r/over60

Do any of you listen to your old records? I have several hundred albums ( mostly what is considered Classic Rock) from many years ago. I long ago got rid of my turntable, receiver, speakers etc… so have not played them in years. However now as I head into retirement thinking about investing in new system to listen to and possibly start collecting records again.

I read that security security is dependent on the taxes of the next generation and their jobs working in corporate.

But with jobs seemingly disappearing on us, curious if there is a concern you have here as well

So I run a silly YouTube channel centered around DieCast cars so obviously the subscribers are 97% male..

Yesterday a kid came into chat and after realising he was in a safe place (we keep it very welcoming) he said he really likes a girl but was too shy to ask her out..

Now I remember being 16 and having that same crippling fear of rejection.. I immediately went live on the microphone (it had been text only until now) and gave the poor kid a lecture about how many opportunities I'd missed at his age and that the girl is just as nervous as he is, but thing that got to him was pointing out he was dangerously close to the friend zone, danger danger!

Then an anecdote from a school reunion when I told a girl I'd had a crush on her at school and she said she'd had one on me so I should have acted upon it.. (nooo!)

Anyway, today the kid popped up in the forum attached to the channel and said he'd asked her out, she said yes! And he's happier than a happy thing on happy day..

So if you need relationship advise the address is... ;)

Bragging post here. My wife, who comes from a family of absolutely NO college graduates, let alone attendees, is going to college!! I am SOOO proud of her! She's on campus today, meeting with advisors, and i am just over the moon excited for her. Congratulations, u/wild-n-unstoppable!!!

Addendum... sorry, MODS. I'm sure this one caused a ton of reports from folks who didn't read the whole post. Thank you for letting this one past the AutoBots. 😀

I’m not to far from 60. I know I’m not likely going to die anytime soon. I feel though that I am approaching a point where the decisions I make about HOW I live the next several years will be my ‘final answer’ as in… If I choose to do A,B,C… I’m stuck with those for the rest of my life versus D,E,F… which are different plans, but would also be just as permanent. Did you have a feeling like this? I PRESUME most of you built a life and that sticking with your plans through this period was just natural. I’d love to read your thoughts. Thank you!

I've always been a short sleeper. Normal about four and a half hours no alarm clock. Last night I got a tired around 8:00 p.m. so I went to bed and I'm up by 2:00 a.m.. I'm sitting here watching Alton Brown and made me think of something. I'm going to do a quick trip to the grocery store today about 8:00 a.m.. that means I slept 6 hours last night which was actually a very good night. But before I actually go and do something productive for the day means I'll have already been up for 6 hours. Just got me thinking. Have a great day. Disclaimer this was a voice text.

My middle daughter and SIL have little contact with me or his parents. When we talk it seems fine but I am always the one who reaches out! For the 3 years my husband/her dad was sick she never called once to check on him. He passed and she’s never called to check on me. My question is how do I handle the relationship? When we’re together it’s good but the long spans of time in between are confusing and painful! I call….she doesn’t call back. I text… she doesn’t text back. My other 2 children I talk to everyday or every other day. If she doesn’t want to have a relationship then just cut the ties! How have others handled inheritance? It feels like manipulation! I also think she Wiccan. Any suggestions would be helpful!

I’m 77, and over the past year I’ve gone from “AI sounds scary” to “AI is basically my unpaid intern.” I use it to organise ideas, learn new skills, fix instructions, plan projects, and turn half‑formed thoughts into something I can actually build.

But here’s what I’ve noticed:
A LOT of people talk about AI… and almost nobody seems to actually use it.

So I’m genuinely curious:

• Are you using AI every day?
• Did you try it once and never touch it again?
• Do you only use it for silly stuff?
• Has it genuinely helped you, or do you think it’s overhyped?
• Or are you quietly avoiding it because you don’t want to admit you’re confused by it?

I want real answers — who here is actually using AI, and what for?

