and Nobles, we even had a book date where we just read for hours! So here’s where my confusion sets, we go on all these dates, we’ve made out a few time, and do all these things together… but we aren’t together. We talked about how both of us are terrible at relationships and that I get attached easily while he doesn’t and all of that. But why still go out of your way to do all these things with me and not want anything out of it. Also, at first he was all touchy with me and I enjoyed it but now it doesn’t feel the same. What should I do? I mean I think I like him? I like being around him and hanging out with him, but I could also just be delusional