u/Stealthy_Nachos

Our newborn is now one month old and is often times very fussy. We believe it might sometimes be because he is hungry, but we are wondering how much is too much feeding.

We are feeding only breastmilk (either directly from the breast or expressed). He tends to feed around 3-4h, with roughly 7 meals a day.

When he was around 2 weeks old he used to eat for around 25minutes from the breast (stopping on his own) or around 80ml from the bottle. Then he started getting more and more fussy, and we saw he kept making hunger signs after a meal (sticking tongue out, sucking noises), especially after bottle.

At 3-4 weeks we ended up already with around 40minutes for breasts and 120ml for the bottle. Now he still seems that often he gets fussy either as soon as we stop feeding or maybe 5-10 minutes later, and often associated with the sucking noises. We did try to weigh him a few times before and after breastfeeding to approximate how much he east at the breast (50-100ml per feeding). But with the bottle, even after 130ml he is sometimes still showing hunger.

Is there "too much"? And why is this only for the bottle? (We are using the smallest teat, the Premature from DR Brown, so he is not eating too fast, otherwise, he was gulping a lot).

Our son is 3 weeks old. During the night he has a hard time falling asleep on his own. During the day we breastfeed and during the night we usually use expressed milk in a bottle so mum can just pump and go back to sleep.

Now, the grandparents (mom's parents) stay with us for a while and help around a lot, which is very welcome. The grandma is also very good at getting him to fall asleep. During the night they also help with the bottle feed and putting him to bed. He usually falls asleep on ours or their chest and then when put in his cosleeper he still needs someone to stay near and pet him or hold his hand for at least 1h or so. Otherwise he gets fussy and wakes up.

Now the question. The grandparents proposed to have him sleep in their room since they do a lot of heavy lifting during the night, so we don't have to wake up that much and they can sit with him when he falls asleep.

1. Are there any research based consequences for h8m being putto sleep in such an involved maner? As in,will he "get used" to this and not go to sleep on his own when he is 6 month oro and maybe moves to his own room?

2. Is there such a thing where we as parents will "loose" our reflex or ability to take care of him during the night? In the same way in which if you don't pump you start making less milk, or in that the mum tends to wake up bery easily when the child is startled. Would that go away?

Morally and emotionally, we feel very comfortable with this arrangement with the grandparents. But I wondered if there are any research backed consequences to those 2 directions.

Our son is 3 weeks old. During the night he has a hard time falling asleep on his own. During the day we breastfeed and during the night we usually use expressed milk in a bottle so mum can just pump and go back to sleep.

Now, the grandparents (mom's parents) stay with us for a while and help around a lot, which is very welcome. The grandma is also very good at getting him to fall asleep. During the night they also help with the bottle feed and putting him to bed. He usually falls asleep on ours or their chest and then when put in his cosleeper he still needs someone to stay near and pet him or hold his hand for at least 1h or so. Otherwise he gets fussy and wakes up.

Now the question. The grandparents proposed to have him sleep in their room since they do a lot of heavy lifting during the night, so we don't have to wake up that much and they can sit with him when he falls asleep.

1. Are there any research based consequences for h8m being putto sleep in such an involved maner? As in,will he "get used" to this and not go to sleep on his own when he is 6 month oro and maybe moves to his own room?

2. Is there such a thing where we as parents will "loose" our reflex or ability to take care of him during the night? In the same way in which if you don't pump you start making less milk, or in that the mum tends to wake up bery easily when the child is startled. Would that go away?

Morally and emotionally, we feel very comfortable with this arrangement with the grandparents. But I wondered if there are any research backed consequences to those 2 directions.

I decided to sell my broomfiets/scooter (an electric La Souris from 2023 with around 5000km). It is in very good shape, works perfectly, and needs nothing replaced. I was wondering where I could try to sell it that is better than FB/marktplaats. I tried there, and it seems to get drowned in ads over there, and at least Marktplaats charges quite a lot of fees for this sort of ad. And without paying for the extra visibility, the ad quickly gets on lower pages. Are there scooter-specific sites? Or maybe something more specific for Eindhoven? Or specific garages that you know would take secon hand scooters and pay a few hundred euros for it?

I asked La Souris and they do not buy them back, only trade them for new ones.

I skimmed a bit through the rules and watched a couple of reviews of the game. I can't say I have a deep handle on everything yet, but I was curious if you would see this working for running a small arc of pre-Strahd Barovia.

We are currently running Curse of Strahd in Daggerheart. I liked a suggestion from DNDramaturgy, where they said that sometimes they would do a different system for a longer flashback. SO I was thinking we might want to try it with a "Conquest of Barovia" arc flashback where players would be knights sent by non-vampire Strahd to tame the lands and prepare them for takeover, or something in this direction. How would that run in this system? Would you set up a few myths and a higher-level goal?

