u/Steviescuriosity

Important context:

I have a wonderful (fairly new) girlfriend, we are both lesbians and are fem for fem.

The Vent:

One of my few noticeable symptoms of PCOS is the hair. I'm currently getting lazer for select areas (mostly my face) but its still more than most women across my whole body. My GF does not have PCOS, and her hair is 'normal' I'd say. I wont lie, I'm very insecure about it. I haven't talked to her about it yet, but I fear it'll be seen as too masculine, or unattractive, or something similar. I can't help but compare myself to other women, especially her.

I just wish it didnt bother me so much, and that body hair wasn't seen as such an unattractive not feminine thing in wider society.

Me and this person, we'll call them K, have been friends for 5+ years. We have dated in the past and it turned out poorly, but we were also both in bad spots in life and younger and more immature.

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In the past couple years, we became friends again, and she has quickly become my best friend. But recently K revealed she was jealous of a set of dates I had gone on, and had feelings for me. I had been aware of my own growing feelings for her, but had pushed them aside until then.

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We discussed how we felt, and both agreed we wanted to try. Unfortunately, K has come to the realization she is far more confused about her feelings than she thought.

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I said I would wait, but how long do I wait? How long is fair to both of us? The longer this goes on the more it could ruin our friendship. But it could also be exactly what I want in a relationship if it goes well. I want to give her time to figure it out, but I have needs and wants that I will continue to feel while waiting, and I dont want resentment to build. And I fear if we ignore this it will just keep happening, and we will never get over the "what ifs"

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And on top of that, the set of dates I went on I really really enjoyed. I could see a future with that person, but I ended it to figure things out with K. I'm worried I'll put my life on too much of a hold to figure this out, and miss out on great people/experiences in the meantime. But I also want to give K and I a shot... I just dont know how long is sensible, or if at a certain point its just me clinging to hope?