u/Square-Round-4718

i’m 16 and I play currently in the thirds at my club. My stick skills are good, my tackling is good, my dribbling is good. The only thing holding me back is I just can’t seem to pass with much force whether it’s a push a slap or a hit. for context, I normally play as left back, right back or sometimes in the midfield so distribution is quite important and I really want to move up a team and my passing is what’s holding me back. Does anyone have any tips? For example drills I should practice or stuff I should be doing in the gym? thank you.🙏

A few days ago, my friend and I (both 16) were on holiday in Greece, and I can’t stop thinking about what happened.
We went out clubbing after having dinner, so we hadn’t been drinking on an empty stomach. Over the course of the night we each had two cocktails, two shots, and later accepted a free drink from strangers. Earlier in the evening we’d also accepted cigarettes from people we’d met. We now realise that was a terrible idea, but at the time we just didn’t think about it.
At the first bar we remember everything normally. We have photos and videos from around 11 p.m. and can remember dancing, talking to people, and generally having a good time.
There were two different guys who kept trying to kiss us. I repeatedly pushed one away, told him I was gay, and told him to stop. My friend kept telling another guy to stop too. They had their hands in our underwear and were much stronger than us. They said they were 29. They also kept asking us to go home with them and we both repeatedly said no.
We eventually left that bar. While we were walking, a man approached us and told us there were free drinks at another bar. He didn’t look like he worked there, but because we were already drunk we followed him.
When we got there, another person who also didn’t appear to work there handed us both orange drinks. We drank them.
After that, everything goes blank.
The next thing either of us has is a video on my phone from about 1:30 a.m. of my friend making out with one of the guys from earlier while I’m filming and talking into the camera. Neither of us remembers taking the video or being there at all.
The next thing we vaguely remember is being in a town square. We suddenly realised we didn’t have our phones. We have no idea how long had passed or what we’d been doing in between.
Two British women came over because they could see we were in a bad state. They helped us look for our phones, and we eventually found them in a completely different bar that neither of us remembers going into. We have no idea how they ended up there because both phones had been inside separate compartments of my bag.
My friend came away with lots of hickeys, a scraped nose and a bruise from walking into something. I didn’t have any injuries only marks on my boobs. Other than that, neither of us had obvious signs that anything else had happened.
The thing that’s really getting to me now is that I keep having flashbacks to the guy kissing me after I told him to stop. Every time I think about it I feel physically sick. I don’t know if it’s because of what actually happened or because my brain is trying to fill in the gap in my memory.
I also can’t stop blaming myself. Before that night, if you’d asked me whether I’d ever accept a free drink from a stranger, I would’ve said absolutely not. Same with taking cigarettes from people I didn’t know. But I did, and I genuinely don’t understand why. I keep thinking that if we’d just said no to those things, none of this would’ve happened.
I know nobody on Reddit can tell me whether we were just extremely drunk, whether the cigarettes contained something, whether the drinks were tampered with, or whether it was just a combination of everything. I also know that I may never know what happened during the missing time.
I think that’s the hardest part. I don’t know how to process something when there are so many unanswered questions.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? How did you deal with the uncertainty and stop replaying the night over and over? Did therapy help? I’m finding it really hard to just move on.

yayayayayyaya it’s just one person but stillllll

ok i’m 16 and in summer my style is like jorts and a tank top and lots of jewellery i don’t love dresses/little shorts but i do wear them occasionally. in winter i live in baggy jeans a long sleeve/blouse kinda top and my carharrt jacket and high top black airforces. im only out to my super close friends but im not opposed to being out to other people i just think the assumption of anyone being straight when they’ve never actually confirmed it is stupid so i kinda wanna just ‘come out’ one day by proudly having a gf idk if that sounds silly tho 😭 anyway without changing my style, does anyone have any ideas how can i hint more? thanks 💗💗💗

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I’ve been on sertraline since i was 14 and am now sixteen, and during that time gone from very much average size no slightly above, not overweight just holding more fat than others despite eating the same amount. of course there are genetic factors and people grow at different rates but could this be caused by the sertraline? (150mg, 16F)

i’m 16 and i’ve been on sertraline for a year and a half for severe depression on my current dose, 150mg, for 6 months. it has definitely helped pull me out of a really dark hole and i’m definitely nervous to come off it but i think im ready. i will of course come off slowly with my doctors guidance but was wondering if anyone has any tips? thank you 🙏