I know the rule of thumb is that when a player take the spotlight they need to end up with one roll. How do you handle the following:

1. Players using or stacking non-roll abilities before doing the action that requires a rol (e.g., mage armor, activating some stuff, feature that gives everyone hope etc)

2. Doing just the non-roll thing and then passing it to another player.

For example, I know how to handle the "slow walk" as you can either still ask for a roll there or take the golden opportunity to fast walk the enemy after them :) but il asking them to roll for doing a roll less feature send harsh. On the other hand it feels like taking a moment to tap all my "special ability buttons" is also not really in line with the fiction.

Hello! My wife and I have tickets for the Edinburgh Live show. However, she is pregnant and her due date is 1 week after the show so we cannot make it.

We have seats in Section 14, Row M, seats 22 and 23. If you are interested in the tickets, please send a message.

Thank you!

Note: the official website we purchased them from has not yet released the actual tickets, so we will be able to transfer them only when that happens

Hello! My wife and I have tickets for the Edinburgh Live show. However, she is pregnant and her ue date is 1 week after the show so we cannot make it.

We have seats in Section 14, Row M, seats 22 and 23. If you are interested in the tickets, please send a message.

Thank you!

Note: the official website we purchased them from has not yet released the actual tickets, so we will be able to transfer them only when that happens

I am seeding my map with random points of interest that the players might stumble upon. I want to givethe game a bit of an open world RPG vibe. These can be anything from small interesting landmarks to mini quests to simply an evocative nme that will be filled in later through player collaboration. I am curious what everyone has in mind.

How would the players stumble into this? Would they hear rumors or just see this in the distance? Is there danger? Is there reward?

Here are some examples to get us started:

The Weeping Stone: A black boulder in a clearing, perpetually wet even in dry weather, as if sweating. Discovery: players camping nearby hear what sounds like a woman crying, but it's the stone itself. Touching it bare-handed transmits a flash of someone else's drowning memory (minor psychic damage or a level of exhaustion). Could be that the stone was used to drown someone. It could lead to the ghost of the woman.

The Last Light: A solitary lit window in an otherwise dead structure, always lit, never approached by locals.

The Duelist: A man from the local nearby village is training to be a duellist and challenges the players to a sword fight.

Richten's Cache 27B3: Van Richten hid caches all over the place to have "just in case" and all havce a different weird puzzly mechanic to open them.

We are running Curse of Strahd and Ireena is joining the party now. I am thinking of giving her a small stat block, since she will be with the party for a majority of times and encounters. The goal here isto give slightly more consistency on when can they expect help from her. I also like abilities in the domains that have roleplay as a cost, so I wanted to lean into that a bit with the option to "bank hope" on Ireena.

What do you think? Are these somewhat balanced features? I have a party of 4, so I was thinking of kleeping her max Hope to 4 so we don't offset teh Hope economy too much. Also, could there be a feature where she gives a hope back somehow? In that way, it would truly be like "banking hope", but that might upsate the hope economy.

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Do you integrate ways for PCs to use Hope to pish the story in a positive direction for them? I mean, beyond the obvious RAW hope uses.

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Some examples:

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PCs ask a friend NPC to go gather information from people in town, as they have no time for this. Spend X HOPE to get theN PC find X rumors/clues.

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PCs ask if "insert something useful here" happens to just be around. Spend some Hope to make it happen. Or maybe make a Fate roll, but be allowed to spend hope to boost it.

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Any other ideas or creative ways you allow or encourage players to use hope to nudge the story in their favor? Especially is periods of time without a lot of actual rolls and skills usage where you would naturally use hope

I am going through the following situation and I need some advice.

Tldr: customer opened a case, Etsy ruled in their favor, refunded them a 600 euro order, they are not returning the product, also my account got suspended upon not enough money being in my balance for the refund. Customer support keeps giving default answers.

A bit more details of what is happening here.

We are selling TTRPG monitor maps: basically a PC monitor wrapped in a fantasy themed wooden case,to be laid flat on the table and display maps during games. We have 2 options: 1. Just case (aprox 350 euros) and 2. Case + monitor (aprox 600 euros).

One cuatomer raises an issue that the monitor included in their purchase does not connect to their PC. I try to debug this over messages, but he eventually sends a not very clear video saying it just doesn't work and wants a refund. The video only shows him plugging it in his PC and the PC supposedly not detecting it. The monitor has power, turns on etc, only he cannot get the PC to display on it.

