How to deny giving a lift (generally doing favors) to my sister

So, basically my relationship with my sister has always been quite toxic. I've always been a people-pleaser and generally have had trouble saying "no" without an explanation (like a technical excuse why I'm not able to do the favor). My sister, on the other hand, has always been manipulative, lazy and basically trying to outsource everyone around her to be able to do the bare minimum and get away with it. She's also been quite aggressive in her manipulations, reaching even for emotional blackmail etc. She's almost 30, doesn't study and doesn't have a job. Our family sees the problem, but generally my parents try to keep up appearance of a well-adjusted family, so we don't really talk about it. My sister may suspect what I think of her, but I've never told her that straight to her face and she seems to profit off of the fact that we pretend everything is ok.

She has recently found herself a new boyfriend who happens to live in the same direction which I frequently drive on the weekends. She generally avoids public transport - my guess is that it's just easier for her to say that she's scared of public transport and have somebody else drive her, than actually use public transport and pay for it herself.

So she started asking me to give her a lift to about half-way to where her boyfriend lives and then her boyfriend will pick her up from there. The clue is, due to the dynamic of our relationship, I usually tend to avoid her if I can (except family gatherings etc.) and I am definetly not seeing myself taking her with me every other weekend after a work week. How do I deny giving her a lift, when <theoretically> there are no real excuses (like I don't have to go off my usual course, so it technically costs me no additional mileage etc.).

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u/Ssingleaspringle — 19 hours ago

I M24 feel uncomfortable going with my F28 girlfriend on vacation to the same country, at the same time as my friends, but separately. Is there a way to go about it?

So, basically, my gf wants to go on vacation to Croatia and I also do. We have postponed the reservation for a few months now and in the meantime, my friends came up with a proposition to go on vacation to... Croatia. Also our scheduled PTOs happen to fall in the same weeks as my friends'. We have had previously been with my friends on vacation and let's say, my gf didn't get along well with the rest of the group. So I replied to them, that we prefer to go on longer vacation separately and I didn't provide a reason. Issue is, that my gf still wants to go to Croatia and I actually also do.

But I feel very weird, going to THE SAME PLACE and THE SAME TIME as them, but separately. I guess this rules out the excuse of "oh we just didn't like the destination/time period". I told my gf that I feel uncomfortable with that scenario and first she just stated that there is nothing wrong with going at the same time to the same country, but then she accepted that I feel uncomfortable and we began looking for a different destination. But TBH, other destinations just seem worse and we still both want to go to Croatia.

I feel like my friends would be mad at me or judge me/my relationship if we did that. I just feel uncomfortable with that, but maybe there is a way to look at it which would make me think differently about it and somehow convince me that there is nothing wrong with that. What do you guys think?

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u/Ssingleaspringle — 1 month ago

Some advice on a good-sounding keyboard which is also not too loud?

So I currently have the Womier SK71 keyboard, but I need the full F row so I'm looking for something new.

My must haves are:

  • 75% (full F row)
  • Mac + linux/windows support
  • Hot-swap
  • RGB (it's somewhere between must have and nice to have 😄)
  • Marbly (creamy) sound, but not too loud. My current Womier SK71 is a bit too loud for when my GF sleeps in another room 😄

My nice to haves are:

  • No software needed / VIA support
  • Knob/scroll

Things I completely don't care about are:

  • Weight
  • Battery life

I was almost ready to buy the Lofree Flow Lite84 but it has no RGB and I've seen some bad reviews regarding the keycaps longevity. The actual selection of keyboards nowadays is too much for me to analyze, so I figured I'd ask the experts for their opinion 😄

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u/Ssingleaspringle — 3 months ago