u/SquashRemote66

Accidentally deleted so repost

So I had a thing for this guy for almost a year but he was in a relationship so I left him alone because he was too friendly. Around 9 months of knowing him, he breaks up with her. It's now been a year since we met and we became friends again. Fast forward, we got intimate and turns out he just viewed me as a temptation he failed, and described me as an academic challenge a month after the situation when I finally brought it up (we went everyday speaking without that). He was also getting closer to a girl before/during that and then after we spoke. Considering this was my first time getting intimate, it pretty much destroyed me and then later on the good friendship we had. My best friend had to comfort me and even 3-4 months (so now) later, I was still hurting. Backstory done.

I find out that the same best friend of 3 years was on facetime with him. She was telling people that she didn't like him, she doesn't know why I was still being civil for our group dynamic and then I find out through a friend (who was also on call) randomly mentioning it in passing and then later on, the other girl (who is also meant to be my friend) posted a SS of the call where everyone was laughing.

It took a lot for me to open up to my friend and now to see her going behind my back, with clearly no intention of letting me know, getting closer and closer to the same guy who made me cry my eyes out is weird to me. AITA if I no longer want to be friends because I feel like that trust is gone and I'm an afterthought.

So I had a thing for this guy for almost a year but he was in a relationship so I left him alone because he was too friendly. Around 9 months of knowing him, he breaks up with her. It's now been a year since we met and we became friends again. Fast forward, we got intimate and turns out he just viewed me as a temptation he failed, and described me as an academic challenge a month after the situation when I finally brought it up (we went everyday speaking without that). He was also getting closer to a girl before/during that and then after we spoke. Considering this was my first time getting intimate, it pretty much destroyed me and then later on the good friendship we had. My best friend had to comfort me and even 3-4 months (so now) later, I was still hurting. Backstory done.

I find out that the same best friend of 3 years was on facetime with him. She was telling people that she didn't like him, she doesn't know why I was still being civil for our group dynamic and then I find out through a friend (who was also on call) randomly mentioning it in passing and then later on, the other girl (who is also meant to be my friend) posted a SS of the call where everyone was laughing.

It took a lot for me to open up to my friend and now to see her going behind my back, with clearly no intention of letting me know, getting closer and closer to the same guy who made me cry my eyes out is weird to me. AITA if I no longer want to be friends because I feel like that trust is gone and I'm an afterthought.

So I had a thing for this guy for almost a year but he was in a relationship so I left him alone because he was too friendly. Around 9 months of knowing him, he breaks up with her. It's now been a year since we met and we became friends again. Fast forward, we got intimate and turns out he just viewed me as a temptation he failed, and described me as an academic challenge a month after the situation when I finally brought it up (we went everyday speaking without that). He was also getting closer to a girl before/during that and then after we spoke. Considering this was my first time getting intimate, it pretty much destroyed me and then later on the good friendship we had. My best friend had to comfort me and even 3-4 months (so now) later, I was still hurting. Backstory done.

I find out that the same best friend of 3 years was on facetime with him. She was telling people that she didn't like him, she doesn't know why I was still being civil for our group dynamic and then I find out through a friend (who was also on call) randomly mentioning it in passing and then later on, the other girl (who is also meant to be my friend) posted a SS of the call where everyone was laughing.

It took a lot for me to open up to my friend and now to see her going behind my back, with clearly no intention of letting me know, getting closer and closer to the same guy who made me cry my eyes out is weird to me.

I don't know how I should go about handling this. I want to just drop her because coming to explain this feels like a situation where common sense should be had but that doesn't seem like the case and if my feelings are hurt, I disappear.

So I had a thing for this guy for almost a year but he was in a relationship so I left him alone because he was too friendly. Around 9 months of knowing him, he breaks up with her. It's now been a year since we met and we became friends again. Fast forward, we got intimate and turns out he just viewed me as a temptation he failed, and described me as an academic challenge a month after the situation when I finally brought it up (we went everyday speaking without that). He was also getting closer to a girl before/during that and then after we spoke. Considering this was my first time getting intimate, it pretty much destroyed me and then later on the good friendship we had. My best friend had to comfort me and even 3-4 months (so now) later, I was still hurting. Backstory done.

I find out that the same best friend of 3 years was on facetime with him. She was telling people that she didn't like him, she doesn't know why I was still being civil for our group dynamic and then I find out through a friend (who was also on call) randomly mentioning it in passing and then later on, the other girl (who is also meant to be my friend) posted a SS of the call where everyone was laughing.

It took a lot for me to open up to my friend and now to see her going behind my back, with clearly no intention of letting me know, getting closer and closer to the same guy who made me cry my eyes out is weird to me. AITA if I no longer want to be friends because I feel like that trust is gone and I'm an afterthought.