I offer to either refund the difference (aprox 250) if he sends just the monitor back or full refund if he sends the whole product. He argues delivery is too expensive for him to send it back and opens a case with Etsy.

In just one day, Etsy refunds him the full 600 euros plus delivery costs, even though only the monitor was in question of being broken. No return of the product in sight.

At this point I am missing the case, the monitor that might or might not be working, and 600+ Euros from my payment account.

I explain the issue to customer support, they pass it on to "a specialist" who assures me "proper policies were followed". I ask3d for more details and rhen I receive the same copy paste answer of "policy was followed".

Next day, Etsy account gets suspended for "not enough money in payemnt account to fulfill the refund". I try to use PayPal to balance out the refund, PayPal errors out.

At this point, what can be done about appealing any of this. The customer basically got at least our 350 euro case for free, if we believe the monitor to be broken, or even a free monitor if it is actually working. I got a suspended account. Any sort of advice is appreciated. Thank you!

I am going through the following situation and I need some advice.

Tldr: customer opened a case, Etsy ruled in their favor, refunded them a 600 euro order, they are not returning the product, also my account got suspended upon not enough money being in my balance for the refund. Customer support keeps giving default answers.

A bit more details of what is happening here.

We are selling TTRPG monitor maps: basically a PC monitor wrapped in a fantasy themed wooden case,to be laid flat on the table and display maps during games. We have 2 options: 1. Just case (aprox 350 euros) and 2. Case + monitor (aprox 600 euros).

One cuatomer raises an issue that the monitor included in their purchase does not connect to their PC. I try to debug this over messages, but he eventually sends a not very clear video saying it just doesn't work and wants a refund. The video only shows him plugging it in his PC and the PC supposedly not detecting it. The monitor has power, turns on etc, only he cannot get the PC to display on it.

I offer to either refund the difference (aprox 250) if he sends just the monitor back or full refund if he sends the whole product. He argues delivery is too expensive for him to send it back and opens a case with Etsy.

In just one day, Etsy refunds him the full 600 euros plus delivery costs, even though only the monitor was in question of being broken. No return of the product in sight.

At this point I am missing the case, the monitor that might or might not be working, and 600+ Euros from my payment account.

I explain the issue to customer support, they pass it on to "a specialist" who assures me "proper policies were followed". I ask3d for more details and rhen I receive the same copy paste answer of "policy was followed".

Next day, Etsy account gets suspended for "not enough money in payemnt account to fulfill the refund". I try to use PayPal to balance out the refund, PayPal errors out.

At this point, what can be done about appealing any of this. The customer basically got at least our 350 euro case for free, if we believe the monitor to be broken, or even a free monitor if it is actually working. I got a suspended account. Any sort of advice is appreciated. Thank you!

We have an electric, used (around 5000km) but in very good condition, La Souris scooter for sale and for now we just posted it on Marktplats. Is there a more dedicated place? Like similar to the car websites?

At our table we have a player that enjoys playing fantasy and more chill TTRPGs, and also gets quite attached to characters. They like the ideas of mothership, and were happy to try to play once and just watch us play a second time.

They mentioned they don't like the horror and potential lethality and brutal lethality of it that much,especially if it happens to their character.

(As an example, they also like to just watch us play narrative choice horror games, like The Dark Pictures Anthology, rather than be at the controls)

Are there some ideas of how to involve them in a "semi passive" or "safer" way? Something like playing the ship's AI or some sort of operator guiding the mission from home station, without breaking the fear aspect for the others too much? Any creative ideas welcomed.

How do you go about making items that are more powerful? In other systems, an option is that you balance them through "attunement," having only a certain number of items available at any time.

How would you do powerful or interesting items in DH? How would you add more complex items than what the book suggests? Maybe they can take up a loadout slot?

How could you add items (like the Vestiges in CR) that grow with the players? Maybe through "work on a project" moves?

I am curious to hear any discussion or ideas on the topic of magic items!

So you pissed off Lord Count himself, ruler of these forsaken lands, and now he has decided to wipe your insolent town from the map. He sent wave after wave of undead, throwing themselves at your shabby barricades.

(Comments and suggestions about this hombrew are welcome)

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Hello! We are awaiting a newborn soon. I was wondering if people have reccomandations for where to buy second hand or sustainable baby clothing and newborn clothes?

We already got the big items (stroller, co sleeper, baby monitor etc) so we are specifically looking for clothes/other small items. We would prefer some "normal" clothes, rather than stores aimed at "fashion and brands".

We know of Marktplats , of course :) but I was wondering if there are more dedicated options.

We own White Castle and really enjoy it. Was looking at Daitoshi (as it is on sale here). How would you compare them? Would owning both make sense?