u/Spring4Eva

I always park my car carefully as I cannot afford a ticket or get my car towed away.

I had a meeting this morning. I parked carefully making sure I didn’t block the gate where a resident had her car. A couple of weeks ago I parked in the same spot, no issues whatsoever.

When I got back after the meeting, as I started my car, a lady older than me came to my window telling me that she did not have space to move her car. I told her I was careful not to block. Then, she told me that I should have parked the car behind the telephone/electricity pole. She told me that she has called the council ranger and I will get a ticket. I apologised and left with my tail in-between my legs! 🫣

When I got home, I felt like an idiot and that lady made me feel so stupid. There is no rule that I had to park behind the pole. There is ample space to park before her gate. I also notice that no one ever parks in that space. I think, no one parks there because they must have been cautioned by her.

I was caught off guard and did not speak up.

I just saw the post of a frog found in a salad bag. I’m seriously not surprised. I used to add the salads to stir-fries straight from bags.

One day, I looked at the packet of salad and it looked dull. I thought maybe it needs a rinse and I was shocked to see a strand of hair, sand, some residue of something like black sand and the water was murky.

Since then I have rinsed my salads before cooking. I cannot even imagine cooking these veggies with remnants of the garden in my gut 🤢.

Rinse with some salt and if it’s murky, rinse again.

UPDATE: He sent me a message this arvo with his picture sitting with some guys and a man who looked Amish. They did not look like they were Aussies. So, I texted him and asked him about his colleagues. He was taken aback and told me he doesn’t know who they are and he came alone to the Seminar.

Then I asked him whether he was catfishing me. I told him that I began to get suspicious when he didn’t have a phone. He claimed before that he was Swedish, and has a strong accent, but he wrote very well. I told him that if he’s trying to rope me in to whatever he was going to do, I basically told him that I was catfished before. A woman had used a man’s photo and tried to trick me. As I began to get suspicious, I rang the number ‘the man’ had given me, and a woman picked up and laughed and told me that there is no such person living there. I knew I was catfished by her and gave her an earful and reported her on the scam site.

So, I told this guy not to hurt me and just tell me the truth. If he is honest, to meet me tomorrow. Then, he started to remove his picture on chat, then stops me from writing further messages to him. Then I knew he was not who he said he was. I deleted the whole app. Phew!!!!

I have to add, on both occasions, the scammers never asked for money or my details. So, why do they do this?

For those who kept writing that it was wrong for me to ask him to find someone younger so that he could have children. I said that because I’m older, and had my children who are adults now. He could find someone younger(as he had lost a child with his ex). Many men have married younger women, had children with them. I don’t think there is anything wrong. We become so judgemental because we see only what we think life should be. My opinion on this is each to their own. I shared my opinion honestly and I was scrutinised for that.

Anyway, I have to more careful on a dating site.

Thanks for reading and your advice.

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I (F65) met a lovely man (M58) on a dating app. We communicate through a chat app. He claims he dropped his phone in water and he is currently using his iPad. My mind went 🚩. He is a professional, educated and works for himself (he claims). We live about 4 hours apart.

He informs me that he is interested in me and will remove himself from the app since he is a one-woman man. He doesn’t have children, had a relationship but his ex cheated on him. We are also the same horoscope sign. My father and I were the same sign and never saw eye-to-eye. Am I reading too much into it? We have chatted for about a week. I find his replies to my chat as evasive, guarded and always agreeable. Am I being overly judgemental?

I asked him whether he wants children. It took him a while to answer that and he said “it would be good to have stability in life” 🚩if he wanted to be with me, I can’t give him children? Is he thinking I’m the ‘side hustle’, ‘side order’, ‘the rehearsal before the finale’ 🙄. When I ask him what he’s looking for? He says to take it slow, understand each other, meet and make arrangements how we will meet. 🚩seems evasive and discreet, basically not telling how he really feels. Imagine dating a man where you are constantly wondering ‘what is he saying’. I dislike ‘beating round the bush’.

I guess, I have experienced life btdt sort of thing. What if he is nice? It bugs me that he doesn’t have a phone. According to him, he is doing a good job, lives in a rental (house).

When one has that gut feeling something isn’t right, I’ve been told to follow it.

What do my sisters here think?

(Please be kind in your reply, thanks)