61M here. Thinking of retiring in the next 2 to 4 years. Just wondering if there were any mistakes/regrets that you wish you had taken into account in hindsight about retirement. Honestly, I’m not interested about the financial aspects- as I am very well prepared for that, but all the other issues that are involved in a well planned retirement. I am trying to add hobbies and interests in preparation, but I can’t help feeling like I may be missing something.

Note: this isn’t a question about nutritional advice. Strictly looking for intake number, if you keep track

Sedentary meaning average 5000 steps or less per day in this definition. I didn’t understand why I wasn’t able to manage my weight but apparently I was eating too much, using my calorie intake calculation from just two years ago. So for the WOMEN who know how many calories they intake, please share? My current apparently has to be a little less than 1200. I am at the overweight/obese 1 line myself and would like to continue losing.

I'm pretty healthy and work full-time. Just getting old yo.

So what is the current take on claiming Social Security? Take it early, take it on time, wait until you get the max?

I know what I can get if I take it today. I know what I can get if I wait until wait until I wait until I turn 67. I know what I can get if I wait until I'm 70. I know that the break even point no matter how you choose is around 80.

Not sure I can make it to 80, so should I take the money now? If I'm wrong and live past 80 would I have better off taking the money now?

I had several stints over the years selling cars. I wasn't great at it, but I was pretty good. Made more money for my employers than I cost them.

What I enjoyed most was the comradery amongst my fellow salesman. Sure we'd cut another's throat to get in on a deal, but when things were slow we'd just hang out and talk about this, that, and any other thing.

She is going on 90 and figures she only has two years left tops. But she’s doing everything in her power medically to stay alive, meaning doing everything a doctor tells her to do, to the point of excessive and unrealistic and unnecessary treatments. She asked me how to end it.

So all this has left me wondering, how many of us are afraid to die? I don’t think I am but I’m not sickly and I’m 22 years younger than she is. I do not plan to use any medical intervention to prolong my life beyond the thing that’s supposed to kill me to begin with

She’s not setting a very good example, in other words, because I basically still follow her lead even though I’m old. But I never was afraid to die as an old person. But maybe I’m not old enough yet?

I hope I don’t bum people out with this. And it’s very embarrassing to admit.

Please bear with me. It’s a giant plea for help and a bit of a vent.

I’m a New Yorker. I’m now 62, and have a family of four. I’ve been out of work for 1.5 years, after a 45 year career in creative development and climbing the ladder to chief creative officer the company closed down. I’ve only had 3 interviews since then, look young, and each said I’m too old, or my salary would be to high-I’m looking at jobs for $16 and up-I don’t think that’s too high. I looked in education and becoming a paraprofessional in public and private schools but they’re done hiring for this year. I’ve read teachers in public schools need a teachers degree or certificate. I’m willing to take anything at any salary. Unfortunately I hurt my back last year so no stocking shelves or lifting, and I’m not a techie, but anything else I’m good to go.

If I start my social security I’ll get almost $1700/mo, which they say is too much for certain benefits . I’ve contacted temp agencies, seniors programs for help.

I live with my family-wife 62 (disabled since birth), adult son-severely disabled since birth(28), and daughter (25 with mental health issues). My daughter graduated with merit in law(LLM) last year but can’t find a job and like so many businesses, it’s not what you know but who you know. Anyone know any high ups at law firms? And I nor my wife know anyone in law. Like me, my daughter’s looking for any job. We looked into pet sitting but the shelter won’t allow anyone out over night.

The (SSA BENEFITS?) calculate by a system called “in-kind” meaning each adult in the family pays their share so eg-SSI is split 4 ways. 994+supplement for ny of 87 =1081/mo ($270.25/ person). Not enough for a 2/3 bedroom plus utilities. Fewer landlords are not including utilities so that’s an added expense. I’ve looked at sublet’s, lease takeover but no money no job, no apartment.

I even reached out to a colleague in Buffalo who’s retired from the post office. His kids-ages with mine- aren’t able to secure jobs either. And people in Ontario (can work there) and it’s the same thing. No extended family left so it’s just us.

