u/Status-Block2323

Because I (F39) feel like my (m34) partner of 4 years is acting strange. Dismissing calls over and over, leaving the house afterwards. Alot if phonecalls. Also before going to work.
Sitting with his phone in the bathroom for an hour.
Staying out hours after work but telling me he wasn’t.

I don’t want to be controlling and so far I’m not diagnosed (I do have bipolar type 2, ADD, anxiety disorder) but I actually feel like ALOT of things does not really make sense.
No proof but alot of weirdness

Help how do I know if I have Othello Syndrome or not?
The list of symtoms confuse me

According to my medical records, I do not appear to fully meet the diagnostic criteria for borderline personality disorder (BPD), but I do have significant personality-related difficulties (or personality pathology).

Excerpt from my medical record:
I believe that the patient’s description of her difficulties and interpersonal relationships demonstrates clear patterns consistent with personality pathology, and that these difficulties cannot be explained solely by bipolar mood fluctuations. This may be one of the reasons why pharmacological treatment strategies have not been fully effective.

I’ve been in a relationship with (and living with) my boyfriend for three years, and for the past two years I’ve been struggling with intense jealousy.
What triggered it was that I felt he became very interested in, and talked a lot about, a woman we both knew. He seemed fascinated by her, and at a party I felt he was being somewhat flirtatious with her.
Ever since then, I’ve felt inadequate and insecure about his loyalty in general.
We’ve argued a lot, and my self-esteem has gradually gotten worse.
I often feel anxious and notice what I interpret as signs that he might be cheating on me (even if it’s only online). He gets phone calls all the time that he immediately declines, and on two occasions he suddenly rushed out of the house looking stressed.
He denies all of my suspicions, and when we talk about it he comes across as sincere (or is that manipulation?). But as soon as he walks out the door, the overthinking comes back, and it’s intense.
I have an anxiety disorder and an insecure attachment style, so I know I’m easily triggered. I have no concrete evidence, but I have a very strong gut feeling.
At the same time, I’m afraid I can’t trust my own judgment. Am I seriously mentally unwell, or is he manipulative?
I honestly don’t know, because I’ve been betrayed before, so I tend to “see patterns,” and I don’t have any actual proof.
He’s very convincing, but I can’t shake the feeling that there’s a toxic side to him.
Please help

https://youtu.be/jJX\_BrzFAZE?is=A3z1BjZ76R3FDkuH

This guy is looking for a mate..

https://youtube.com/shorts/J1rxmRT7YU4?is=TJ5sdf\_ncXaQixmI

A guy had a suprising run in with a wolf when he was waiting for the school bus

I had a dream about a small, exhausted German Shepherd puppy that seemed neglected. It had irritated, inflamed eyes and was lying in a flower bed.
There were snakes crawling over it, as if they were slowly suffocating or killing it. The puppy was either unaware of what was happening or had given up.

What could this mean?

I’m interrested in your opinion aswell as the psychoanalytic or Jungian interpretation

Thanks