My wife is on a lot of medication (1=$3600/mo with insurance) but she’s going off them slowly because we don’t have insurance or Medicaid-I’m against her doing that because some of them are life saving. My wife and son have applied for Medicaid, SSI and been denied (when we ask why we get no answer), and we applied for Dependent Adult Child (DAC) for my son, but I was told for DAC either I have to be on SSDI or dead.

I’ve contacted all of my network but most are retired or don’t know any companies hiring.

All our worldly possessions are gone. No home no car no savings and no investments.

We’ve been in a family shelter for a month-all of us having to sleep in one small room with two beds. My son doesn’t understand what’s going on and why, and he’s is having major meltdowns multiple times a day, and they refused to allow his emotional support animal in (who help calm him), even though we had a drs letter. He’s very loud and we’re exceedingly afraid the shelters either going to ask us to leave or call the police.
I’ve been looking into training programs, help from the aging programs with no luck. Part of the problem is they won’t accept our adult.
If you read my whole vent thanks, and if you know anyone.
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I’m 64, and over the past year I’ve learned to use AI as a practical tool for my projects.

I don’t ask it to think for me or blindly accept what it produces. I use it to organize ideas, research unfamiliar subjects, improve instructions, plan projects, and help turn what I’m picturing into something I can actually build.

I’m curious how many other people here use AI. What do you use it for, and has it genuinely helped you—or have you decided it isn’t for you?

In the past few months I've had to actively be there with support and advice for both my adult children in their 30's in ways I never anticipated.

First, at the beginning of the summer, my adult son who is almost 31, moved out of an apartment that he sort of liked but a building and location he didn't like looking to save money on rent. He changed his usual criteria and ended up in a basement apartment of a large Edwardian era house that has been turned into multiple units. On the surface it looked like a great deal: less rent, an extra bedroom, nice decor, beautiful quiet neighbourhood and a short walk to work. But as with all moves it came with its growing pains. He needed to install a window AC unit, he had an incident with ants, he needed to get a dehumidifier etc etc.

And he basically freaked out. I was getting call after call from him (which is not normal for him) worried that he'd made a huge mistake, upset that he'd spent money to move and now he wasn't saving as much as he thought he would, his anxiety triggered some chronic health issues he has and at one point I found myself bringing him bedding because he got behind on his laundry and his dryer wasn't working and he was sleeping in sleeping bag. We spent some time together having a long discussion and I feel like he's turned a corner now and feels better where he is at. But my goodness that was something.

And then my adult daughter started in with her issues. She is soon to be 35. She was working on the other side of the country for three years, felt there were no opportunities for her to grow in that role and the town she was in was too small, too isolated and she felt too out of place. So she applied and got a job in Europe. Its a one year contract so far, the pay is not great (it's Europe, pay structures are different), but the role is in a large city which she very much likes and it's a way to have a bit of an adventure.

But this past couple of weeks has been so hard for her. The paperwork (work visa) is delayed which is frustrating. She can't leave without it. Her job starts in two weeks. She's had to move her departure flight. Then she caught a horrible cold/flu and has been miserable; it's knocked her off her feet. She started menstruating this week and is experiencing the worst cramps/pain. She has some sort of immune issue which triggers random hives and she's been taking ibuprofen, decongestants and now antihistamines. She's lying around blowing her nose and wearing a heating pad while all the packing she should be doing is piling up.

Last night she had a complete and utter emotional breakdown. She was sobbing, unsure if she was doing the right thing going to Europe for a job, afraid she'll be lonely, thinking she should be making more money and is not living up to her potential and education. It was a half hour of literal shaking and sobbing. The best I could do was tell her it's ok to feel nervous, that she's had a rough couple of weeks and that if anything changes and she doesn't like what she's signed up for that I would always be there for her. We went over all the moves she's made in the past few years and how they were hard but she persevered. And I hope I was able to comfort her through that.

The irony is that I myself am an anxious person full of self-doubt. And it makes me wonder if I passed that on to them unwittingly. Parenting adults is HARD.